Is it worth it?

[Hmong_Writer]

I've liked this girl for a while and I finally asked her out and she said yes but the hard thing is that she's so busy so doesn't know when she'll be free. She works 9AM - 9PM nearly every weekday as a head nurse at a large hospital nearby but my job always leaves me busy during the weekends! *&^#!!!

She told me and I told her that we'll work something out but dang - finally found a girl that is interested but we can never meet! If you're wondering we go to the same church, so we meet Sundays but as for an actual date that's still difficult. She works pretty much most of the day at the church doing various things and I as well. I'm also a student so I'm also working on homework on Sunday evenings.

So...is this worth it? It's been awhile since I've asked anyone out because I'm a pretty picky guy, I really like this girl, but this sucks. 

[Jubi]

Give me her number. I have a brother that is a good catch who is still single and never been married before either, and he'll call her and take her out if you won't.

[boO]

The real question is are you worthy of her? With that attitude and outlook maybe NO.

You are only seeing obstacles..bla h..blah..blah. ...be creative.

Yes she works from 9am- 9pm and yes those are really long hours because that is the nature of her job. But hell I reckon you should be free after 9pm and even if you're not you should make time.  She doesn't need to be lavish...be simple whether  it be you cooking her dinner and delivering the food to her place or get take away food and sharing it with her.

Better yet drop by and visit  her during her lunch break and spend time with her.  

It's call being persistent and making time.


Good luck!

[IH8MyEx]

I know two peeps that live out of state and one of them travels due to schooling but still managed to make time for one another. And in your case if yah live in the same state/city and still can't find time then... yah need to reevaluate yourself first!

[Hmong_Writer]

The real question is are you worthy of her? With that attitude and outlook maybe NO.

You are only seeing obstacles..bla h..blah..blah. ...be creative.

Yes she works from 9am- 9pm and yes those are really long hours because that is the nature of her job. But hell I reckon you are free after 9pm and even if you're not you should make time.  She doesn't need to be lavish...be simple whether  it be you cooking her dinner and delivering the dinner to her or get take away food and sharing it with her.

Better yet drop by and visit  her during her lunch break and spend time with her. 

It's call being persistent and making time.


Good luck!

Wow thanks! I was thinking of being more aggressive but she's a shy one and I didn't want to scare her away but if she said yes when I asked her that means she trusts me me at least right? 

Thanks I'll do that and what's the worst that can happen and its better then would of should of could of. 

[boO]

Wow thanks! I was thinking of being more aggressive but she's a shy one and I didn't want to scare her away but if she said yes when I asked her that means she trusts me me at least right? 

Thanks I'll do that and what's the worst that can happen and its better then would of should of could of. 

The fact that she said yes already indicate that she likes you. Maybe she is just waiting for you to make the first move.  The ball is in your court now. Be assertive and be productive. Do something already or else someone else will and than you will need to throw a pity party for yourself.

This girl sound like a keeper....

[Hmong_Writer]

The fact that she said yes already indicate that she likes you. Maybe she is just waiting for you to make the first move.  The ball is in your court now. Be assertive and be productive. Do something already or else someone else will and than you will need to throw a pity party for yourself.

This girl sound like a keeper....

I hope you're right about "she likes you" part but thanks I shot her an email right after reading your suggestion. I know a call or text would probably be more personal but she hates texting and plus I know 100% she'll check her email tomorrow morning anyways so its all good.

I have a good feeling about this but lets just see where it goes. I really do hope I don't scare her away but hopefully she'll be mature enough to see that I just want to fulfill my commitment that we both agreed upon and that's meeting up sometime. 

[AOZ]

she's telling u she's not interested.  hehehe

[Jubi]

AOZ you're such a Debbie Downer lol. What a way to crush his dreams and mojo.  

[NkaujNom]

9PM-9AM, she's free. Breakfast or a late dinner, your choice to ask. If these invitations are also declined; she is not what she seems to be in your mind and it is time to move on - unless you would like to dig your own grave.

[No regret]

she's telling u she's not interested.  hehehe

that's what i'm thinking, when a girl tells you she have absolutely no time for you take that as a hint too.  Any girl with serious interest in you, will make time for you, I just don't buy that 9am to 9pm crap.  A girl who's truely interested in you will say I'm really busy but lets see.....how about this time of day or that time of the day I'm free.

Listen man, make this your next move, tell her to make time to go out with you, if she won't then be cautious she could just by trying to be nice to you, since you two go to the same church and not want to reject you straight on.  Goodluck hope i'm wrong.

Me personally, when it comes to girls, i just weighed out the positive and negative vibes I get from her, if there's more negative vibes I just cancel her azz and not waste my time.  I don't like to be a fool, I'll just move on the find somebody else with mutual interest.

[Hmong_Writer]

that's what i'm thinking, when a girl tells you she have absolutely no time for you take that as a hint too.

Well she said she wanted to go and I should suggest a date and she'll ink me in if it works out.

Here actually quote through text..

"hey, i'm cool with hanging out some time, the problem will be--when? i got home from work today after 9 pm so as you can see weeknights are not good. there are some saturdays that i'll be free, we'll just have to plan it out so i can pencil you in--haha."

Sound good right?

Listen man, make this your next move, tell her to make time to go out with you, if she won't then be cautious she could just by trying to be nice to you, since you two go to the same church and not want to reject you straight on.  Goodluck hope i'm wrong.

Me personally, when it comes to girls, i just weighed out the positive and negative vibes I get from her, if there's more negative vibes I just cancel her azz and not waste my time.  I don't like to be a fool, I'll just move on the find somebody else with mutual interest.

Thanks bro I appreciate the advice. 

[No regret]

Well she said she wanted to go and I should suggest a date and she'll ink me in if it works out.

Here actually quote through text..

"hey, i'm cool with hanging out some time, the problem will be--when? i got home from work today after 9 pm so as you can see weeknights are not good. there are some saturdays that i'll be free, we'll just have to plan it out so i can pencil you in--haha."

Sound good right?

Thanks bro I appreciate the advice. 

Sounds pretty good then, the fact that she's willing to give you both a chance to know each other better.  Coming from a hmong girl I would say she has interest in you otherwise she will never go out with you, they are not like white girls who'll go out for the sake of going out and meeting people.  With hmong girls if they don't like you, they'll never ever ever go out with you like dat.  Good luck.

[DeceiversChick]

 If she was interested she will make time for you but she isn't. That should clue you in.

[NceegVaj]

I've liked this girl for a while and I finally asked her out and she said yes but the hard thing is that she's so busy so doesn't know when she'll be free. She works 9AM - 9PM nearly every weekday as a head nurse at a large hospital nearby but my job always leaves me busy during the weekends! *&^#!!!

She told me and I told her that we'll work something out but dang - finally found a girl that is interested but we can never meet! If you're wondering we go to the same church, so we meet Sundays but as for an actual date that's still difficult. She works pretty much most of the day at the church doing various things and I as well. I'm also a student so I'm also working on homework on Sunday evenings.

So...is this worth it? It's been awhile since I've asked anyone out because I'm a pretty picky guy, I really like this girl, but this sucks. 

Pick her up or drop her off.  One way to get close.  Have her take some PTO or vacation. I don't like nurse girl.  They suck.  Imagine they can poison you not knowing it.