how do you tell your parents.....

[lostgirl]

that you're dating someone but than they're not hmong........ and you know that your parents wouldn't approved....

[xoniuqe]

There's a first step for everything. A lot of parents will b!tch and complain about it, but eventually they will come around. You just have to stand your ground. In the end, if your parents still don't approve or have come to tolerate him, and it comes down to a huge showdown, then it's going to be whether he's worth the family sacrifice or not... Good luck!

[MilesDaddy]

Just invite them over.......Tel l them they are a friend......ma ybe they will warm up to them....Other wise, do what you want to do.. someday they will be gone....sure hate to see you live your life for them, you will regret it

[autumnbreeze]

 

[LaXgirlxiong]

  thats why u dont date them when you know your parents not gonna approve....... . dont even mess with them in the first place or  dont make a move to someone u already know that YOUR family dont like or not gonna let you date that person.  

[DivineTreasure]

Yes... inviting them over to family functions is a great way to start.  Parents will never approve at first but if he's a good person and they can see that, they will eventually let up and try to understand.  Good luck!

[Hmong Martial Artist]

that you're dating someone but than they're not hmong........ and you know that your parents wouldn't approved....

If you feel like you have to hide the fact that your date isn't Hmong, you obviously don't love him enough to stand by his side.

BTW, you already know they won't approve - why not just ahead to tell them and get the grief over with.  The quicker they get over that hill, the quicker they can start making their way down it and accept the fact that you have a mind of your own.   They may not like it, they may not tolerate it, but they're going to have to accept it...eventuall y.

[HmongLessons]

thats why u dont date them when you know your parents not gonna approve....... . dont even mess with them in the first place or  dont make a move to someone u already know that YOUR family dont like or not gonna let you date that person.  

x2

Prevention is the smartest way to go about with something like this.  

[magicofju]

thats why u dont date them when you know your parents not gonna approve....... . dont even mess with them in the first place or  dont make a move to someone u already know that YOUR family dont like or not gonna let you date that person.  

I'd have to agree with this. If I know my parents are not going to approve, I wouldn't even bother with it. I wouldn't even get involved with someone if I know his family does not like me either. First sign of tension or unapproval, I'm usually out. But that's just me and how I handle it.

Aside from my personal view however, most Hmong parents may still frown and shake their heads when you bring home your non-Hmong significant other but if you love your non-Hmong partner and can not let them go, then make iniative to bring them around your family so they can get to know him/her too. In due time, some Hmong parents will open up their hearts to accept it. But if you have the type of parents who only wants you to stick with Hmong and that's it and they always have something bad to say and complain about other races or ethnicities, then you could very well rebel against their wishes and choose to get disowned. I have heard of cases of Hmong people, especially women who marry/date outside of their race that do not live close by their families or want to get involved with their families either.

[moonangel]

Have you guys ever heard of Romeo & Juliet?  Yeah, it's not just a Hmong thing. 

[TuesdaysGirl]

You tell them. It's not simple, but express to them that this person is who you want to be with and hope that they love you enough to put your happiness above all else.

[lostgirl]

i know that later on they will learn how to except that im dating other races but as of now they are really against it.... 

[Tajo]

that you're dating someone but than they're not hmong........ and you know that your parents wouldn't approved....

I didn't tell my parents until 4 yrs later.  My parents were dissappointed when I told them.  When my parents met my s/o they were cool with it as long as he is not a thug.  :2funny:The only thing my parents asked me was..are they nice people.


good luck to you..

[lostgirl]

are you two serious? i dont think it's necessary to tell if just dating....if you two are engage then yeah....there's no nice or peaceful way to tell them if you already know they gonna get high blood pressure from it...hahaha

lol.... but no we're not serious just dating as of now.... the only thing is that he wanna meet my family but im scared cause i know how hmong parents are like when it comes to dating other races....... 

[sinny]

invite him over to close family functions and it's always nice to have the support of your siblings if not your parents... in the long run, if it gets serious... sit down with your parents and start having a conversation about it