How am i suppose to feel or deal with it?

[an6el_devil]

i dated dis guy... and i think i still have feelings for him... but we aren't together anymore... and this chick i know is with him now. She is not my friend but i knew her because she dated one of my brother's friend. And she knows that he dated me... i think im abit jealouse but what can i do? We still talk as if we are friends. I feel abit lost and confuse. Last night we talked on the phone and he didn't mention anything bout him and her. But we talked bout us. To see where are we at and what we will do next? I asked him if he still loves me and he couldn't answer me but yet he says he misses me. But today she told me that they're dating now. I just dont understand why didn't he tell me bout her and why do i have to hear it from her. Why couldn't he be honest with me like i am to him? After she told me the news i called him but he ignored me. What do i do next? How do i deal with this? I feel that i have the right to hear the truth from him. Or is he using her as a rebound.

[magicofju]

If you two aren't together anymore, why do you still care who he's seeing or talking to? Anyway this sounds like headaches and drama only. His new gf is not very mature either, and has to call you  to rub it in your face that she's with him just to get your on edge and jealous only. Maybe he had her up to it, to call you. Some exs crave drama like that and will make their new gf/bf call you just to start shiet with you over the phone. Pretty pathetic and immature if you ask me. But if you called him after you learned they are together now and he ignored you, shouldn't that give you a hint? You deal with it by cutting off contacts and delete him from your cell phone, change your number too if you have to. I personally don't call to keep in touch with any exs or guys I use to talk to just because they might be in relationships and I wouldn't want to interfere in their new relationship. But if you like to be part of the drama and want to compete for him still, by all means go ahead. But just keep in mind, that if the ball isn't on your court and in the end he chose to be with the other girl instead, you're the one that set yourself up for failure and heartbreak. Nobody owes anybody any explainations, even after a breakup, sometimes things are just better left unsaid, and it is what it is.

[Peachy Fish]

i dated dis guy... and i think i still have feelings for him... but we aren't together anymore... and this chick i know is with him now. She is not my friend but i knew her because she dated one of my brother's friend. And she knows that he dated me... i think im abit jealouse but what can i do? We still talk as if we are friends. I feel abit lost and confuse. Last night we talked on the phone and he didn't mention anything bout him and her. But we talked bout us. To see where are we at and what we will do next? I asked him if he still loves me and he couldn't answer me but yet he says he misses me. But today she told me that they're dating now. I just dont understand why didn't he tell me bout her and why do i have to hear it from her. Why couldn't he be honest with me like i am to him? After she told me the news i called him but he ignored me. What do i do next? How do i deal with this? I feel that i have the right to hear the truth from him. Or is he using her as a rebound.

I agree w/thePhatSista, you both are no longer together, so let it go. Don't hold onto something that no longer exists - you'll only hurt yourself even more.

My advice to you: lose all contact w/him. Don't pick up his calls, don't call him, no texts, no Facebook, etc. It doesn't matter whether he is using her as a rebound, the truth was in his actions, so why do you have to hear something from him only to confirm it?

[boO]

Do not hang out or be around with him on the belief that he will return to you. If he truly wants to be with you he would have already. I know it's hard to accept that your relationship with him is over but try to be strong and move on without him.

Good Luck!

[an6el_devil]

omfg sum ppl jux want to get on my nerve.... now he told her saying dat i still miss him and sh.it... wtf... is he trying to get me jealous or wat... wth is going on here...

[boO]

omfg sum ppl jux want to get on my nerve.... now he told her saying dat i still miss him and sh.it... wtf... is he trying to get me jealous or wat... wth is going on here...

I do not think your ex-bf is trying to make you jealous. Instead I believe that your ex-bf is lacking in moral and decency because if he respect you and your shared history together he would not fabricate stories to his current gf in an attempt to make him look good and you look bad.

In an extension to what I have previously posted I think it would be best for you to not contact with him anymore. You are prolonging the inevitable which is your relationship with him is definetely over. I know it is hard to accept as you want some form of closure from him but for you to continue to remain 'friend' with him is very damaging to your self-esteem, especially when he has displayed that doesn't value you as a friend.  

How long were you guys dating?

[aria]

He likes having two girls loving him. So he's dating her but stringing you along because you love him. You're like a back-up. If she doesn't work out, he likes the idea that he can come back to you. Who broke up with who? I don't think that she is the rebound because I'm assuming he knows how you feel which means that if he wanted something like a rebound, there is no risk in coming back to you. I think in actuality, he's setting you up to be his future rebound. Good luck girl.

P.S. I find that wearing your heart on your sleeves drives a guy away. When you let them know how you feel, they either take advantage of it (as its seems in this case) or they're no longer attracted to the in-your-face affection. Guys like a little mystery. I say, ignore him and shut him out. You'll find that this will confuse him and he might come back. Who knows?

[magicofju]

I do not think your ex-bf is trying to make you jealous. Instead I believe that your ex-bf is lacking in moral and decency because if he respect you and your shared history together he would not fabricate stories to his current gf in an attempt to make him look good and you look bad.

In an extension to what I have previously posted I think it would be best for you to not contact with him anymore. You are prolonging the inevitable which is your relationship with him is definetely over. I know it is hard to accept as you want some form of closure from him but for you to continue to remain 'friend' with him is very damaging to your self-esteem, especially when he has displayed that doesn't value you as a friend.  

How long were you guys dating?

agreed with this.

[magicofju]

He likes having two girls loving him. So he's dating her but stringing you along because you love him. You're like a back-up. If she doesn't work out, he likes the idea that he can come back to you. Who broke up with who? I don't think that she is the rebound because I'm assuming he knows how you feel which means that if he wanted something like a rebound, there is no risk in coming back to you. I think in actuality, he's setting you up to be his future rebound. Good luck girl.

P.S. I find that wearing your heart on your sleeves drives a guy away. When you let them know how you feel, they either take advantage of it (as its seems in this case) or they're no longer attracted to the in-your-face affection. Guys like a little mystery. I say, ignore him and shut him out. You'll find that this will confuse him and he might come back. Who knows?

agreed with this too.

[Toua]

cancel dude and no more talking.. he probably just wanna use you as a back up plan or booty call

[evil-in-deed]

why dont you and the other girl just both take turn sleeping with him, and at the end hell pick the one he truly loves...

never fails...

(sounds stupid?... well now you know how we feel reading your story...)

[wadupgee]

Lesson to learn in life.

If your real life drama is better than any drama shows on TV, it is time for you to move to hollywood and become a superstar. 

[Spoof]

Seems like you're stuck in a wondering state. This is what happens when you love someone and is not ready to let go. Whether you still care and love him or not the reality here is that you both are no longer in a relationship, so just let go and let it be. Don't ler him being with another gal or the other gal get to you. If he loves you and is yours to have then he will come back. Don't force the course of event for it will only back fire on you.

[Pineapple]

Closure doesn't start with someone having to confirm that it's over and done with.  It starts with you closing it yourself.  You must be strong and smart at understanding when to draw that line or else you're just a string being tangle and weaved into a drama that can ruin you even more.

[fuglyhottie]

Closure doesn't start with someone having to confirm that it's over and done with.  It starts with you closing it yourself.  You must be strong and smart at understanding when to draw that line or else you're just a string being tangle and weaved into a drama that can ruin you even more.

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