9 years and he needs 5 more years

[yubnag]

"I'm starting to think that I'm not the one for him. After 5 years of our commitment, he wanted out, to be single, to venture, explore
and I gave him that freedom 'cause I didn't want him to feel deprived of the 'single' life after we're married.

So, I did my own thing and so did he. Once he heard I met a guy, he was concerned about us. He contacted me, asked me back,
proposed to me (without a ring) and we were to be wed within 1 year of our reunion.

It is has been 4 years since and now, he'd asked me to wait another 5 years, while he live the 'single' life again.

Now what?"

This is the life story of someone I know. Please advise.

[Peachy Fish]

She deserves better than that, he's just stringing her along in case he doesn't find someone else he thinks is better.

Honestly, if the bf were to ask for time to venture out, I'll have to say "goodbye" forever.

[primetime]

You say goodbye to him and don't look back. Obviosly he just wants you to wait for him while he seek for a better one.

AMEN!

[yubnag]

The hard part is convincing this girl to see it how we see it.

[Peachy Fish]

The hard part is convincing this girl to see it how we see it.

Yubnag, I know. I have a person close to my heart who is going through something similar to this for over 10 years now. They started dating really early in HS.

One day her bf broke up w/her b/c he wanted to venture out in the college world, and then he'll run to her every single time he hears a guy going for her. She'll drop whatever guy to go back to him, too, and then the process starts all over again and again. Also, she even knows that he's cheated on her many times before.

The part I hate the most is hearing her talk bad about him, and, the next moment, taking him back like nothing was wrong.

Now, he asked for the both of them to be exclusive (not talking to anyone), but he doesn't want to be gf/bf. WTH is that?

Yubnag, I realized that I can no longer help her anymore. It takes 2 to play this stupid charade. I'll always listen if she needs to vent out about him, but I'm not going to ask/care much about their "relationship".

Anyhow, I hope your friend realizes her worth and not let him back into her life.

[yubnag]

Yubnag, I know. I have a person close to my heart who is going through something similar to this for over 10 years now. They started dating really early in HS.

One day her bf broke up w/her b/c he wanted to venture out in the college world, and then he'll run to her every single time he hears a guy going for her. She'll drop whatever guy to go back to him, too, and then the process starts all over again and again. Also, she even knows that he's cheated on her many times before.

The part I hate the most is hearing her talk bad about him, and, the next moment, taking him back like nothing was wrong.

Now, he asked for the both of them to be exclusive (not talking to anyone), but he doesn't want to be gf/bf. WTH is that?

Yubnag, I realized that I can no longer help her anymore. It takes 2 to play this stupid charade. I'll always listen if she needs to vent out about him, but I'm not going to ask/care much about their "relationship".

Anyhow, I hope your friend realizes her worth and not let him back into her life.

Dang, sorry to hear.

Sometimes, I think my friend's brain is mushed after all that she's been through with this guy.

[C@$H]

When one expresses their desire to be single again..give them the opportunity.  Advise them that you need to get laid and will be seeking that immediately, but will wait for them if they will still accept you afterward...an d god permit that the next person you meet is not up to par.  

[Peachy Fish]

Dang, sorry to hear.

Sometimes, I think my friend's brain is mushed after all that she's been through with this guy.

Same here, but we can only do so much advising you know? At the end, it's their choice to get hurt again or not.

[prima_donna]

9 years is a long time, thats the equalivants of husband and wife status. Your friend will come to her senses once she realizes out how unhappy shes been in a stale relationship.

[Ph D wanna Be]

9 years is a long time, thats the equalivants of husband and wife status. Your friend will come to her senses once she realizes out how unhappy shes been in a stale relationship.

Hell no. don't go back to him. Or history will repeat itself. If you know better, once you leave, don't look back. Never go back. That'll teach him sumting.
Ladies, guys don't know wat they have until they lose it.

[yubnag]

9 years is a long time, thats the equalivants of husband and wife status. Your friend will come to her senses once she realizes out how unhappy shes been in a stale relationship.

I hope so too.

[yubnag]

Hell no. don't go back to him. Or history will repeat itself. If you know better, once you leave, don't look back. Never go back. That'll teach him sumting.
Ladies, guys don't know wat they have until they lose it.

Forreals.

[Gemini]

I usually see this when a couple is stuck together geographically and they don't have other options such as meeting new people. Once someone distance themself like moving out of the city/state, it's easier to move forward with someone else.

[yubnag]

I usually see this when a couple is stuck together geographically and they don't have other options such as meeting new people. Once someone distance themself like moving out of the city/state, it's easier to move forward with someone else.

Thanks, I'll advise her.

[Rockstargenes]

yubnag;  tell her some one name rockstargenes thinks she's an idiot.  if it didn't happen already then it's not going to happen.  but if she truley loves him and can stand sharing him with another womens, then tell her she can wait to be wife number two or the ex on the side....