Yes or No

[Christa]

I met this guy and I think we hitted off pretty great. I see him pretty often, because of certain things that requires so. I think he likes me to given that he is always around me even when he doesn't have to be. There's also other things that says so. The only thing is, he's asked me to attend events with him, but he has a girlfriend. I don't want to become the reason as to why they're going to break up. Should I just go with the flow and see where things lead to?

[Jubi]

He probably wants to date you, her, and and possibly another girl all at the same time, so don't fully commit to him either. Be open hearted and go with the flow and be prepared to pick yourself up in the end if doesn't work out. Guys can seperate feelings and find time to balance time between his girls. Guys like to date a lot of girls at the same time to see which one will be most the compatible with him. I think that's crazy and asking for drama though, girls can get crazy and catty, so I don't understand how some guys can be in multiple relationships in today's modern times. Just as long as he's not married, you'll get fingers wagging at you if you're dating a married man. I prefer a one-woman kinda guy though, that will devote his time and attention to me and only me. But if you must compete with another chick, go ahead, but play it smart and cool.

[foromosa]

Sure, if you want trouble. 

I don't get it. If he is doing this with his current gf, what makes you think it would be any different even if you two were to hook up? 

[Drift1Leeg]

just do it...you have nothing to loose..in this crazy world..its all about competition.

[ERASURE]

Hopefully, his gf won't haha slap you when she sees you......Women these days can get very feisty....  If he's gonna ask you...why won't he ask his gf first instead..

something fishy here...

[DonJuan]

Agree with Jubi. Let him know up front because you seem to also like him. Dating requires no commitment, that's why you date before getting married to find out if you can commit. However, you should question this guy's character though!!!  You wouldn't want to be on the other side.

[Gemini]

I know you're not married and not obligated to each other. He's not obligated to her too. Everything is open until you are officially married so pretty much you can see whoever you want but out of respect for yourself and for other females, you shouldn't do that. Plus, how he treats other women is how you will be treated too if he hasn't promise you anything.

[yajmafia]

So.. he's talking to you .. and at the same time has a girlfriend.. hm.. what makes you think he wont get someone else?

[C@$H]

I met this guy and I think we hitted off pretty great. I see him pretty often, because of certain things that requires so. I think he likes me to given that he is always around me even when he doesn't have to be. There's also other things that says so. The only thing is, he's asked me to attend events with him, but he has a girlfriend. I don't want to become the reason as to why they're going to break up. Should I just go with the flow and see where things lead to?

NO and be warned...he wants to hit it and quit it.

[DeceiversChick]

Sure, if you want trouble. 

I don't get it. If he is doing this with his current gf, what makes you think it would be any different even if you two were to hook up? 

[Christa]

He probably wants to date you, her, and and possibly another girl all at the same time, so don't fully commit to him either. Be open hearted and go with the flow and be prepared to pick yourself up in the end if doesn't work out. Guys can seperate feelings and find time to balance time between his girls. Guys like to date a lot of girls at the same time to see which one will be most the compatible with him. I think that's crazy and asking for drama though, girls can get crazy and catty, so I don't understand how some guys can be in multiple relationships in today's modern times. Just as long as he's not married, you'll get fingers wagging at you if you're dating a married man. I prefer a one-woman kinda guy though, that will devote his time and attention to me and only me. But if you must compete with another chick, go ahead, but play it smart and cool.

I figure that since he is not married, his options are still available. If he was married, I would have never consider this. I sort of see that the single dating game is to explore different oppurunities.

[Christa]

Sure, if you want trouble. 

I don't get it. If he is doing this with his current gf, what makes you think it would be any different even if you two were to hook up? 

You made a great point, but what if he is exploring his options? I mean, he is still single. 

[Christa]

just do it...you have nothing to loose..in this crazy world..its all about competition.

Great motivation lol.

Hopefully, his gf won't haha slap you when she sees you......Women these days can get very feisty....  If he's gonna ask you...why won't he ask his gf first instead..

something fishy here...

I can't control what she does with her emotions, but he just wants me to go and I don't know the reason behind it. We're not together right now, because of his relationship with her, but I think how things are going right now between the both of us, he might end things with her.

Agree with Jubi. Let him know up front because you seem to also like him. Dating requires no commitment, that's why you date before getting married to find out if you can commit. However, you should question this guy's character though!!!  You wouldn't want to be on the other side.

Absolutely agree.

So.. he's talking to you .. and at the same time has a girlfriend.. hm.. what makes you think he wont get someone else?

I've considered this already, but what if he's at a dead end with the current relationship and wants to move on to something different/new? I know I can't guarantee myself or have him guarantee that he won't do the same thing to me, but what if it's just simply wanting to move on with a new direction?

[DeceiversChick]

goodness! why are you trying to pursue a relationship that isn't yours from the beginning? put yourself in the other girls position. how would you feel if your bf was talking to another chick and she didn't give a rat azz if there was a gf or not? Wouldn't you go crazy and want to kick her azz too?

I know it takes two to tangle but with that kind of thinking you'll be a homewrecker soon. Girls like you give us women bad names. I would hate to be your friend.

[DonJuan]

She is not a homewrecker because the guy and girlfriend are not married.  There is nothing wrong in exploring when dating.  As long as no intimacy is involved, it is up to him to make a choice.