Am I at a dead end?

[yubnag]

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If the love of my life and I can't be together, for whatever the force is that separates us, and I'm not only contemplating of being a second-wife but considering of becoming one, where does this mentality put me?

I mean, look at the perks of a being a second-wife,
-you're only second place, you don't necessarily have to answer to anyone, there may be exceptions
-You can pretend to get mad at him and make him stay with his first-wife while you stay away and spend his money
-Being his partner, you'll get that emotional and mental support, as opposed to living singly
-You get to have safe sex (or unsafe, depending on your preference)
-And when you die, his family will give you proper funeral and burial rites

[yubnag]

Ob yo yubnag es!!! never am 2nd to anyone! there ARE better thingas out there for u....! he's not the only mn left ...i know ud never do it but just sayn dont be one k

Heck, if I can't marry for love, why not marry for convenience? 

[Jubi]

Girl you got a big heart then if you're willing to become a 2nd wife. Like while he's still married to his 1st wife? I know I won't be able to, so much props to you only if you can do that.

[yubnag]

Mag kochia hos!! haha xiam hlwb no! lol but jux saying theres never a dead in life...like  thread in here somewhere..eve ry dead end has a new beginning

You are right, every dead end has a new beginning; and is to become a second-wife, perhaps. lol

[yubnag]

Girl you got a big heart then if you're willing to become a 2nd wife. Like while he's still married to his 1st wife? I know I won't be able to, so much props to you only if you can do that.

Oh, you're just pulling my leg, give it to me like you mean it, Jubi, you always tell the damn awful truth. LOL!

I'd rather settle for a marriage of convenience than a solo life. lol

[Jubi]

Oh, you're just pulling my leg, give it to me like you mean it, Jubi, you always tell the damn awful truth. LOL!

I'd rather settle for a marriage of convenience than a solo life. lol

hehe no I meant it. If you can be able to do that, my hats off to you because I know that in women's nature, majority will be out the door once he brings in another one. I'm the kind that would choose to remain alone for the rest of my life than be 2nd best or just the replacement.

[Jubi]

r u that desperate to be a 2nd woman to any guy? is ur self esteem and confidence that low, that you would do so? are u that evil and heartless to divide a man's love like that? u r so young, u should not even think of such.

hahaha shampoo, yubnag did bolded it in big ole font letters "hypothetical situation" 

[yubnag]

hehe no I meant it. If you can be able to do that, my hats off to you because I know that in women's nature, majority will be out the door once he brings in another one. I'm the kind that would choose to remain alone for the rest of my life than be 2nd best or just the replacement.

I admire your strength.

I just don't want to be old, helpless, and no one wants to make time for me and put me in a neglectful nursing homes. lol

[yubnag]

r u that desperate to be a 2nd woman to any guy? is ur self esteem and confidence that low, that you would do so? are u that evil and heartless to divide a man's love like that? u r so young, u should not even think of such.

There you go! Give it like it is girl!

Well, if I ever become a second wife, it wouldn't be just to anyone. I'll pick a guy that is rich, at the very least. lol

[peas_n_queues]

You're seeing only the perks. 

[yubnag]

You're seeing only the perks. 

Isn't that's how women end up being second-wife? 

[Gemini]

Whatever you want to be or do, if you just focus on the perks, then that's what you'll be whether you are a second wife or a loveless first wife.

[Kaxiong]

I don't know how anyone can choose to become a second wife, especially in this day and age. If he loved u at all he would have put u first, it wouldnt matter what was in the way. If he can make u his second wife, why can't he make u his first wife instead.  And why would u think so lowly of yourself to feel that he's the only man u can love and is the only man who'll love you. Also how can any woman do that to any woman, basically stealing her husband.  So sad.

[yubnag]

Whatever you want to be or do, if you just focus on the perks, then that's what you'll be whether you are a second wife or a loveless first wife.

Indeed.

I don't know how anyone can choose to become a second wife, especially in this day and age. If he loved u at all he would have put u first, it wouldnt matter what was in the way. If he can make u his second wife, why can't he make u his first wife instead.  And why would u think so lowly of yourself to feel that he's the only man u can love and is the only man who'll love you. Also how can any woman do that to any woman, basically stealing her husband.  So sad.

No, if I marry to be a second, it's not love, but 'cause of convenience.