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Offline LELIA

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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #90 on: August 04, 2011, 12:10:53 PM »
Quote from: yajmafia on August 03, 2011, 06:33:00 AM
Butterflies is of course going to happen because he's some cute guy that shows interest.


If you have to ask yourself what you should do?  Obviously, you're not in love with your boyfriend.  Don't hold onto anything you know that isnt GENUINE!

agree..if u r NOT in luv.. u will always wander..so let the poor guy go.


butterflies? um.. no one has butterflies forever.. in every beginning.. u hv butterflies... but those fly away after a few trips to the bathroom. so.. know when it's infactuation.. and when it's real before u live with lots of regrets.



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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #91 on: August 04, 2011, 12:35:23 PM »
Just look @ lelia's signature!!!  :D



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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #92 on: August 04, 2011, 01:04:18 PM »
Imagine that you married him when you were younger, you'd be a divorce statistic now. If you stay with him, you'd be a divorce statistic later too so might as well go sow your wild oats.



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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #93 on: August 04, 2011, 02:08:39 PM »
95 replies, 7 pages and over 800 views.  Does this person really need any more advice?  Or we we just bored and cant resist dumb down drama?  ::)



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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #94 on: August 04, 2011, 03:43:18 PM »
Quote from: Pain on August 04, 2011, 02:08:39 PM
95 replies, 7 pages and over 800 views.  Does this person really need any more advice?  Or we we just bored and cant resist dumb down drama?  ::)


 ;D ;D ;D Oh you know we love to give our two cents. She probably made her decision last night already and here we are still posting away...  :2funny: :idiot2:



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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #95 on: August 04, 2011, 04:08:22 PM »
Quote from: Sweet_Tears on August 04, 2011, 03:43:18 PM

 ;D ;D ;D Oh you know we love to give our two cents. She probably made her decision last night already and here we are still posting away...   :2funny: :idiot2:
;D ;D ;D freakin ph!!



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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #96 on: August 04, 2011, 04:38:53 PM »
I can see where this relationship is heading allready, I feel sorry for your poor boyfriend

ohwell thats what he gets for loving you more than you loving him

by the way just leave him while you still can, and face it he is not the one

cause you never felt the way for him as you did for this other guy



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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #97 on: August 04, 2011, 07:04:08 PM »
Quote from: Sweet_Tears on August 04, 2011, 03:43:18 PM

 ;D ;D ;D Oh you know we love to give our two cents. She probably made her decision last night already and here we are still posting away...  :2funny: :idiot2:

Yep...she did made her decision last night, she picked me, the new guy...and I sent butterflies up her stomach making sounds of soothing music up her brains and out her ears...so now I'm just about to start a new thread on this...like should I dump her now or not..haha... :2funny:



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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #98 on: August 05, 2011, 09:21:47 AM »
Quote from: kojtusphabej on August 04, 2011, 07:04:08 PM
Yep...she did made her decision last night, she picked me, the new guy...and I sent butterflies up her stomach making sounds of soothing music up her brains and out her ears...so now I'm just about to start a new thread on this...like should I dump her now or not..haha... :2funny:

Gosh siab phem tshaj!  ;D ;D



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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #99 on: August 05, 2011, 10:25:56 AM »
Stay with your bf, you will regret it if you leave.  You want a bf who loves you more than you love him, bc you will learn to love him later, but the man will never learn to love you more if he love you less in the beginning. 

What you are feeling towards the new guy is, lust, fun,  excitement, something new…etc.  These are qualities that don’t make a love last.  They are only temporary qualities.  After you date the new guy for a while and those feeling are gone, you will recover and feel guilty for leaving your current bf.  You only want what you don’t have and grass is not always greener on the other side.  Everyone gotz problems, if your current bf don’t have a major problem that you can’t deal with, stay.  Once you leave and date the new guy for a while, you might come to realized that he might have a major or much worst problem that you can’t deal with and trust me, EVERYBODY GOTZ PROBLEMS. 
When a man love you more, it is GOLD to a relationship, bc you will learn to love him.  When a woman love a man more, the man gonna step when he feels like it, that’s just how we dudes are built. 

Stay, you already found the treasure, why want more, you just lose it all in the end. O0



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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #100 on: August 05, 2011, 11:03:12 AM »
Quote from: woofwoof on August 05, 2011, 10:25:56 AM
Stay with your bf, you will regret it if you leave.  You want a bf who loves you more than you love him, bc you will learn to love him later, but the man will never learn to love you more if he love you less in the beginning. 

What you are feeling towards the new guy is, lust, fun,  excitement, something new…etc.  These are qualities that don’t make a love last.  They are only temporary qualities.  After you date the new guy for a while and those feeling are gone, you will recover and feel guilty for leaving your current bf.  You only want what you don’t have and grass is not always greener on the other side.  Everyone gotz problems, if your current bf don’t have a major problem that you can’t deal with, stay.  Once you leave and date the new guy for a while, you might come to realized that he might have a major or much worst problem that you can’t deal with and trust me, EVERYBODY GOTZ PROBLEMS. 
When a man love you more, it is GOLD to a relationship, bc you will learn to love him.  When a woman love a man more, the man gonna step when he feels like it, that’s just how we dudes are built. 
Stay, you already found the treasure, why want more, you just lose it all in the end. O0


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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #101 on: August 05, 2011, 11:13:39 AM »
Applaud...agre e...hey "Justakiss" sorry about all the previous comments made by me...I'm just playing the devil's advocate and want you to see both sides...if he cheated on you...dump him...any other issues please work it out...it's a part of life and relationship.. .love is "GOLD" in this world...please allow me to re-quote my quote here: LOVE IS CREATING THE RIGHT RELATIONSHIP.. .IT IS NOT HOW MUCH YOU LOVE SOMEONE...BUT HOW MUCH LOVE YOU BUILT TILL THE END.



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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #102 on: August 05, 2011, 02:31:31 PM »
Thanks to everyone for all of your advice and input. I have taken them all in and really soul searched. I realize that my bf is an amazing catch, and his love for me is soo unconditional. He really loves me for me even with my bads and goods. Those butterflies has subside and I dont think I should throw our 8 year relationship away for a guy a barely know. If the other guy and I were soul mates, then I believe we will meet again and I wouldn't have to hurt someone to be with him. It should come naturally. I've learned that LOVE is something that is built through time. The other guy is a great catch as well, but I guess not for me. I already have one standing next to me. Love is not always so complex, we just need to choose the right path and find answers in order to make the right decision for ourselves. Yes, sometimes some people will have to hurt and you will have a make a hard decision that may change your life forever, but as long as you are ready to face the consequences head on, you will be fine. It's ok to be selfish sometimes, but for the right reasons. Let this be a lesson for those in the same shoes as me to learn from.



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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #103 on: August 05, 2011, 02:38:21 PM »
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Re: Stay with bf of 8 years or new guy?
« Reply #104 on: August 07, 2011, 09:43:05 AM »
Well then swing dis way ma  8)



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