That instant attraction is great at first but if you get too close and serious, what attracted you to him/her can also hurt you back sometimes. Perhaps even turn you off and keep you away if you're not commited to that person. Say for example, a guy who you find is so friendly and charming. He's easy going and conversation is fun and endless. As you get to know him more or even become attached to him, you find that he's like that to every woman he meets. Is that something you're willing to put up with?