You got to toughen up and be like our moms and grandmas. They use to go and farm all day plus do all the chores too while pregnant. But it doesnt mean that he should be lazy either though. So what u both should do is come together and have a sit down conversation about what needs to be done. But most importantly respect one and another...for the baby sake....

You got to toughen up and be like our moms and grandmas. They use to go and farm all day plus do all the chores too while pregnant. But it doesnt mean that he should be lazy either though. So what u both should do is come together and have a sit down conversation about what needs to be done. But most importantly respect one and another...for the baby sake....

Sit down with hubby and talk about what needs to be done...because in the end it doesnt matter how much u nagg and how much he bickers the things still need to get finished..

Once again it's all about c-o-m-m-u-n-i-c-a-t-i-o-n.

I don't mean to make you more frustrated yeej_tseeb but husbands who love their wives will bend over backwards to do whatever is necssary to lighten the pregnant wife's load. If he treats you this way now I hate to imagine how he will think of you after you've had the baby/babies and you have stretchmarks (not saying that you will have stretchmarks but more likely than not, your body will change in one way or another.)


Now on the other hand this is also true:

There are women who carry on with their work as usual right up until they are nearly due. Yes, it can be argued that one woman is different from another. But this is just for you to contrast & compare.


I agree, no matter how much either one of you nags & bickers, it doesn't change the fact that work still needs to be done. The dishes aren't going to wash themselves. The floors aren't going to sweep themselves. .... Communicate with each other about it. Don't try to find blame, respect each other & try to find a compromise that will work for both of you. Work on your relationship now because it may only be twice the work with a baby in the picture.

 

I'm going to tell you the TRUTH:

MEN don't apperciate anything until its GONE.  Maybe you should mysteriously disappear for a week.  That will get his blood flowing

We men are very lazy and don't understand or don't try to understand what women are going through. He sounds like a very traditional guy and thinks that because he thinks that his job is to support the family while your job is to cook and clean. You will either have to talk with him and try to make him understand or tough it up and if you have a miscarriage then you can just say I told you so. Maybe get a doctor's note.  You did marry him, so you will have to find a way to work it out.

wadupgee,

Sounds like your man is not worrying about the baby.  Perhaps he does not want the baby.  Perhaps he does not want you.  Whatever you do gee, you do your part to the best of your ability and with your child in mind.  You hold ownership so you get to name your child and leave your hubby out of the picture, that helpless piece of turd. 

I am so sad. My significant other does not see eye to eye with me sometime. I am pregnant and have pains once in a while. He does not understand why I am unable to carry things over 15 lbs. Sometime, I just wish that there could be pregnancy complication for him to know why I try hard to stay safe to keep the baby and I healthy. Does he not understand I cannot carry to much weight or the baby can be aborted? Men do you understand this, I am wondering?

I presently work less hours than him, but when I finish work I always make dinner and wait for him at home. I clean to the best that I can so the cleaning fumes do not make me sick. Sometime I get very tired and my body ache from doing so much that he don't see.

He always tell me that I do not appreciate him because he works full-time and make more money than I do. It makes me terribly sad because he does not see what I do at home for us. There are only the small times when I ask him for help.

Our recent problem was when we got back for food shopping. He was going to make hamburgers and I was putting away things. He asked me to do the left over dishes and I said I would do it once I get done with things. He started to talk about how things need to be fair and I never appreciate him. I told him that I have been doing the dishes all week and cooking and I do not complain. And I said to him that this is the first time in a long time he has ever cooked for me. He got mad and said right away that he works and pays for everything and he makes the most money. That just made me sad. He tells me to not make excuses that I cannot do much because I am pregnant. I just cannot get him to see how much I do at home that he does not see. I feel like I am the one not appreciated.

How would any of you feel if this was you? Is this childish of me or him? Help please?

If I had a pregnant wife, I would do whatever that is in my power to make sure that she and my soon to be infant will have the best/safest environment.  I would do whatever she wants me to do: clean, cook, massage her legs/back, wake up in the middle of the night to get whatever food that she is craving.  I mean she's the one who's carrying this baby.  I wouldn't know all the chemical imbalance, uncomfortablen ess/changes in body that is occurring to her...  Why would I want to stress her out, it's really stressing our baby out as well!  I think he needs to have more respect for you and your wish.  Make him realize or have him walk in your shoes first before he starts complaining about what you have not done for him...  because obviously you are doing him a BIG favor already by carrying this baby for the next couple of months.  Good luck and congrats on the baby!

I can understand all the hard work a housewife does...  My mother went to a trip in Hawaii a couple weeks back.  I didn't realize how hard it is to be a "housewife", well for me a "house-dude".  I practically took over for my mother and I had to do everything she did while she was gone.  I had to wake up early every morning, make rice, cook food for the siblings and nephews that came over to be babysat.  I had to clean, vacuum, wash plates, take out trash (remember which day was the recycling bin/trash/woods).  Yes, I even fed the chickens and watered her garden.  Practically, had to babysit two infants (2 yr old and a 9 month) for 10 hours (M-F).  Feed them, change their diapers.  I was pretty much working 24 hours a day!!!  Man, I was exhausted by the end of the week.  I guess I didn't realize all the hard work my mom does and I appreciate her so much more.  It's times like this that I realize how hardworking housewives are.

As far as your husband...  I think he needs to not BlTCH so much with the complaining.  I think guys who complain like that have some insecurity issues.  I mean he's a grown man and should know how to find food and feed himself.  I've been in his shoes and I've been in my mom's shoes...  Shoot I give any-day to just work a 8-5 job compared to a 24 hr job like she has.  He's being selfish, IMO. 

If I had a pregnant wife, I would do whatever that is in my power to make sure that she and my soon to be infant will have the best/safest environment.  I would do whatever she wants me to do: clean, cook, massage her legs/back, wake up in the middle of the night to get whatever food that she is craving.  I mean she's the one who's carrying this baby.  I wouldn't know all the chemical imbalance, uncomfortablen ess/changes in body that is occurring to her...  Why would I want to stress her out, it's really stressing our baby out as well!  I think he needs to have more respect for you and your wish.  Make him realize or have him walk in your shoes first before he starts complaining about what you have not done for him...  because obviously you are doing him a BIG favor already by carrying this baby for the next couple of months.  Good luck and congrats on the baby!