It's really up to the two of them to decide. For example you have 4 kids and the wife wants all the kids. The judge will look at it as okay it's gonna cost the hubby xxxx amount of $$$. So the judge will have to make it even so the father can have some $$$ to use. Cause if the wife takes all the kids than the hubby ain't got nothing to live on. But if the wife is not the $$$$ type, what I'm trying to say is that. Even thou they are a part, they will help each other so that the kids don't suffer. Rare do I see that happen cause the wife wants all the kids so she can have the $$$ from the hubby.
Sorry, I get emotionally mad when I see two parents go through these things cuz, I seen it with my own eyes that the kids suffers the most. I'm begging all of you ppl out there to think of your kids first and not yourself. I've known a lady who's going though many guys and still haven't learn anything. And the kids don't even get to spent time with her mom cuz her mom is out play with her BF, but the father is paying the child support, and the $$$'s not going for the kid but to her stupid BF. And if you don't have any kids then I don't care what you do with your lives. I don't mean to preach, but I seen ladies getting marry when they are 16-17 and haven't even gone to enjoy things. Then runs off to get marry in hopes of getting away from their bossing parents. Stupid, stupid. than having kids right away. But knows nothing that when you get marry you don't get away from your parents but you go into another parent. And you have to do more. cause you are now the wife figure, and have to do even more stuff.