My father's funeral, we didnt have a Txiv Xaiv, per his request. While he's still alive, he said, "Kuv tej lus nyiaj lus kub, tej koob tej hmoo, tej kev fajtimhuabtais, kev txawj kev ntshe, ces kuv twb muab tag rau nej, cov uas mloog kuv lus. Yog kuv tus mob tsis tso kuv tseg es kuv tso nej tseg, ces txhob kom lwm tus hais kuv li lus."