LOVE, but not IN LOVE

[sexymomma]

Hello PH.  It's been so long since I've been on here, but I'd just want to share something with the community.  I've been in my relationship for a long time...  She was the most beautiful girl I've ever laid my eyes upon the first time we met... literally took my breath away.   Sometimes I reminisce back to that day... and I still get butterflies in my stomach and smile for no reason.  The feelings were intoxicating then.  LOVE... If you've been in love, you know what I'm talking about.  It all seems like a dream to me now.  We've grown together and grown up since that day.  I still love her, but I'm not in love with her any more.  Those exhilarating feelings are long gone.  She tells me she loves me more now than ever but as for me... I find myself drifting further and further away and I don't have it in me to tell her what's truly in my heart.     She is just as beautiful today as she was back then but I want more.  You guys know what I mean???  What is a man suppose to do in the situation.     Hope some of you can relate.  Thanks for reading.

(she is just as beautiful as today as she was back then) SO WHAT DO YOU WANT MORE THEN!? I mean c'mon now you said she was everything and still is, so whats more to ask for. Picture please! you men just don't know what you want in life huh. always want more no matter how good the one you already have is. AS long as she treats you right, cook, respect, work, got money, and good in bed.. WHAT MORE DO YOU WANT? dunno what to tell you. the rest is up to you. if she's not the one you want to spend your life with, then let her go, so therefore, she can find the one who truly loves her. This is all i can say.

[r3b1rth]

When I say this, I really mean it, I feel you.

I was in that situation once.  6+ years.  It was hard to accept but the things that needed to be said between us were said and I, personally, think it's better to be honest than to pretend to feel something that you don't feel.

Can I ask you one serious question?  How long do you plan on digging that hole?

My best advice: don't break it off at a low point in your relationship.  Get to a good feeling first and then break up.  That way you don't drag those feelings into the next one.  If you seriously need advice, pm me offline.

[miss_wis]

Aj, You should think about it... Ask her to give you  time to understand what you're going through . sometimes, I go through that phase too... Ask yourself if it's worth losing something good for nothing. hun, sometimes grass dont get greener on the other side. sometimes losing something so good to you can kill you and when you go back she might not be there any more. but then if you're not really happy any more you should tell her and see what she really feel inside too. maybe she can be feeling the same way you are too. sometimes, when people say " i love you" it doesn't mean they really mean it. they can just be saying it to cover what they really feel.