All Expense Paid For

[Sweet_Tears]

If you went out of your way and treated a girl to all expense paid traveling to another city to meet up with you (internet dating). By the end of the trip, nothing really happens. Would you be upset that you didn't get your money's worth? LOL

[primetime]

No, that happens in town too. Just be glad she's from out of town and you won't have to see her around unlilke the ones in town.

[Sweet_Tears]

No, that happens in town too. Just be glad she's from out of town and you won't have to see her around unlilke the ones in town.

 

[Sentinel_Li]

Nope.....not at all.  Finding her personality unfriendly and ignorant, I will want her go back to where she came from quickly, so that I'll be glad I won't need to spend anymore.   

[Sweet_Tears]

Nope.....not at all.  Finding her personality unfriendly and ignorant, I will want her go back to where she came from quickly, so that I'll be glad I won't need to spend anymore.   

It's funny though.. sometimes.. people click so well on the net but in real person, that can be a different story.

[Sentinel_Li]

It's funny though.. sometimes.. people click so well on the net but in real person, that can be a different story.

Seeing is believing. 

[k3v|n]

It's funny though.. sometimes.. people click so well on the net but in real person, that can be a different story.

happened too many times back in my early 20's lolz

[dogtags3154]

I'm sorry to say, but I have known guys who just because they take a woman on a date, they expect her to give him something. Whether it be a kiss, or even nookie that night.
 
But here is where the problem starts and lies within. They expect it so much that when they get nothing, all the respect they had for the woman goes out the window. And they start to spread rumors about the woman, bad mouth her, or pass a judgement on her that they know nothing about. Just because she wouldn't give anything back. And yes some guys on here will say, they paid so they better get something in return. And because they expect it, when they get nothing, they get all hurt, and the rumors starts.

I rather just be open about it. I mean, I made the choice to say "Yes. I'll treat you." If I said,"I'll only treat you if I get something out of it" then yes she would feel she shouldn't go. Because then I would be a jerk about everything. Instead of having expectations, I rather just go and meet her. Get to know her, and without expectations.. .the date can go as smoothly as we both want it to go. Without expetations, it can be more fun. And at the end of the night, if we do happen to end up sleeping together, well...that would just be a bonus. Instead of an obligation. And we all know bonuses are the best. Whether it be a bonus check, or bonus sex.
I'm not so selfish as to think every women wants to sleep with me, but like I said. If it does happen...Great .

[Sweet_Tears]

I'm sorry to say, but I have known guys who just because they take a woman on a date, they expect her to give him something. Whether it be a kiss, or even nookie that night.
 
But here is where the problem starts and lies within. They expect it so much that when they get nothing, all the respect they had for the woman goes out the window. And they start to spread rumors about the woman, bad mouth her, or pass a judgement on her that they know nothing about. Just because she wouldn't give anything back. And yes some guys on here will say, they paid so they better get something in return. And because they expect it, when they get nothing, they get all hurt, and the rumors starts.

I rather just be open about it. I mean, I made the choice to say "Yes. I'll treat you." If I said,"I'll only treat you if I get something out of it" then yes she would feel she shouldn't go. Because then I would be a jerk about everything. Instead of having expectations, I rather just go and meet her. Get to know her, and without expectations.. .the date can go as smoothly as we both want it to go. Without expetations, it can be more fun. And at the end of the night, if we do happen to end up sleeping together, well...that would just be a bonus. Instead of an obligation. And we all know bonuses are the best. Whether it be a bonus check, or bonus sex.
I'm not so selfish as to think every women wants to sleep with me, but like I said. If it does happen...Great .

You are right! I think if you invited someone and wanted to pay for everything you should be open to what the outcome might be. You shouldn't feel butt hurt if she doesn't want anything to do with you except chit chat and have fun as a friend only.

[dogtags3154]

Amen to that. But you and I both know, there are going to be men who are just thinking one thing when they go on dates. And I admit, I do also. That's why I want to make sure I am fresh and clean for the date. But I also leave my mind open to the thought of just being friends and having a good time, while on the date. If nothing happens, I can just say,"Thanks for coming out. And goodnight."
Instead of going home, fuming from not getting any, and then have to go home and play it myself. Hahaha.

[Sweet_Tears]

Amen to that. But you and I both know, there are going to be men who are just thinking one thing when they go on dates. And I admit, I do also. That's why I want to make sure I am fresh and clean for the date. But I also leave my mind open to the thought of just being friends and having a good time, while on the date. If nothing happens, I can just say,"Thanks for coming out. And goodnight."
Instead of going home, fuming from not getting any, and then have to go home and play it myself. Hahaha.

    That would be a big disappointment but at least you're taking it out on yourself instead.

[dogtags3154]

  That would be a big disappointment but at least you're taking it out on yourself instead.

And that's why I rather keep an open mind. Instead of having sex on my mind the whole date only to be turned down, I can just think about having fun throughout the whole date. No dissapointment s in the end.

[DeceiversChick]

I will never allow a guy to buy my airplane ticket but he can pay for all the dinner, show, activities, and shopping. That airplane ticket is my "ticket" back home if anything should happen.  I always have plan b.

[Hung_Low]

If you went out of your way and treated a girl to all expense paid traveling to another city to meet up with you (internet dating). By the end of the trip, nothing really happens. Would you be upset that you didn't get your money's worth? LOL

Why do that for a stranger that you hardly know? If you're going to plan anything extravagance.. . make sure you both understand what's at stake and both are at the level of intimacy... this way, no one will be disappointed.

[Sweet_Tears]

Why do that for a stranger that you hardly know? If you're going to plan anything extravagance.. . make sure you both understand what's at stake and both are at the level of intimacy... this way, no one will be disappointed.

Sometimes... when someone is so in love with you, they will do anything just to be with you. At times.. they do know that you are not really into them.. but they don't care.. as long as they get to be with you...just to see you.