Disapproved relationship

[Sweet_Tears]

What would you do if you are dating someone that your family disapproved? Would you continue dating that person because afterall, it's your choice or would you take your family advices and leave him?

[tetrapod]

What would you do if you are dating someone that your family disapproved? Would you continue dating that person because afterall, it's your choice or would you take your family advices and leave him?

I had a sister that date someone we disliked.  Her life pretty much was ruin by marrying the guy.  He was simply a bad person but she was too blind to see.  I hope nothing like this will ever happen to me.  I do not want to be a slave to my sex drive and love chemicals going on in my head.

[Christa]

Some people can't differentiate between reality and fantasy. If you're one of them, I suggest listening to your family, because most of the time, they will want what's best for you.

[yes]

If it comes from family and close friends....it's best to listen to them.



If not, be cautious. Don't be in in with one eye opened.

[Peachy Fish]

What would you do if you are dating someone that your family disapproved? Would you continue dating that person because afterall, it's your choice or would you take your family advices and leave him?

I dated someone that my parents disapproved of - it was b/c he wasn't Hmong. For a couple of years, they tried so much to get me to stop dating him...none of their antics worked. I'm glad that eventually, they learned to respect and accept him.

[DeceiversChick]

Some people can't differentiate between reality and fantasy. If you're one of them, I suggest listening to your family, because most of the time, they will want what's best for you.

AMEN! 

Honestly, if my family and friends are telling me he's no good to me he is really no good to me. They can see what I can not see and I know they all want the best for me.

[DeceiversChick]

I dated someone that my parents disapproved of - it was b/c he wasn't Hmong. For a couple of years, they tried so much to get me to stop dating him...none of their antics worked. I'm glad that eventually, they learned to respect and accept him.

Your situation is different. As long as he has respect, treats you well, and he's a good bf it shouldn't matter what ethnicity he is.

Now for some people the s/o really treats them bad and they still stick to his/her side. That I don't understand.

[Peachy Fish]

Your situation is different. As long as he has respect, treats you well, and he's a good bf it shouldn't matter what ethnicity he is.

Now for some people the s/o really treats them bad and they still stick to his/her side. That I don't understand.

Thanks DC.

That I don't understand either. I had a friend who told me that her bf broke her collarbone (not sure if this is true, though), and I told her she had a choice to leave if she wanted to, but after 3 yrs on and off, she's going to marry him. 

[DeceiversChick]

That I don't understand either. I had a friend who told me that her bf broke her collarbone (not sure if this is true, though), and I told her she had a choice to leave if she wanted to, but after 3 yrs on and off, she's going to marry him. 

Exactly that's what I mean. I guess some people want to get beat all the time. 

[DonJuan]

Hmong parents are usually very narrow minded and are self serving when it comes to marriage. But do listen to close friends and family members you trust.  But the final choice is yours alone.

[moscato]

Thanks DC.

That I don't understand either. I had a friend who told me that her bf broke her collarbone (not sure if this is true, though), and I told her she had a choice to leave if she wanted to, but after 3 yrs on and off, she's going to marry him. 

 

[tetrapod]

Hmong parents are usually very narrow minded and are self serving when it comes to marriage. But do listen to close friends and family members you trust.  But the final choice is yours alone.

Yeah but sometimes you often bring your problems back to your parents.  Let's say your parents didn't approve you marry the guy and you did anyway.  Now after 5 kids in 3 years, he went to prison and now you are left with big problems.  You have no one to turn to but your parents.  Should they be burdened with your problems?

[Gen. Invincible]

If it comes from family and close friends....it's best to listen to them.



If not, be cautious. Don't be in in with one eye opened.

Lol...please..you know you edone it too...

[the_almighty]

What would you do if you are dating someone that your family disapproved? Would you continue dating that person because afterall, it's your choice or would you take your family advices and leave him?

.      You should know that love doesn't have hollywood endings.  If you disregard your family and he took off with someone else.  What then?  Alienating your support group means you will depend on him more, is he really strong enough to bare the burden.  Don't be a fool, remember that what you feel now will be different from what you feel later.  Then again, women can't live without drama, so it depends on the type that you are.

[yubnag]

Some people can't differentiate between reality and fantasy. If you're one of them, I suggest listening to your family, because most of the time, they will want what's best for you.

Concur.

 
i would like to think anyone in their right mind would be able to think for themselves once they are an adult.

I too.