A cheater will always be a cheater right?

[AOZ]

oh i want to add that he would always be embarrassed to be seen with her in public as well then they first got married.

[azndoll]

i've witness one man change.  his wife is beautiful... tall.. zoo nkauj.... dawb dawb... they had beautiful kids together because they are both beautiful individuals.

from the start.... he always felt his wife wasn't good enough for him..... she was never smart enough.... nor was she beautiful enough for him.   

when the kids were still rugrats.... he would always cheat on her with women of lesser beauty.  he even brought home a niam yau  of lesser beauty/attitude for a year or two.... then the naim yau ran away.  yeah during the his 1-10 years marriage.. there were many many drama and turmoil.  his first wife almost left him so many times.  but thanks to his parents who constantly urged him to not lose  his beautiful first wife.  thru all the drama and headache... the wife stayed and remained faithful to him.

his kids are in college. he has stopped his cheating ways now..... i guess because he doesn't want to be a BAD role model for his kids now that they are of age.... i'm sure he wouldn't want any of his beautiful daughters to be treated they way he treated his wife either. finally after all he puts his wife thorugh... he's realized the best woman was right in front of him all along.    all his kids are beautiful... zoo nkauj zoo nraug like their mom.  he has a wonderful life now with his wife... and great successful kids.  image how different his life would be without his kids and wife now. 

Thats surprising... but why go and cheat like that, and do crap like that when you already knew in the back of your head you got a good wife who did everythign for you... My story is just another bad harsh story... I wish I could take a camcorder and record every step of it. I wish to have a better husband cause all i do now is look around and see that there are other husbands loving their wife the way they should be loved... In the beginning I was all good to him, until he took advantage of it, thats when I thought to myself, if he treats me like crap, I'll do the same too, so now, everything is on the downfall... Not gonna let people step on me anymore.

[AOZ]

Thats surprising... but why go and cheat like that, and do crap like that when you already knew in the back of your head you got a good wife who did everythign for you... My story is just another bad harsh story... I wish I could take a camcorder and record every step of it. I wish to have a better husband cause all i do now is look around and see that there are other husbands loving their wife the way they should be loved... In the beginning I was all good to him, until he took advantage of it, thats when I thought to myself, if he treats me like crap, I'll do the same too, so now, everything is on the downfall... Not gonna let people step on me anymore.

i've seen it many times.  most of the time... the husbands does what he does... like treat the wife bad or cheat on her.... all because he's ashamed for marrying her... because in his head... he's too good for her and he deserves better.  
it's sad really.  because instead of building a life together... these individuals work hard at tearing their marriage apart.  Or he makes it hard for the wife so that she'll leave him.  

i don't know what the case is with your marriage... but be patient and don't do what he is doing for the sake of your child.  be the better parent for your child.  don't need to stoop to his level to get even with him.  it's a waste of time and energy.  spend your time and energy bettering yourself and your future with your child.    

if you were my sister... i'd advise you to keep quiet the things that your husband does.  sometimes... telling others just makes it worse.  ... make him retaliate.  

[AOZ]

There's two side to a story. People don't just go cheat because they have a good spouse. The other must have done so much or not give enough for the one to become a cheater. Sorry but you can either take it or leave it. For me, if I decide to seek love some place else means, I eventually thru with the one I'm currently with. She can either stay or go doesn't matter to me any more... There's no man would cheat on a good wife! Before you go and said all this you have to see what you have done.

of course.. yeej muaj two sides to every story... and each believe their story to be true.  all in all... ppl cheat  and mistreat the other because they feel they deserve better than what they settled for. 

men cheat on their good wives all the time... seen too many.  and they cheat with ugly women too.  that's the sad thing. 

i think peb cov pojniam need to not beach too much at yus tus txiv thiab yom.   yus twb chim chim los.... when pom husband... yuav tsum luag ntxhi rau nws... hlub nws.... and respect nws.  txhob muaj nws cem cem rau zej zog mloog thiab.  tej yam zoo hais... yus hais nws behind closed doors xwb.  txojkev hlub yuav loj thiab tawg paj txi txiv yog los ntawm yus los.... peb need to show peb tej txiv about txoj kev hlub kom nws tsi txhob mus mus nrhiav txojkev lust.  ua tsaug. 

