Thaum yus paub hais tias nws

[White Lotus]

tsis yog tus yus xav tau ces twb lig lawm......What else can we do?

[Peachy Fish]

Since you're married already, try to work things out, but if you've done that already, perhaps, divorce is the only way to go.

[White Lotus]

Since you're married already, try to work things out, but if you've done that already, perhaps, divorce is the only way to go.

I was thinking in general...not my marriage sis.

[C@$H]

tsis yog tus yus xav tau ces twb lig lawm......What else can we do?

zoo tshaj qhov yus tsis tau nws, es plam lawm.

However, when one realizes that they are incompatible with another..it is best to amicably split.

[Peachy Fish]

I was thinking in general...not my marriage sis.

I know, I was also speaking in general.. Sorry, I should have used "they" instead of you. lol

[White Lotus]

Cash and Peach,

What if you already have s** with them?   Is that a big lost.

[Jubi]

Cash and Peach,

What if you already have s** with them?   Is that a big lost.

Depends. And I'm just generally speaking here too and maybe some rambling as well. A beautiful and wonderful relationship could result from a one-night stand.<---Anyone who believes in this is a lalalander anyway. Because most guys like to chase and if you're too "easy" and gave it up to him the first time, they are not going to take you seriously and will assume that you are like that with every guy you meet. And it depends on his ulterior motives too, if he's just out to hit it and quit it. This is why when I think back to what my mom and grandmas use to say to me, "Don't give it up to him until he marries you" does ring some sense too. Guys are dogs and if they want you for that moment or night, they'll want you for that moment and night only, and when he's done with you, he'll toss you out like garbage.

This is why women need to know how to think and develop a mind like a man too and if you're going to get some, get some and then detach yourself. Be mature about it and move on. If you keep letting him use you but his heart is not really there, then you set yourself up for your own heartbreak. It's better to just remain a damn virgin and keep the suspense going.   

But if you know you're no longer what he wants, then why stick around? Get out and find someone who will want and keep you for good.

[PojNiamLubSiab]

I've heard people say and also know for myself that people change.

So when you were 20years old, you have a certain type of guy/girls that you like but when you hit your 30s, your type change also so then what? what if you are marrried and have kids? Do you stay for the kids? or do you leave bc you or both of you don't have "fireworks" anymore? what if they just don't interest you anymore? It's kinda difficult to just up and leave just because "they're not your type" anymore eh?

[Peachy Fish]

Cash and Peach,

What if you already have s** with them?   Is that a big lost.

IMO, that's not a big lost. A big lost would be taking your last breath while staying in a loveless and no respect relationship.

[yes]

In any relationship.. .I believe that before you let go, you have to have turned/flipped every rock before you can say it's over. How do you move forward without giving your all?

Many times relationships fail because there are needs that are not being met--not necessarily because they fell out of love.  This is where communication and being open and honest is so important.

[GoldFishFighting]

never let go when you only wanted to...let go only when you they let go...