Dr. Pebhmong: What to do?

[parana]

Parana: I thought you told me a while back that you're married?

You must have mistaken me with someone else.

[evil-in-deed]

lolz...

keep waiting for gods answer... tell her to wait for gods answer too...

[parana]

lolz...

keep waiting for gods answer... tell her to wait for gods answer too...

God has answers for everything  !  In fact, God can deliver a lovely bride to the ones who believe in him, too.

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[dianahmuas]

darling, I'm not tuav nws tus "tis".  I've stressed the importance of her spreading her wings when she graduated from college  .

 

[No regret]

The questions is not, is she right for you, the question is do you want her?  You been with her long enough, you know her already you just have to decide.

[chuleej]

I've been in a relationship for 4 years with this beautiful woman and the more she pressured me to to marry her, the more I want to pull myself out totally. I'm not afraid of commitment.  I'm just wondering if she's the one God/yawm saub gave me.  What to do?

it isn't mere coincidence that Yawm Saub brought the two of u together is that not your answer? the real problem here is you just wanted to pound her from the beginning and now that after 4 yrs and gotten enough of her you want a new pool'c whereas she's afraid of u leaving her after given up everything to u. try to put yourself in her position and see how it shift your perspective... deal with what u started, drop your desire and learn to love.

[DeceiversChick]

You need to explain to her your reasoning why you do not want to be married. Whatever reason it is reassure her you do love and want to be with her.

If you don't see yourself with her then you need to have a serious talk and let her go. It's not fair to lead her on if you don't plan to marry her in the future.

[parana]

it isn't mere coincidence that Yawm Saub brought the two of u together is that not your answer? the real problem here is you just wanted to pound her from the beginning and now that after 4 yrs and gotten enough of her you want a new pool'c whereas she's afraid of u leaving her after given up everything to u. try to put yourself in her position and see how it shift your perspective... deal with what u started, drop your desire and learn to love.

Thats deep!  I'd say the same thing to someone in that position too  .  Thanks!

[parana]

The questions is not, is she right for you, the question is do you want her?  You been with her long enough, you know her already you just have to decide.

Thoughtful reply.  I like.

[parana]

You need to explain to her your reasoning why you do not want to be married. Whatever reason it is reassure her you do love and want to be with her.

If you don't see yourself with her then you need to have a serious talk and let her go. It's not fair to lead her on if you don't plan to marry her in the future.

Thanks, DC.  Thoughtful comment as always.

[AOZ]

tell her u need space and that u both should start seeing others!   

[parana]

The questions is not, is she right for you, the question is do you want her?  You been with her long enough, you know her already you just have to decide.

NR, If I explain my reasons...., I'll be sounding like a frgin philosopher to her, which I think I am for the most parts  .

[Kaxiong]

You're just stringing her along cause you're afraid you won't find any better but you're also afraid there is someone better out there.

Honestly I was there once, I was with him for 5 yrs. He asked me 4 times to marry him and I kept stalling. But after awhile I realize the problem was me. I needed time to find myself and find out what I wanted in my life and future.

[Evil_K_Man]

For starters, how about telling us why you won't/can't commit to a marriage with her.