question, am i allow tol date her?

[parana]

I like your idea... she's having my baby!!! 

ahahahahaha... ...., not so quick, dude!  Unless you have a good career and are loaded.

joke aside

I think good guys always think of the best thing to do to avoid causing disharmony with others while bad guys just dive in for the kill.  In human society, we can analyze it from top down and it still fit the same simple principle.  If you like it, take advantage of it.  Most of us "good guys" think too much and given others our odd most respect, while trying to do what's best for everyone (in our own view) but in the end we are the Biggest loser.  I'm not saying we should act like animals and start mating with anyone we see or like but what I am saying is that we must be courageous and decisive.  Simple traditional belief should not stop us but we must not make a bunch of fools of ourselves either  .

[joot]

^^ I agreed with what Parana said.  I see a lot of good guys being sore losers in the end because they can't decide when faced with similar situations...h eard too many similar stories before...at the end what we heard was that the girl already ran away with someone else.  Found out later on that the girl's "boyfriend" were actually some menyuam laib who bedded her while the good guy was still trying to sort out the situation...so sad for the good guy.....

[Ron Burgundy]

Thread hijack, but it somewhat related....

My friend asked me about Vangs and Fangs??  Is that allowed??

[Pineapple]

Make it short,

She was born a Yang but her mom remarried to a Lee is it okay to date her since I'm also a Lee?   btw she uses her Yang last name not Lee.

You can date/marry her because she's not a Lee.  However, most likely the elderly would rather you not date/marry her because of her found new father (refer to DivineTreasure's post).  Some of the other reasons deals with the clan relationship and being that you date/marry her, you pretty much married your own clan.  I'd say it's best to talk to the elders to get some insights because that way you at least understand the depths and ties you will get yourself into and if it's worth it for you or not.   

[woofwoof]

Make it short,

She was born a Yang but her mom remarried to a Lee is it okay to date her since I'm also a Lee?   btw she uses her Yang last name not Lee.

If you follow the OG ways, the original Hmong ways, then NO, bc she is a Yang and a Lee now.  If you a westerner kind of person and don't really give a fawk what last name she is, then YES, bc who give a fawk, westerner thinking means you can do what ever the hell you want.

[Hung_Low]

Make it short,

She was born a Yang but her mom remarried to a Lee is it okay to date her since I'm also a Lee?  btw she uses her Yang last name not Lee.

Consider this: if you do go for her and eventually marry her... at any gathering, you would introduce step-dad as an "uncle" but also a "father-in-law" ewww ... how redneck/hillbilly this will sound.

Honestly though, if her step-dad disagree with you dating her then you should respect that. But if he don't care then go for it...