is it appropriate for a 17 year old to be saying this?

[No regret]

...I told him, at his age if he needs the money from time to time to go out and hang out with his friends or girlfriend it's ok to ask for it from his parents since he dont' have a job yet.  But he tells me he doesn't want to do that cause it makes him feels guilty for having to ask from his parents.  I told him at his age, he should not feel quilty about it as long as he's not asking from them like everyday, cause he doesn't even have a job yet and his parents will understand.

[sinny]

hell yes it is appropriate, cause he isn't a child anymore. 

[Bubbly]

He's getting to an age where he should be learning a little responsiblity. If he's feeling guilty, maybe he should earn the money from his parents. Like picking up at home, helping dad with car maintanence, mow the lawn, take out garbage, help mom do dishes... etc, etc... then maybe he won't feel guilty asking money from his parents. Like Sinny said, he's not a child anymore... He's old enough to get a part-time job to help himself.

AND why would you encourage him to ask money from his parents? You should be encouraging him to get a job and so he can become a responsible adult.  

[Kaxiong]

I started working when I was 14 and tho I still asked money from my parents from time to time I was earning my own. You don't realize how hard your parents work to earn that little money until you have to go out and do it on your own. At 17 he(&you) should already be taking on some responsibiliti es here and there. 

[No regret]

He's getting to an age where he should be learning a little responsiblity. If he's feeling guilty, maybe he should earn the money from his parents. Like picking up at home, helping dad with car maintanence, mow the lawn, take out garbage, help mom do dishes... etc, etc... then maybe he won't feel guilty asking money from his parents. Like Sinny said, he's not a child anymore... He's old enough to get a part-time job to help himself.

AND why would you encourage him to ask money from his parents? You should be encouraging him to get a job and so he can become a responsible adult.  

Get this, it's not like he's been asking money from his parents many times before...he hardly goes out and hardly ever ramdonly ask for spending money from them.  He makes it as if he should never ask money from his parents, so I had to tell him it's ok to sometime, but just don't do it too often.  And we were only talking about 30 to 40 dollars in amount, not hundreds of dollars.

[No regret]

he has manners. good for him. i startd working when i was 13. i never wanted to ask my parents for money. every dollar given to me, ached in my heart, of theiR hard work. so whateveR i needed, i worked for it. even if it takes me longer. i never went out when i was broke either.

You sure you started working at 13, I thought you had to be 14 to legally work?

I remember me and a friend at age 12 or 13 needing money so bad to spend on things so bad, we went into this strip mall and started asking people there for work and this old black man who work at one of the shop ask for age and told us we're a bit too young work yet.  But he assured us if there was ever something he thought we could do for money he'll contact us...we even gave him our phone numbers too.

[No regret]

You people don't quiet get it, the key here is "sometime" or "once in a while"...I'm not implying he should solely rely on asking money from his parents only.

C'mon admit it, we all have asked money from our parents during our teen years from time to time.

[No regret]

Maybe from time to time for school supplies, clothes, shoes, needed stuff, but not for fun. The sooner a child learns about the importance of responsibilite s including money the better for them.

Asking for shoes, clothes, is the same as spending money.

Will you denied your 16 or 17 year old spending money, if he/she ask you for it?  No, every once in a while is acceptable and ok right?

[yuknowthat]

this kid is maturing up to handle their own responsibility

[sprite]

Personally, I think it's b.s. to think that telling a kid to get a job is going to make him/her any more responsible than those who actually wait until they're out of their parents home to get one. All the Hmong teens I know who got jobs did so because they came from big families and their parents couldn't afford to give them money or buy nice things for them. As adults, they're not any more responsible with their money. Responsibility comes from parental conduct. If a kid sees how hard their parents work and how financially responsible their parents are, they're going to pick up on that even if it means they don't start working 'til they're out of the house.

So getting back on topic, I agree that this 17-year-old doesn't have to work just yet because he's still in school - AND THAT'S MORE IMPORTANT. Perhaps if he wants some extra spending cash, get a summer job. 

Of course, if he's from a big family where his parents are struggling to make ends meet then "yes", he may have to get a part-time job.

[LELIA]

...I told him, at his age if he needs the money from time to time to go out and hang out with his friends or girlfriend it's ok to ask for it from his parents since he dont' have a job yet.  But he tells me he doesn't want to do that cause it makes him feels guilty for having to ask from his parents.  I told him at his age, he should not feel quilty about it as long as he's not asking from them like everyday, cause he doesn't even have a job yet and his parents will understand.

no regret.. i agree w/ u.. sometimes is ok..not all the time. glad he feels bad for asking but as long as it's not everyday or wkly... he should be fine. i agree w/ u.

[No regret]

Personally, I think it's b.s. to think that telling a kid to get a job is going to make him/her any more responsible than those who actually wait until they're out of their parents home to get one. All the Hmong teens I know who got jobs did so because they came from big families and their parents couldn't afford to give them money or buy nice things for them. As adults, they're not any more responsible with their money. Responsibility comes from parental conduct. If a kid sees how hard their parents work and how financially responsible their parents are, they're going to pick up on that even if it means they don't start working 'til they're out of the house.

So getting back on topic, I agree that this 17-year-old doesn't have to work just yet because he's still in school - AND THAT'S MORE IMPORTANT. Perhaps if he wants some extra spending cash, get a summer job.  

Of course, if he's from a big family where his parents are struggling to make ends meet then "yes", he may have to get a part-time job.  As long the kid is going to school and studying hard, I don't see why parents can give them spending money from time to time and they have to resort to getting a job at that age.  It's hard going to school and working at the same time.

He doesn't come from a big family, he's a good and obedient kid that's why I told him it's ok to ask from his parents, they both work year round fulltime jobs.

I think it's great for kids to start working too at that age too, but a lot of the times work will have a negative impact on their school work or good studying habits.

[VillainousHero]

As long as he's not asking about the birds and the bees...

If one is going to spend money wisely, with the intent of repaying, they should never be embarassed to ask.

[ToxicCum]

normally, it is appropriate for kids to ask for money from their parents, even if they are 18 AND still lives at home. which is usually considered borrowed money, or time. which means, the repayment can be in the form of currency or labor around the house/yard.

what happens at their home, is really their business and no one should be investigating it.

whats not appropriate, is this person telling (guiding, would be a better word) the 17yr old that it is appropriate, as I do not see the gain of the 3rd party/outsider.....so i will assume there is some form of a gain for the outsider.

[No regret]

normally, it is appropriate for kids to ask for money from their parents, even if they are 18 AND still lives at home. which is usually considered borrowed money, or time. which means, the repayment can be in the form of currency or labor around the house/yard.

what happens at their home, is really their business and no one should be investigating it.

whats not appropriate, is this person telling (guiding, would be a better word) the 17yr old that it is appropriate, as I do not see the gain of the 3rd party/outsider.....so i will assume there is some form of a gain for the outsider.

The outsider is his uncle and his uncle just wants him to get out of the house to experience life and gain knowlegde outside of the home instead of just staying at home and playing video games everyday.