[Suav]

Maybe beauty isn't everything? Perhaps there was something missing in their relationship? What troubles me the most is the inability of individuals to confront their loved ones to tell their relationship is failing...  instead they cheat behind their backs.

i've witness one man change.  his wife is beautiful... tall.. zoo nkauj.... dawb dawb... they had beautiful kids together because they are both beautiful individuals.

from the start.... he always felt his wife wasn't good enough for him..... she was never smart enough.... nor was she beautiful enough for him.   

when the kids were still rugrats.... he would always cheat on her with women of lesser beauty.  he even brought home a niam yau  of lesser beauty/attitude for a year or two.... then the naim yau ran away.  yeah during the his 1-10 years marriage.. there were many many drama and turmoil.  his first wife almost left him so many times.  but thanks to his parents who constantly urged him to not lose  his beautiful first wife.  thru all the drama and headache... the wife stayed and remained faithful to him.

his kids are in college. he has stopped his cheating ways now..... i guess because he doesn't want to be a BAD role model for his kids now that they are of age.... i'm sure he wouldn't want any of his beautiful daughters to be treated they way he treated his wife either. finally after all he puts his wife thorugh... he's realized the best woman was right in front of him all along.    all his kids are beautiful... zoo nkauj zoo nraug like their mom.  he has a wonderful life now with his wife... and great successful kids.  image how different his life would be without his kids and wife now. 

[Suav]

I guess I wouldn't be as mad if someone just told me they lost their love for me... over the possibility of them not saying anything and cheating behind my back.

[AOZ]

Maybe beauty isn't everything? Perhaps there was something missing in their relationship? What troubles me the most is the inability of individuals to confront their loved ones to tell their relationship is failing...  instead they cheat behind their backs.

you are right... it wasn't beauty with him.  he was embarassed that she was not a very smart person.  not intellectual enuff for him.  he wanted someone witty and educated.

[yeej_tseeb1]

OH & I HAVE TOLD THE WHOLE FCKING STORY... I AS A MATTER OF FACT, MESSAGE PPL ON PH HERE AS WELL AS HE HAS MESSAGED CERTAIN PPL HERE ON PH TO TELL HIS PEOPLE ABOUT ME... SEE WHAT THE FCK PROBLEMS DOMINATE MORE... DUH... FCK OFF... DONT GOT ANYTHING GOOD TO SAY, DONT SAY SHIET...

Who are you implying this to girl? I suggest that if you are going to make statements on the internet about Jet and you--people will make remarks back whether it is going to be positive or not. Get this straight. And no one has blown you off besides the great deal of telling you to leave your so-called jerk husband.

Good luck to you. Grieving on Pebhmong is not going to resolve your personal problems unless they are dealt with directly in person. If I was your man (I am glad I am not), I would punctuate YOU to be keeping your personal issues at hand and not online for the whole Hmong community to see. This only alone will cause more problems between Jet and you. Very embarrassing I would pronounce. But then again, you are not my wife or girlfriend--so I thank God for not allowing me to slap you across the face. 

[Mr.New]

There's two side to a story. People don't just go cheat because they have a good spouse. The other must have done so much or not give enough for the one to become a cheater. Sorry but you can either take it or leave it. For me, if I decide to seek love some place else means, I eventually thru with the one I'm currently with. She can either stay or go doesn't matter to me any more... There's no man would cheat on a good wife! Before you go and said all this you have to see what you have done.

Honestly My girlfriend didnt do anything wrong. I cheated on her cause i wanna fawk a different girl. Now my girlfriend left me. honestly I love my gf but I cant keep my pants up. Sigh.........

[evil-in-deed]

a cheater will not always be cheating...

but a cheater is always a cheater...

once you take a drug... your body is no longer clean... but it doesnt mean you will always use drugs...

[azndoll]

Who are you implying this to girl? I suggest that if you are going to make statements on the internet about Jet and you--people will make remarks back whether it is going to be positive or not. Get this straight. And no one has blown you off besides the great deal of telling you to leave your so-called jerk husband.

Good luck to you. Grieving on Pebhmong is not going to resolve your personal problems unless they are dealt with directly in person. If I was your man (I am glad I am not), I would punctuate YOU to be keeping your personal issues at hand and not online for the whole Hmong community to see. This only alone will cause more problems between Jet and you. Very embarrassing I would pronounce. But then again, you are not my wife or girlfriend--so I thank God for not allowing me to slap you across the face.  

Hmmmm PH newbie.. I already know who this is... Like I said, I only asked a simple question for people to answer... But since PH is always so boring, I'll give the PH members a good jerry springer show... And I wish you would slap me across the face, see who annihilates who first... IDIOT.

[dejntshiab]

hm... azndoll... if I may... just another word of advice...

try not to vent too much online here... rather, take care n control of ur life.  Make a choice and stick to it.  Online really should be more for fun and laughs...

try not to take online too seriously...

[Gen. Invincible]

Yes...and a lover will always be a lover...look the thing about men is that what makes us good makes us better..what makes us bad is what makes us weaker..meanin g cheaters will cheat and when they love they will be good lovers.