Do you ever regret not having the courage?

[yvladie]

There was this one time, when I went to the bar with a group of friends for my best friend's birthday. I was too busy looking out for my best friend because she drank too much, so I had to follow her around to keep an eye out for her. There was this one guy that I thought was cute and he smiled at me. I smiled back, but then I had to run because my best friend needed to go vomit. He was pretty much there through out the whole night with his friends too, I kept stealing glances and every time I did, he was glancing my way already and i would quickly look away out of shyness. However, we had to make a quick leave because  she saw her ex and wanted to avoid him, so we quickly left through the back door.

One thing i regretted was that i didn't build up the courage to go over and talk to him, even though i was too busy keeping an eye out for my friend, I wish i would have slipped my phone number his way.

[AOZ]

lesson learn.  now u never what could have been. 

when i was young... my cousin had a crush on guy at the new year... she didn't have the guts to approach so i approached him... and introduced him to her.   

[keng]

There was this one time, when I went to the bar with a group of friends for my best friend's birthday. I was too busy looking out for my best friend because she drank too much, so I had to follow her around to keep an eye out for her. There was this one guy that I thought was cute and he smiled at me. I smiled back, but then I had to run because my best friend needed to go vomit. He was pretty much there through out the whole night with his friends too, I kept stealing glances and every time I did, he was glancing my way already and i would quickly look away out of shyness. However, we had to make a quick leave because  she saw her ex and wanted to avoid him, so we quickly left through the back door.

One thing i regretted was that i didn't build up the courage to go over and talk to him, even though i was too busy keeping an eye out for my friend, I wish i would have slipped my phone number his way.

You are a well friend to be looking out for your friend. I wish I have friends like you.

[chingy-vang]

NO, he was the one who had no guts to approach you.

[MilesDaddy]

your an awesome wingman

[thePoster]

Next time, don't go with friends you're going to have to babysit.

[BeautifulDisaster]

More like it was his loss for not approaching u... 

[dogtags3154]

This just reminded me of what happened this past Thursday. We went to a club here, Roe. So I was hanging out with my brother in law, while keeping an eye out for my "EMO" friend. He had just broken up with her gf, and lately he's been doing nothing but drinking. And just talking to any girls he sees. Not that this is a problem, except when the girl he talks to has a bf. So I always have to make sure he's okay.

Anyway, there I was talking to my brother in law, when all of a sudden the Emo friend pulls me to a woman. Her and I start talking, and my Emo friend left us. I thought it'll be okay, since we know more than half the people there. So I started talking to this woman. You know, small talk. Then out of nowhere, her friend comes into the conversation, which was fine at first. But then her friend starts to talk about how bad Hmong men were. Now for those on here who know me on a more personal level, I would say I'm not a bad guy. I have respect for woman. But her friend made it seemed like all Hmong men were such A-holes.
I lean over to her friend and say.."Not all Hmong men are like that."
But she counters it with,"That's what they all say. And that's why I don't date Hmong men."

Needless to say, a guy you just met vs. your friend. I was at a lost. So I talked with her for a bit, while her friend kept interrupting. And then I left to find my Emo friend, telling her,"I'll see you inside."

[dogtags3154]

So now my question is....Why is there a double standard to being a Hmong man?

In other words. When most, not all, Hmong women date other races, they bash and look down on Hmong men. But when a Hmong men dates other races, most Hmong women would still do the same? I've dated outside of Asian before, but I still loved my Hmong women. For Christ sake, my mom and sisters are Hmong. I just wasn't with one at the time. I will be the first to admit some things do need to change in the Hmong culture to better assimilate the new generations to the differences in countries, but I never forgot that I was born Hmong.

[loosygoosy]

live and learn, next time don't be so shy when oppurtunity comes knocking 

[LadyLionness]

Since you give him eye contact and he didn't approach, he was probably not available anyway... b/c it seems like he was interested too... It's a good thing.  Don't regret it.

[thePoster]

This just reminded me of what happened this past Thursday. We went to a club here, Roe. So I was hanging out with my brother in law, while keeping an eye out for my "EMO" friend. He had just broken up with her gf, and lately he's been doing nothing but drinking. And just talking to any girls he sees. Not that this is a problem, except when the girl he talks to has a bf. So I always have to make sure he's okay.

Anyway, there I was talking to my brother in law, when all of a sudden the Emo friend pulls me to a woman. Her and I start talking, and my Emo friend left us. I thought it'll be okay, since we know more than half the people there. So I started talking to this woman. You know, small talk. Then out of nowhere, her friend comes into the conversation, which was fine at first. But then her friend starts to talk about how bad Hmong men were. Now for those on here who know me on a more personal level, I would say I'm not a bad guy. I have respect for woman. But her friend made it seemed like all Hmong men were such A-holes.
I lean over to her friend and say.."Not all Hmong men are like that."
But she counters it with,"That's what they all say. And that's why I don't date Hmong men."

Needless to say, a guy you just met vs. your friend. I was at a lost. So I talked with her for a bit, while her friend kept interrupting. And then I left to find my Emo friend, telling her,"I'll see you inside."

hahah, I would've said, "well in that case let me be an a-hole!" Then toss my drink into her face!

[No regret]

There was this one time, when I went to the bar with a group of friends for my best friend's birthday. I was too busy looking out for my best friend because she drank too much, so I had to follow her around to keep an eye out for her. There was this one guy that I thought was cute and he smiled at me. I smiled back, but then I had to run because my best friend needed to go vomit. He was pretty much there through out the whole night with his friends too, I kept stealing glances and every time I did, he was glancing my way already and i would quickly look away out of shyness. However, we had to make a quick leave because  she saw her ex and wanted to avoid him, so we quickly left through the back door.

One thing i regretted was that i didn't build up the courage to go over and talk to him, even though i was too busy keeping an eye out for my friend, I wish i would have slipped my phone number his way.

See that's what happened when you do that, come home disappointed and didn't get laid.  You should have took off you underwear and handed to him on your way out with your number on it.

Even if he does't call you, at least he'll remember you for the rest of your life....but i'm sure he would call you.

[C@$H]

if one really want what they want, they'll go back to get it.  knowing he was present there one time means he'll be back at the bar some other day...missed opportunity today, but don't let it happen tomorrow.  in this day and age, women to approach men is not uncommon...off er to buy him a drink and he'll reciprocate by going home with you. 

[r3b1rth]

Don't feel bad.  There's plenty of fish in the sea.  And you're still young?  Life is good.