im in a relationship rite now... and its not going so well... he broke up with me twice and im still with him... why am i with him... cuz i love him... he makes me happy... its like i can't go on a day without talking to him... i need to hear his sweet voice and see him... ill do anything to be with him... i kno its stupid and all... and i kno everyone will say leave him... but he really makes me happy... hes my sunshine in the sky... he touches my heart... when we spend time together... its like magic... we're so in love... but the only problem is dat... his parents hella hate me... cuz of my past... and i dont blame them... cuz i have done my share of mistakes... and im willing to change for him... and i have.... okie.... im a type of gal who smoke... and i kno its a turn off for guys... but everysince he made it clear to me dat for me to stop smoking so i can be with him... and dis is the first time im listening to a guy... since dan i dont smoke... cuz i really want to be with him... ill do anything for him... if he ask me to jump off a bridge... i would... dats how much i love him... but i feel im the only one working on our relationship.. .. wat can i do to better myself so other wont judge me so bad...?

you do nothing...u are who u are. sometimes we ask others to change for the 'better', which is good...but if they want you to change for 'their own benefits' then its usually not fair and not good. its also not fair that they openly judge you about your past. if hes gotta problem with your past, then he shouldnt be with you. maybe you should tell him to stop wasting his time.

anyways, if people are judging you, you do nothing. you simply do your best and allow things to fall into place. after that, you hope for the best.

all humans were given one special piece of magic.....its called 'hope'.

Sounds like you're an idiot..... stop being an idiot and that might help you out.

Honestly, you didn't change for him.  You chose to change for yourself because without changing yourself, he might break up with you again.  So keep in mind that you didn't change for him.  Now think this way, he must love you somehow because he came back after 2 break up.  He probably saw that smoking is unhealthy for your body and wants you to be able to change yourself for your own good.  Do understand that he is also looking for a girl who is able to look at things positively for the relationship to grow. 

The reasons why you feel you're the only one working on the relationship is because you had a past that his family cannot seem to accept.  Of course that's going to be tough and it's going to take years or even your whole life time for others to learn to accept if you want to be with your current boyfriend.  Now you have to think positively on the things you need to work on such as, understanding the reasons why they dislike you, what can you learn from it to do differently now and for the future.  That does not mean that your boyfriend and his family is the perfect family and that you have to listen to them.  It just means that you have to better yourself now for your own good whether or not you and your boyfriend will last.

When you can learn to better yourself by making good decisions, being thoughtful, listen to your boyfriend (does not mean you agree with what he says), learn to appreciate, respect, and honor him as a boyfriend (man)...he might turn around and work the relationship with you and love you even more.  If you keep thinking negatively about your relationship, you're going to make those negative thoughts real into your relationship and it's going to go down the hill even faster. 

your too emotionally dependent on him... beside the fact that he broke up with your twice already, and your still wiht him... i know it might sting to say this but maybe he doesnt love you anymore... Best advice is to break it off with him and take some time to get yourself together....

People will alway judge you no matter what---- jsut learn to carry yourself well... and of course quit smoking....

U on the right path...I was with gurls just like u...they had some bad habits..and when u change them to become better people..and after u leave them..they hate u for it...so love and cherish ur man now...=)

why stop smoking? ... find a guy who smokes too. ur problem is solved 

you shouldn't change because you love him. You should change because you love yourself.

I encourage you to stay in your emotionally draining relationship.. . 

Why?  Because we all fall and learn from our own experiences...  Only then will you comprehend all the advices that the others are giving...

Do it for yourself, make yourself a better person.  Others will see you from bad to good but his family will still see you from your past.  He broke up with you twices already. Dont give it all to him..

Good luck.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Your-Boyfriend---How-to-Make-Him-Want-You-More&id=1043085

Thanks for the site, reAP! hahaha no wonder my man doesn't like me to go out or go anywhere far. 

you can't be in high school and have a past, when it even havn't started.

if you are in hs your to young to be having these issues,

Please slow your role,

wadupgee,

You need to get hurt bad and until then, your ass is not going anywhere far or learn anything new.   Just wait for the day that you are hurt badly enough that it makes you smart again. 

Until then, I'm going to roll the dice and let it roll again.  Seven lucky Seven.  Snake eye. 

have his kid...

but nice fake thread... altho there are real cases around the world like this...