If I decide not to get married.....

[yubnag]

Well, the problem with that is....he can decided to up and leave when ever he feels like it..

Even in a marriage, he can just up and leave.

[Ph D wanna Be]

Even in a marriage, he can just up and leave.

Yeah, but you have to tink long and hard. Relatives get involed, so it's not tat easy to go tat way.
BF and GF, wen things get sour, yeah get up and leave. No prob(s)
The thing tat I'm most concern is the kids.. No other men or women will love ur kids like the real one.

[yubnag]

Yeah, but you have to tink long and hard. Relatives get involed, so it's not tat easy to go tat way.
BF and GF, wen things get sour, yeah get up and leave. No prob(s)
The thing tat I'm most concern is the kids.. No other men or women will love ur kids like the real one.

That's true.

[mzteener]

YOu don't need to be married to have kids. Now in these days and age, you can do anything you want. As long as you both know the responsibility you both need to commit to.

[MilesDaddy]

Well, the problem with that is....he can decided to up and leave when ever he feels like it..

so can your husband, especially if there is no license.don't kid yourself

[Ph D wanna Be]

We can live together and have children though.

I just learned this one not too long ago. A good friend of mine was kinda seeing this chick with kids. He took her out to eat at this nicely place in up town. When they were talking about being for real, she told him that in order for them to be 2gether. He has to love her more then she loves him. So my buddy said " hell no, and why should I love you more then you to me'? Then she said " you have to love my kids more then I love your kids and you love my kids more then you love ours". So my buddy give her his middle finger. And got up walked away in the middle of their date. Of course he pay for both their meals. And he took her home and left her.
After some thinking, he told me that he should of just left her there...LOL. but he didn't have the hearts to do that.

The point here is if you bring a kid into this place, and be fatherless. Ugh just go jump off a cliff and end ur life there. LOL.. J/K..

[Ph D wanna Be]

YOu don't need to be married to have kids. Now in these days and age, you can do anything you want. As long as you both know the responsibility you both need to commit to.

PEOPLE tink that it's all fun and games.
You forget that cost of living sky rocketed. Foods, Gas, House and don't forget Bills. Those alone kills you already. IDK wat kind of $$$ you have. But plezze send some love tis way. LOL.

Think about it why the OG never tell us the right path to choose, Coz we are stupid sumtimes. OG don't wanna waste their time with us. That's why we must learn it by our self or FAIL. 

[PojNiamLubSiab]

Question from me to you.
If you're not planning on getting marry, why in the world would you want to bring a child into this awful forsaking planet.
You know tat you're only making it worst for the both of you. At the end, you'll be hubbyless and your chuld would be fatherless. Coz there's no tie that binds you together. Accpet the court and child care. At the end no one wants a single lady with an extra package.

that is sooooooooo not true! You can still be married, have kids then divorce. you'd still be a divorcee, husbandless, and have "package" .
same thing! If I could, I would of just stayed bf/gf bc all you have to do is "break up" when you don't wanna be together anymore instead of the endless paperwork, court visits, bills, etc.

[morninglory]

Do whatever you feel is right for you and will make you happy! There is nothing wrong with wanting to just live together and have kids too. If you two agrees, then more power to you and make it work! 

[Jubi]

I think you should find someone who shares the same morals and mindset as you, that wants to get married and wants to marry you back. Otherwise, there are people in this world who go on in life with no spouse and they are perfectly fine.

[yubnag]

I think you should find someone who shares the same morals and mindset as you, that wants to get married and wants to marry you back. Otherwise, there are people in this world who go on in life with no spouse and they are perfectly fine.

Exactly.