Brother VH,
I invested so much in my past relationship and had many memories of our life together. She didn't cherish it and threw all of our memories away. Even when she had given up, I still didn't want to lose it all for nothing. So I tried to keep those memories; pictures, love letter, poems, and videos of our journey together. She never kept anything I gave her and it went to the trash. I didn't want to let others know what was going on so I played it cool, but deep down in side it was killing me. I tried to be the best person giving her everything I had, but she still took advantage of me.
My family told me I was too nice and went to easy on her. I didn't know how to act because I am just a nice person. She left, and her friends were no were to be found, so I kept on helping her and she still took advantage of me. I did so much after our break up to help her on her own two feet. Even went as far as helping her buy a car and a place to stay, but time and time again she didn't know how to cherish me. Guess the saying goes, you don't know what you loss until you lose it.
It kind of sucks because I am the type of person that can't see someone I know go through trouble and be in desperate need. I just have to help them and she didn't know what she loss. I gave her 4 chances, but yet she had the guts to no be thankful for what I have done.
I am the type of person that if you don't love each other anymore then its better to go your own ways. I don't like arguing or fighting and going the extreme route.
After our 6 months of separation, I gave up and called it quits. It was hard to get rid of our past memories, but you have to remember that if you're too caught up living in the past then you will not have a future. Why live in those memories, when they mean nothing. Revert back to the real you. Forever young.
I finally made my decision and threw away our pictures together. Threw away the love letter, vids, and everything we had together. It was the best feeling to know I am finally free of her.
I hope you can overcome your obstacles and don't live in the past anymore. Don't let the past memories be a road block for your happiness. I realized that I was in a diluted dimension where I had hope for her to come back, but then I didn't want to experience all those pain again.
Jump out of cycle and find yourself. Know who you are and what you want. It is time to let go and forget about those memories that didn't live up to the expectations. When you do it and wake up without thinking about her or how she is doing then you will finally be free.
I am not sure if I read it correctly, but you mentioned she's still living with you? If so, if you're not together anymore then it's pack her bags or your bags and move on. There are way nicer women out there who knows how to treat us guys better and we just haven't found them yet. Hope you make the best decision so your heart will be free.