Should you still contact your ex while you're dating

[yuknowthat]

No matter how bumpy your ride is while you're still in present 2 year relationship, should you still be contacting or talking to your ex from a couple years ago secretly? is it right or wrong for the other spouse?

[shootingstar]

For me. NO 

[Peachy Fish]

No. There must be something to hide if you have to secretly do that.

[autumnbreeze]

That is mess up! It is a SIN in my book. 

[yuknowthat]

 

[azndoll]

No matter how bumpy your ride is while you're still in present 2 year relationship, should you still be contacting or talking to your ex from a couple years ago secretly? is it right or wrong for the other spouse?

IT ISSS! It is sooo FCKING WRONG! You have no idea.. I always said, to never let your past mess with your future... I mean C'MON if your still talking to your ex, why the fuk would you even bring the person who your with now into your life, rather than just sticking with your past... Its so selfish and petty towards your other spouse. They just feel used like a rebound.. I've dealt with that before and it hurts alot.. Its cheating still... In my experience, when I found out, I cried so bad I was shaking... I never had any cheated on me before nor had I ever cheated on them... Its just a feeling you would never expect or even WANT.. If you wanna vent, you got friends, cousins, brothers, sisters, but not BACK TO YOUR EX... In that case when you do so, your giving them the upper hand and power that :hey, I still got feelings for you thats why i'm talking all this crap about the spouse to you.: It'll make the ex feel like, they are better than the person you are with now... Makes no sense and its horrifying to even talk about it..

But like they say, someone who loves you ALOT wont cheat on you rather than someone who doesnt really love you, would cheat on you... I've learned that the hard way...

[DonJuan]

And you are asking us? the answer is obvious.

[Leanne]

Bad Choice.

An Ex is an Ex for a reason.

[BeautifulDisaster]

Secretly? No, but if i really need to contact ex for whatever reason, I'll let my guy know... I don't like a relationship built on lies and secrecy

[obscurity]

No matter how bumpy your ride is while you're still in present 2 year relationship, should you still be contacting or talking to your ex from a couple years ago secretly? is it right or wrong for the other spouse?

if you have to ask then its wrong

[Sweet_Tears]

No matter how bumpy your ride is while you're still in present 2 year relationship, should you still be contacting or talking to your ex from a couple years ago secretly? is it right or wrong for the other spouse?

Yes, it's from if you are not telling your spouse. That's almost like cheating w/o the physical part only.

[autumnbreeze]

if you have to ask then its wrong

+1 

[yes]

I don't see anything wrong with catching up with an ex.

But , if it's done secretly, it's a problem.


I had an ex where we remained good friends after the break up and he still contacted me every once in a while to catch up on life, but my bf always knew about it. Didn't complain much.

[primetime]

Secretly sounds just like cheating.

[J.]

nope. kuv twb tsis niam quav tsej leeg twg li. I know a lot of them still search for me and want to see me and catch a glimpse of me again. hehehe. so fawk off   better to get with somebody new who hasn't gotten the chance to know me than to go back to qub zaub. he/them/they are all overdue, got older or uglier and probably tsis muaj zog lawm   still don't give a damn about nobody but just myself. I love being mean online