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« on: July 16, 2010, 05:25:42 AM » |
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that i don+ want to take care, babysit, cook, feed, bathe, entertain, wait hand and feet, worry about his able grandmother and mother anymore. my work, my life is too precious to slave around unappreciative cruel people. i want to tell my hubb that ten year of this taking care crap have shorten my life severly. im now at a stage where i want to say 'f u' and i never did use that b4. i want to tell my hubb that the rest of the fam sucks and they can start takin care of granny and their parents. i want to tell him..im done. but im afraid he'll leave me because i can no longer take care of his family. what the hell do i do?
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hmoobvaaj10
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« Reply #1 on: July 16, 2010, 10:25:56 PM » |
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You shouldn't be so concern that your hubby will leave you if you should tell him of how you feel or your frustration. It almost seems like you have been holding in your emotions in all along and can no longer hold it in and you feel like you need to explode.
Considering that this is your husband... shouldn't you feel comfortable telling him how you feel with no fear of the consequence? If you feel like you have done enough and can no longer, why don't you and your hubby move out on your own? That may help. In the mean time, stop doing so much... slow it down. I understand how some people can become so un-appreciative... it's hard with people like that.
Talk with your hubby... let him know how you feel. Everyone gets tired of doing the same old stuff... it's more then understandable ...
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shampoo
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« Reply #2 on: July 17, 2010, 04:39:41 AM » |
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we do live on our own. we have a home.
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« Reply #3 on: July 18, 2010, 05:15:57 AM » |
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If u want to leave him and ur situation..bec ause of his mom and grandmom...the n ur the problem
.look people are breaking up over real issues such as adultery, gambling, beatings, drugs, and other real shit..thats just family....if u runaway from them then its ur fault
..dumb Hmong girl..
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« Reply #4 on: July 18, 2010, 11:20:46 PM » |
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lolz... after you tell him and his family... theyre just going to say... "well if you didnt like it... then why didnt you say anything about it before?... we all thought you wanted to do it because you always do it..."
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« Reply #5 on: July 19, 2010, 10:15:07 AM » |
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If u want to leave him and ur situation..bec ause of his mom and grandmom...the n ur the problem
.look people are breaking up over real issues such as adultery, gambling, beatings, drugs, and other real shit..thats just family....if u runaway from them then its ur fault
..dumb Hmong girl..
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seek for what u want... look for what u need!
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« Reply #6 on: July 19, 2010, 01:17:59 PM » |
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Best way to say it is. get all wasted strip and run around the house while yelling it out loud to your husband.
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« Reply #7 on: July 19, 2010, 02:42:39 PM » |
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Lelia is lelayy...lOl
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« Reply #8 on: July 19, 2010, 03:48:58 PM » |
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wadupgee,
If your parents take care of you, you bow down to your parents.
So if you take care of the parents, they should be the one that is bowing down to you.
If you do things for people and they are so unappreciated for it, you do not have to do a dayam thing for them anymore. This is the logical thing to do and to understand. If the husband does not understand then fawk him too. YOu need to get yourself with people who are more understandable .
Spouses should side with their lovers. IF not then they are not really your spouse.
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When I stop replying is when I stop babysitting you. Learn how to grow the fawk up. LOL
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« Reply #9 on: July 20, 2010, 03:25:18 PM » |
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If you are living on your own, then no one is pointing a gun to your head and telling you to go and help out. If you don't want to, be honest and tell your hubby that you don't want to because they are unappreciative . He will either tell you to handle it or side with you. Either way, at least he knows how you feel. There should be no reason for him to leave unless you yell and scream that you hate his family.
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« Reply #10 on: July 22, 2010, 10:36:59 AM » |
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why stress over such small triffles. they are old. they only have few years left. just ignore that they do not appreciate it... soon they will croak and you'll be stress free. so i don't see the point in leaving your hubby.... what you are doing... all the caring you are doing is only temperary
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« Reply #11 on: July 22, 2010, 03:30:08 PM » |
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You just need a hug and vacation.
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« Reply #12 on: July 25, 2010, 12:13:27 PM » |
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who's suppose to be taking care of them? i mean who's collecting the money to take care of them?
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« Reply #13 on: July 25, 2010, 11:49:49 PM » |
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There's a way on how to get more help, if that's what you are asking. Instead of yelling at him or getting bitter about it, approach it in a more constructive way such as telling him that it would be nice if the other siblings help out with the elders, too.
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“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” -Mark Twain
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« Reply #14 on: July 26, 2010, 11:17:27 AM » |
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just tell them that you are busy this time....if you just help out whenver u can, that's great....but don't go over board because they will think that you have all the time in the world...
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