is it wrong...........

[lostgirl]

if your husband ran away from u n your kids.... and he didnt say anything to you or your parents now he wanna come back but you already found someone else in your life  and you guys are not even fully separated yet but he was never a part of you for so long... what would you do....

[Language]

how long is long? is it wishful think by your part or did you truely feel he left you and the kids?

[primetime]

Anything more then a month away then he should be considered dead to you.

[peas_n_queues]

how long is so long??

Moving on w/ someone new should only happen after you've started the divorce/separation process .. if you can give him the divorce papers to sign when he shows up then 

[Special_K]

Anything more then a month away then he should be considered dead to you.

if he is married to her, anything more than a week (and i'm being kind here) without any communication, he better be dead.. geez.. !

[DeceiversChick]

if your husband ran away from u n your kids.... and he didnt say anything to you or your parents now he wanna come back but you already found someone else in your life  and you guys are not even fully separated yet but he was never a part of you for so long... what would you do....

No thanks. He ran away with no explanation whatsoever and thinks it's ok to come back into my life when I found someone new? HIS LOST!

[Pandora`]

if he is married to her, anything more than a week (and i'm being kind here) without any communication, he better be dead.. geez.. !

a week!  a lot of things can happen in a week. 

i say any further than the front door steps and he better be prepare for battle when/if he returns!

if your husband ran away from u n your kids.... and he didnt say anything to you or your parents now he wanna come back but you already found someone else in your life  and you guys are not even fully separated yet but he was never a part of you for so long... what would you do....

if its been long enough that i've already found someone new...i wouldn't let him back into my life. if he did it once, he can do it again...i wouldn't take the chance of putting myself and my kids through something like that again.

[papa]

my question is........... why did he leave?

[lostgirl]

he left me n my kids for bout 6 month now.... n yes i do agree on what ya had say... we been married for 6 yrs n during our marriage he never care bout me n my kids even when i jus give birth to my kids he would go out all night or doesnt come home for 2-3 days leavin me alone with my kids.... n i know that if he did it to me once he will do it again no matter what.... i dont think it worth it anymore.... but he keep on trying to come back n act like im still his wife but to me i dont see him as my husband anymore after what he did to me n my kids... he left without saying anything... to me i see him as he's dead....

[lostgirl]

how long is so long??

Moving on w/ someone new should only happen after you've started the divorce/separation process .. if you can give him the divorce papers to sign when he shows up then 

i want a divorce but he doesnt... after what he did to me is wrong... his side of the family doesnt wanna divorce me... i even told them that why would they wanna hold me down for when i dont love there son n-e more... how could u be with someone when that person dopesnt wanna be with you or love you anymore wouldnt it be better if ya jus go ur own way..........

[woofwoof]

if your husband ran away from u n your kids.... and he didnt say anything to you or your parents now he wanna come back but you already found someone else in your life  and you guys are not even fully separated yet but he was never a part of you for so long... what would you do....

If the both of you were never fully seperated, why seek others?  Real men/women who take care of their sheit, ends things offically and completely before moving on.  That way you don't leave strings attach. 

Looks like you have to settle it at JERRY SPRINGERS.

[peas_n_queues]

i want a divorce but he doesnt... after what he did to me is wrong... his side of the family doesnt wanna divorce me... i even told them that why would they wanna hold me down for when i dont love there son n-e more... how could u be with someone when that person dopesnt wanna be with you or love you anymore wouldnt it be better if ya jus go ur own way..........

um, if you're married with a marriage license, get divorced - you can get a lawyer to draw up all the papers and have it ready for him to sign.  I think getting this far is enough for you to move on even if he refuses to sign.  If you're married Hmong way only then what's the big deal?  Just don't let him in when he comes back.  How hard is that?

[yes]

Dissapeared for 6 months??!!! Unless he was actually kidnapped and released... he-L-L freakin no.

[lostgirl]

um, if you're married with a marriage license, get divorced - you can get a lawyer to draw up all the papers and have it ready for him to sign.  I think getting this far is enough for you to move on even if he refuses to sign.  If you're married Hmong way only then what's the big deal?  Just don't let him in when he comes back.  How hard is that?

we're still marriage in the hmong way even if we was to have a marriage license i know for a fact that he wont sign the paper as well.... he ask me what do i want him to do... and i told him that if he love me like what he say than let me go cause i dont wanna be with him anymore its been six yrs already n i cant put up with what hes doing to me six yrs of marriage with him is enough and what he had put me through out the whole six yrs..... its not hard but the only thing that is hard is going through all the og's.... the hmong way is so arghhh.... annoying...... ....

[lostgirl]

Dissapeared for 6 months??!!! Unless he was actually kidnapped and released... he-L-L freakin no.

no he didnt get kidnapped or anything he choose to leave us with his friends.......