tsis to taub txiv neej lub siab xav kom tus poj niam coj li cas nws thiaj tsis mus tham dua lwm tus hluas nkauj ne? pab qhias soj! cov txiv neej thiab cov viv ncaus uas ua tau haum tus txiv siab as. please

I'm not in the shoe yet so therefor I can't tell you. Sollie

cas koj yuav teb raug siab ua luaj li nas...? tsi ua cas os vim koj tau lub neej kaj siab lug xwb

Hmm...tsis nkaj siab koj hais lawm os.

Ok, I could be wrong too because I don’t know your, both you and your hubby, personal problems, thus, your hubby does what you mention, but the following things are what I see, as a man, and they're only my personal sentiment.  

Before the steps below, I don’t know you but I assume you’re a good housewife and take good care of your house and your kids.

1. Koj yuav tsum treat koj tug hubby kom zoo npaum le zoo tau, tsi has thaum meb tawm rooj moog ib qho twg los sis yog nyob huv lub vaaj lub tsev xwb.  Koj yuav tsum nug nwg seb nwg nyam le caag ces koj yuav tsum coj hab ua le ntawd ntaag.

2. Thaum meb tawm rooj plawg, koj yuav tsum tu cev hab naav rig tsho kuas zoo es nrug nwg ua ke moog txhua qhov hab ua npaum le kws koj ua tau le ntaag.  Tsi has moog party, moog koom kwv tij neej tsaa kev noj kev haus or etc.

3. Koj yuav tsum taab cuab taab yig ua ib tug nam tsev kom zoo.  Lub vaaj lub tsev, tej taig tej dlav, hab tej qhov cub ua noj ua haus tej yuav tsum tu dlu lug tom qaab kws siv taag lawm.

4. Koj yuav tsum paub tam meb cov qhua, tsi has koj cov neej cov tsaav, koj tug hubby cov kwv cov tij, los yog nwg cov phooj ywg.

5. Koj ua ib yaam dlaab tsi twg kws luj hab tseem ceeb koj yuav tsum nrug koj tub hubby thaag taag tso koj maam le ua los yog maam le has.  This is both public and private issues.

6. Kev noj zaub noj mov.  Yog koj tug hubby nyam noj le caag, koj yuav tsum cook le ntawd.  Koj yuav tsum npaaj zaub npaaj mov tog nwg yog nwg moog ib qho twg kws ntev lug, xws le yog moog ua hauj lwm, etc.  Yog koj tsi txawj cook or not a good cook.  Koj yuav tsum kawm kev cook ntawm meb cov cousins, relatives or friends kom koj paub vim nwg yog ib qhov kws zoo yog thaum meb muaj qhua tuaj hab.

7. Koj saib yog koj tug hubby xaav tau dlaab tsi hab ntshaw yaam twg, koj yuav kag tsua nwg ntaag.

8. Has txug kev hlub.  There are two different kinds today: Old Style and New Style.  I don’t know how old you are (both you and your hubby) but if you’re not over 50 of ages then just make sure that you are in the current society or generation.

Peb ua tuab neeg nyob tsua lub qaab ntuj nuav, kuv xaav tas peb, cov txiv neej, tsuas ntshaw kuas tau tug zoo nam tsev nkaus xwb.  Yog koj ua tau 8 nqai lug le kuv has taag sau nuav lawm ces kuv ntseeg tau has tas tsi zoo ntau los yuav zoo tsawg lawm ntaag.  Yog tas koj yeej ua taag le kws kuv has nuav lawm es tseem tsi zoo hab nua ces yog koj tug hubby yeej xaav yuav nam yau los sis nwg yeej npaaj ua ib tug phem txiv tsev lawm xwb.

  ua tsaug koj cov lus nawb kuv zoo sab heev li tiag. kuv yuav try li koj hais nawb vim kuv bad cook you know

Great.  I hope you gain it and win over him to be on your side to have a happy ending...

tug namtsev es, tsis nyuaj kag le os.  yog koj yog ib tug quaspuj lawm ces ua quaspuj xwb tsis txhob moog ua ib tug txivneej lossis txhob moog ua ib tug lompaav.  qhov kws peb cov txivneej ntxub tshaaj plawg mas yog quaspuj pheej yuav moog txeeb lub meejmom quasyawg ua.  yug yog lub cev lawm ces cas le zoo sab ua lub cev xwb tsis txhob moog txeeb ua lub cev hab lub taubhau tuabsis. ua le nuav xwb ces txivneej yeej txau sab rua koj moog taag ib tam le os mog.

