How many bad guys does a woman have to go through in meeting and dating until she will finally find herself with a nice, decent, and genuine man? As careful as she is, sometimes, she meets these guys who come across as convincing enough to let her guard down and open up. She gives them the chance to get to know her, conversations bounce back and forth, and there is the first kiss. She's thinking that maybe "he" might be the right guy this time then the next thing the guy is telling her that he's not ready to be in a relationship; that he might end up disappointing her only. She pulls herself to believe that love is fake, and fairytale romances are delusional b.s. She finds herself building another protective wall as a means of self defense from these lying, cheating, and conniving jerks again. Her girl friends tell her to keep being patient because that it will happen someday for her, the right one hasn't come along yet, etc.
Through all the ups and downs in her life, she has toughen up and come to terms of planning her own future with her priorities. She focuses on the more important aspects of her life: career, education, family, and a close knit circle of friends. She works on herself to improve her weaknesses and develop her strengths. She has learn to love herself because that's the number one, most valuable thing that she can do for herself. She remains true to herself and presents herself in that light--no fake personality, trying to pretend to be someone that she's not. She understands how the dating realm works, how guys' mentality are, and she knows that it takes time.
She doesn't have high expectations and tries not to set her hopes up too much for each encounter. She goes with the flow--So then in the end, the outcome remains unfavorable in her side and she is left with starting all over again; finding herself with less trust in the opposite sex. On the whole, she is still lonely.
What are your thoughts?
Topic: Dear Dr. PH (Read 763 times)