Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?

[Justakiss]

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[Lady_Fallin]

Be honest with yourself. You're sticking with the bf cause he's safe.

That's not very nice... *sigh

Seems like you want some exploring so go explore. You already know the answer. You want to dump him, but you don't want to be mean, either. Well, you're not being mean; you're helping him find someone who actually is "in love" with him.

Good luck with the new guy.

[DivineTreasure]

Be honest with yourself and follow your heart.  It's better now that even later. Best of luck.

[Christa]

If your not in love with him then it's better to let him go. Sometimes it's better to love the one that loves you more but it doesn't always work out that way.

[Json]

It's over since you told the other guy that you have a BF.  It's good that you're honest.  Even if you broke up with your current BF and started dating the new guy, the guy may have second thoughts.  "She dumped her BF to date me.  That same shit could happen to me too."  I say end the relationship with the current BF and do some soul searching.

[kojtusphabej]

I say tell your boyfriend to dump you...because he should be the one dumping and not you making that decision...you have no right whatsoever in my dictionary...y ou wasted eight years of his life...I can't believe he is this blind not to see your true self all of these years...if it I was me I would have "smelled" you out and dumped you so fast like taking a "shit" after eating hot papaya salad...

[Json]

I say tell your boyfriend to dump you...because he should be the one dumping and not you making that decision...you have no right whatsoever in my dictionary...y ou wasted eight years of his life...I can't believe he is this blind not to see your true self all of these years...if it I was me I would have "smelled" you out and dumped you so fast like taking a "shit" after eating hot papaya salad...

+1

[VaajMoob]

base on your "feeling" you will be divorced one day no matter who you married.

[MilesDaddy]

I've been stressed lately trying to make the right decision. So here it goes, my bf and I have been together for 8 years! I'm 24 y. O. He's 26. He loves me more than I love him. I love him alot, but don't think I'm inlove with him anymore. Even frOm the beginning, I never had butterflies or affection for him, but it just developed because we dated for so long..but with this other guy, I have butterflies, my heart beats fast when I see him, just thinking about him puts a smile on my face. He asked my out to dinner, and thats when I told him I had a bf. He's a good guy and I want to be honest so no one gets hurt. But I recently have been thinking and not sure if I still want to be with my bf. Although he loves me alot, we I changed throughout the years. Although we dated for a long time, I want to focus on my true feelings, and I don't know if I can see myself with him. What should I do??

SEE IF THE GRASS IS GREENER FIRST
Just kidding...so you always had so so feelings for your BF?... let's face it, 8 years is longer then some marriages.. You should break it off NOW.. you been with him since you were 15 or 16??? at least creak it off...... No matter what you will start comparing every guy to your BF.. Besides you should find out who you are before you try to find someone to fit in the pic

[boO]

I say tell your boyfriend to dump you...because he should be the one dumping and not you making that decision...you have no right whatsoever in my dictionary...y ou wasted eight years of his life...I can't believe he is this blind not to see your true self all of these years... if it I was me I would have "smelled" you out and dumped you so fast like taking a "shit" after eating hot papaya salad... ...

Harsh but funny and true!
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Your relationship with your boyfriend was over the minute you started contemplating what ifs with this new guy. The reality is that people change over time. What I hope from you is that you do the right thing. If you feel that your bf can no longer meet your needs you break up with him before you pursue the other relationship. Do not waste any more of your bf's time because he deserve better than this.

Good luck!

[BuckFuddies2]

You'z a hoe.   

PM me.

[DonJuan]

8 years is misleading because you are only 24 years-old. You were just a girl and he was a boy when you guys first met, do calculate that into your calculation. You should and ought to see other men before making any kind of commitment. You'll do him and you a favor. It may be hard at first but marriage relationship is not to be taken lightly.

Lots of childish comments in here. Perhaps their manhood are being affected.  Moderators sure seem not doing anything about personal attack either. Interesting.

[magicofju]

Lots of childish comments in here. Perhaps their manhood are being affected.  Moderators sure seem not doing anything about personal attack either. Interesting.

*cough* I call bullchit on this dilemma too.  Okay but true story or not, outsider people will always critisize and judge another couple's relationship, that's why I won't talk about my love life out loud to anybody in here, even if I did have one.

Good luck guy or girl alter ego! People are so fake online!

[Justakiss]

It's over since you told the other guy that you have a BF.  It's good that you're honest.  Even if you broke up with your current BF and started dating the new guy, the guy may have second thoughts.  "She dumped her BF to date me.  That same shit could happen to me too."  I say end the relationship with the current BF and do some soul searching.

I thought about that as well. How could the née guy trust me if I was doing this behind my bf's back? If we do get together he might not trust me, that's why I decided to tell him that I had a bf and turned down dinner. He obviously sees something in me, he told me straight ip that hes not the type to steal other man's woman. Which I think is great, because it's shows that he respects me and my bf to know his boundaries, as do I. Which just makes me want to get o know him more. I've never felt this way towards a guy! I feel like a bad person for having these thoughts about another man, but I can't stop my heart. I've tried.

[Justakiss]

I say tell your boyfriend to dump you...because he should be the one dumping and not you making that decision...you have no right whatsoever in my dictionary...y ou wasted eight years of his life...I can't believe he is this blind not to see your true self all of these years...if it I was me I would have "smelled" you out and dumped you so fast like taking a "shit" after eating hot papaya salad...

He says he loves me alot and get dump me, but I have to dump him inorder for him to be able to let me go. He tells me he's been distancing himself from me a bit so it'll be easier to let me go. So we've had these talks about breaking up, but he always comes back and everything is ok.  I might regret letting go of someone who loved me alot, but I don't know if I should be with him even when my feelings are not as strong anymore.