Tso tas nro koj lub cev thiab lub siab rau nws kom nws tsis txhob tsawj lwm tug li xwb los mas.

 ntuj os vaaj moob aw...! caag koj tseem has le hab na lod? tub tso txhua yaam taag nrho rua nwg lawm los mas tab sis nwg tsis txau sab le tseem muaj lwm tug zoo tshaaj lawm hab nas. kuv xaav mas yog nam txiv neej sab phem xwb mo.

Dlau le hov, peb cov quaspuj moob mas feem coob tsis sab heev tabsis puab lub cev luj hwm lawm.  yog le, yuav tau txuag yug lub cev kuas yagleeg hab soobxais txhaj le ntxim nyam. 

yog le yuav tus sab heev vim lub cev nwg tsis zoo ne. kuv mas rug heev nas

I am smart in my own way but not in his way..so he complains I am dumb. 

see, these are my duties:
Cook
Clean
Take care of all chores
Work
Kids
Iron clothes
Help planing for his business
Help his relatives/he never helped mine
and I never complained.

Some people will love you no matter what..those that wants 2nd, 3rd don't deserve you if you've already provide all the housewife duties.
If he feels you need to be the one brining in the MOney then it's time to forget his ass!!!  he's not god.

Sis Animal, kuv los yeej tsi totaub/tsi paub txoj txiv neej lub siab thiab nws txoj kev tshaw li thiab os..., all I/you have to do ces... do the best you can do, be the best person you can, ua ib tug pojniam zoo, hais lus mos muag, luag ntxhi rau nws, make home sweet home es kom nws xav los tsev..., tsi txhob yws yws taus, txau cem tsi txaus los cem, txaus chim tsi txaus los chim chim ua dab ua tuag, txoj kev chim chim taug yog ib txog kev tsi zoo, ua rau yus tus txiv/partner yuav txav deb ntawd yus mus, vim yus pheej chim chim tsi muaj lus zoo hais rau nws, tsi tas li los ua rau nws tshais tshais yus nws tsi xav los hais lus rau yus li lawm..., ces ua rau nws nrug deb ntawd koj mus lawm nawb....

Me sis, peb ua txij nkawd nyob uake yog koj hlub nws tiag tiag lawm ces hlub nws li koj txoj kev tshaw, ua zoo li koj xav ua rau nws, yog tias nws ho tsi pom koj txoj kev ua zoo rau nws thiab nws tsi ua zoo rau koj los kav liam, yus tsuas ua tau yus part xwb the rest ces yog nws lawm yus los tsi tu siab lawm mog, es yog nws ho tsi txaus siab rau yus los yus yuav tsi yog tus poob, nws yog tus poob txoj kev zoo ntawd yus mus lawm xwb os.

sis Animal, muaj ib tug sis twb list ib cov qhe lus ua ib tug niam tsev zoo rau koj lawm, yog koj xyaum ua tau tej qhe lus ntawd lawm ces yeej zoo xwb nawb...., txiv neej ces yog thaum nws mus hnias tau lwm tus ntxhiab lawm ces yeej laj laj hloov tau rov los ua ib tug txiv zoo li lawm os mog....

Kuv tus kheej hais ntaus zaus rau peb cov niam tsev lawm tias "YUS YUAV TSUM DO THE BEST YOU CAN DO, BUT YOU ALSO HAVE TO PREPAR FOR THE WORST TOO" qhov kuv hais no txawm yog tshais tsam nws ho hloov siab es uali koj hais ko los kom yus ho tsi txhob mob mob siab lwj dli los txoj siav tsi tus, tsi tag li thov yawm saub tsi txhob suav txim os..., yog mua ib hnub nws ho tuag kiag lawm los kom yus no paub ua yus lub neej thaum tsi muaj nws lawm naj....

Tham ntaus lawm ces tham li tso lwm zaus mam li tham duas nawb...

Bannork 

Nco ntsoov tias ib co txiv neej nws ua tsis tau txiv nawb. Nws tseem very confused tias nws yuav ua niam los ua txiv xwb.  Nej cov lus yeej zoo kawg lawm.  Yog ua li sawv daws hais no es tus txiv tseem yuav mus thiab ces, nws yeej yog ib tug tib neeg tsis muaj zeem muag dabtsi, tsuas xav los ua kom puas koj lub neej xwb. Nws yeej tsis hlub koj lawm es txav kev rau nws. Nrhiav dua tshiab ntshai zoo tshaj.