A brother and a sister's relationship

[hmongperson]

I overheard a brother and sister arguing over the kind of relationship they have,so I want to pose the question to the people to PH.

From the brother's point of view; he believes that he should have some say in the sister's life, like what she is doing and who she is going out with etc. This is due to the fact that he is also a guy, and he knows what is one most guys mind, most of the time. The second reason being that if she was to have a "love child" or get a divorce in the future it would be his face on the line and the burden would fall on him. Why not try to prevent a problem before it happens?

The sister argues that she should be able to do what she likes and sees whoever she wants since that is one luxury that the brother enjoys. Brothers who are too protective of their sisters are seen as "saving them for themselves." Women are more independent than they use to be and they can shoulder the burdens that comes with being single themselves.

[heyguys]

Ladies, if you want a real man, date a man who has a sister that he doesn't give a fawk when it comes to her relationship. 

It is not because he's anti women.  It just that he gives everyone, including you, the future wife to have her space and let her carry her own weight. 

[Reporter]

Live and let live. Freedom is here.

[Jubi]

Honestly most guys do not care what his sisters does or date, but he will not take it lightly either when rumors comes back around to him. Good brothers will still care about his sisters despite what anybody will say or what mistakes she's done. Brothers who shun or is embarrassed of their sisters only care about their own image and their own reps.

[Jubi]

Brothers do have a right to scold his sisters too.

[Reporter]

Brothers do have a right to scold his sisters too.

And not the other way around, huh?

[hmongperson]

Ladies, if you want a real man, date a man who has a sister that he doesn't give a fawk when it comes to her relationship. 

It is not because he's anti women.  It just that he gives everyone, including you, the future wife to have her space and let her carry her own weight. 

So you are saying it's perfectly fine if the sister is in an abusive relationship? The brother should turn a blind eye to that?

If one wanted their own space then one should not of gotten married in the first place. In a marriage shouldn't it be "ours" and not "mine" or "yours?"

[hmongperson]

Honestly most guys do not care what his sisters does or date, but he will not take it lightly either when rumors comes back around to him. Good brothers will still care about his sisters despite what anybody will say or what mistakes she's done. Brothers who shun or is embarrassed of their sisters only care about their own image and their own reps.

So a brother should not be embarassed about his sister cheating and then eventually killing her husband? True story by the way.

[heyguys]

So you are saying it's perfectly fine if the sister is in an abusive relationship? The brother should turn a blind eye to that?

If one wanted their own space then one should not of gotten married in the first place. In a marriage shouldn't it be "ours" and not "mine" or "yours?"

everyone carries their own weight.  If the sister wants advice, you as the brother can give it to her.  If she chose something that is stupid like an abusive husband then such reek is what she sow. 

Now if you clockblock your own sister, that I can tell you many stories of brothers who be watching their own sisters like they own that poocee.   LOL

[hmongperson]

everyone carries their own weight.  If the sister wants advice, you as the brother can give it to her.  If she chose something that is stupid like an abusive husband then such reek is what she sow. 

Now if you clockblock your own sister, that I can tell you many stories of brothers who be watching their own sisters like they own that poocee.   LOL

So if she comes asking for you to bail her out will you not? If you are willing to bail her out, then why not correct the problem before it happens so you will not have to bail her out in the future. If you do it once, she will come to you again and again. Are you going to keep bailing her out?

So you are fine with people using your sister over and over again, but nobody really wanting to marry her. It's fine if you and your family has to take care of the dozen or so "love children" that she has? Most of the time people who gets thrown around from relationship to relationship cannot take care of their own. The burden then falls onto the family.

[heyguys]

So if she comes asking for you to bail her out will you not? If you are willing to bail her out, then why not correct the problem before it happens so you will not have to bail her out in the future. If you do it once, she will come to you again and again. Are you going to keep bailing her out?

It is the same way as I treat my women.  I know they are adults with a brain so if a guy hits on them, I let her handle her own business but if she comes to me and say that guy is a jerk for hitting on her, my gf, it is time for me to engage and start whooping azz. 

I'm viet and that is what I think.  You are hmong so is that what hmong guys are thinking?  Even if a chick is a friend and a guy hit on her, are you going to pretend that she's your bf and it is your job to babysit her azz and wipe her azz too? 

So you are fine with people using your sister over and over again, but nobody really wanting to marry her. It's fine if you and your family has to take care of the dozen or so "love children" that she has? Most of the time people who gets thrown around from relationship to relationship cannot take care of their own. The burden then falls onto the family.

correction.  the burden falls on her first then it is on her parents for raising such a child.  Are you raising your own siblings?  really now?   

Good job captain save a hooee...but don't forget, your sister is not a hoe so you don't have to save her. 

[hmongperson]

It is the same way as I treat my women.  I know they are adults with a brain so if a guy hits on them, I let her handle her own business but if she comes to me and say that guy is a jerk for hitting on her, my gf, it is time for me to engage and start whooping azz.  

I'm viet and that is what I think.  You are hmong so is that what hmong guys are thinking?  Even if a chick is a friend and a guy hit on her, are you going to pretend that she's your bf and it is your job to babysit her azz and wipe her azz too?

I don't really see your point here. If she is being hit on, then be my guest. But if she is being hit then I'd stand up for her.

correction.  the burden falls on her first then it is on her parents for raising such a child.  Are you raising your own siblings?  really now?  

I don't really get what you're trying to say. The burden falls on her first, but since she is a mess it falls on her parents. My point exactly, if you didn't raise your siblings why should you raise their kids?

Good job captain save a hooee...but don't forget, your sister is not a hoe so you don't have to save her.

 
I don't know what your point is here. What if she is a hoe? Does she need saving then?

[Jubi]

And not the other way around, huh?

Oh believe me Reporter, I will yell and bish at home too when I get aggravated. As siblings we each have a right to lecture and correct each other.

[Jubi]

So a brother should not be embarassed about his sister cheating and then eventually killing her husband? True story by the way.

LOL you're funny sometimes. Are mistakes not allowed to be made in life? Nobody is going to be perfect and will not have a squeeky clean track record either. (Only way one can be able to preach and still be looked on as holy, is if they are Mother Theresa or the Dalai Lama.) But of course the brother will be embarrassed, I would be too if my sister cheated on her husband and then killed him. That would break my heart too if any of my siblings commits such an act. But family is still family, most people will lead quiet lives, put it behind them and move on.

I won't like it either when I hear people talking smack about my family and they've never even met me/us before either.

[hmongperson]

LOL you're funny sometimes. Are mistakes not allowed to be made in life? Nobody is going to be perfect and will not have a squeeky clean track record either. (Only way one can be able to preach and still be looked on as holy, is if they are Mother Theresa or the Dalai Lama.) But of course the brother will be embarrassed, I would be too if my sister cheated on her husband and then killed him. That would break my heart too if any of my siblings commits such an act. But family is still family, most people will lead quiet lives, put it behind them and move on.

I won't like it either when I hear people talking smack about my family and they've never even met me/us before either.

Everyone makes mistakes, but there are some mistakes that can not be forgiven. Like the killing of an innocent person, the husband, just so the wife can be with your lover.

So, should a brother have a say in the sister's life then? If the brother knows his sister is cheating does he not have the right to lecture her, or in the olden days beat the sister?