Will you still have a traditional Hmong wedding for your children?

[good-in-deed]

if the children want to, then they can have a traditional hmong wedding.

[DivineTreasure]

The idea behind a "traditional" Hmong wedding is amazingly important.  The thing about the "modern day" Hmong wedding is that it's been altered big time from the "traditional" Hmong wedding and the important idea behind it is no longer important.  The "modern day" Hmong wedding is all about greed and grudges against one another's clan.  There's way too much " your clan did this to our clan and now we want your clan to fix this and pay for this and that" kind of things.  It's full of anger and argument. 

A wedding should be a time to celebrate the joining of two lives and it should be a happy joyous time.  I still strongly believe in this and I will make sure that my children have this happiness when they start their new lives together with their significant other.    Whether it be a "traditional" Hmong wedding or a modernized Hmong-American wedding. 

[jbutton]

I don't know the average age on PH, but when your children grows up and wants to wed, will you be doing a traditional Hmong wedding for them? 

I say no wedding.. just a happy birthday party.

[beester]

I will not let my kids suffer the same fate as I, but on a different note, if my son marries someone whose family still wants to, then my hands are tied. I will not do that for my daughters though.

[Tajo]

I would like my children to have the following marriage tradition:

1.   Proposal.

2.   Engagement.

3.   Wedding.

 

My childen will also have chinese and burmese wedding as well.

[yubnag]

Yes I would.

[Gutts]

One thing you guys should keep in mind, is that a church (as I call it) wedding usually a lot more expensive than a Hmong wedding.

Consider the price of a bride's head.  Would the husband's family pay for that, in addition to having a church wedding?  One side is totally screwed in that scenario.  Or would the bride's family help pitch in to cover a portion of that cost?

[sweet_luvin]

yes because I'm hmong and no matter how much I want to be americanize, i'm still yellow.

[sprite]

Yes.

[MilesDaddy]

If he wants it he can have it....... BUt we would rather have the traditional church style wedding...

[Pineapple]

Yes, I will most definately have a Hmong wedding.  The American wedding comes second if the fund is eligible for it.

[MilesDaddy]

To me it will be about what they want... But I guarantee that I will be using a rubber chicken

[yamaha]

To me it will be about what they want... But I guarantee that I will be using a rubber chicken

lol rubber chicken will do..haha

[sprite]

Heck no!

Fake bows with fake thumb prints to the ground are dumb and meaningless.

If a groom wants to take my future daughters they gotta do something sincere, not something they "had to" do.

Americanized wedding is even more fake to the Hmong groom. Trust me on this! Mostly everything is coordinated at the demands of the bride. It only has meaning to her and her alone. With a Hmong wedding, even if the groom doesn't understand what's going on the fact that it carries value and importance for his parents becomes very meaningful to him.

This is just how it is for a man in general. 

[Leanne]

My parents already gave me the wedding that I wanted.
So, it is now my turn.. in the future to give my children the wedding that they want, whether it be a Hmong traditional wedding or not.