ua sib pauj/xam khib

[jon_jon]

ahh.. i wish i had someone to uas sib pauj/xam khib whatever to her...

but i'll pretend for now.

*HITS pots and pans*

You're gonna get it tonight!

[keng]

don't marry hmoob.

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[NraugLaus]

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Keng,
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[PojNiamLubSiab]

how are you going to make any of your  marriages work if you are always xam khib? 

what many wives fail to see is that even though your husband may lack the ability to clean/cook... he makes up in other areas that the wife lacks.  so it all balances out.
 

That's the point! He doesn't make up in other areas. During the summer, he cuts the grass maybe 4 times. I've tried starting up the mower to do it myself but failed to start it up. Dude is mostly at his chicken coop, when the kids are hungry, he'll just yell at me to cook find them food, esp. on the nights I'm working and he's not, he'll only feed them junk food. He doesn't help me with my oil changes so I take it to the shop.

if i waited for a man, it will take a century, so why not just do everything yourself?.

treating him good pays off too, im seeing my hubb clean more now.

so play nice and be patient. he might just surprise you.

Don't you feel like the more you do it, the more nws tau zoo nyob puag tes puag taw? When you love someone, you'd do anything and everything for them w/o xam khib or expecting anything back but I think we've had too much going on in our past that it's just changed us and how we feel. at least me anyways.

[Believe_N_Me]

That's the point! He doesn't make up in other areas. During the summer, he cuts the grass maybe 4 times. I've tried starting up the mower to do it myself but failed to start it up. Dude is mostly at his chicken coop, when the kids are hungry, he'll just yell at me to cook find them food, esp. on the nights I'm working and he's not, he'll only feed them junk food. He doesn't help me with my oil changes so I take it to the shop.  Don't you feel like the more you do it, the more nws tau zoo nyob puag tes puag taw? When you love someone, you'd do anything and everything for them w/o xam khib or expecting anything back but I think we've had too much going on in our past that it's just changed us and how we feel. at least me anyways.

Hire someone to do the work that you don't want to do. No more of that guilt-trip and resentment over the spouse because it'll only stress you out since he's not going to change. Plus, if you want him to help around then you have to let him do it his way which apparently means feeding the kids junk food when it's his turn.

[Dok_Champa]

No, I do not feel this way towards my significant because whatever I do is out of love...  You can say love in action hahahhah...  Sometimes if I'm tired, I would ask him to help out..  but I don't keep track of who outnumber whom in whatever...

However, outside of my family like in my clan, xyov puas yog xam khib but I get annoy when other capable hands/minds sit waiting for me to take the lead on family functions, especially ones that requires the ladies planning/carrying out...  It's like they don't want to carry the heavy responsiblity. ..or the mess.  It ticks me off..

What ticks me off the most is I feel like being taken advantage of..  However, tej zaum xav li no yog xam khib, siab me..   Yog siab hloj, I shoudn't care but carry on w/ a smiles...YES..?  Txoj kev zoo...does not come over night.. it's a step by step...

[PojNiamLubSiab]

What ticks me off the most is I feel like being taken advantage of..  However, tej zaum xav li no yog xam khib, siab me..   Yog siab hloj, I shoudn't care but carry on w/ a smiles...YES..?  Txoj kev zoo...does not come over night.. it's a step by step...

That's so true. Sometimes ua neeg zoo mas nyuaj heev. Sometimes it's just never enough for some people.

I don't keep track of who out numbers who but it just ticks me off when I barely get help around the house yet keeps getting called lazy.

[divagrl]

just letting you know guys that raise chicken's, their chicken's mean more then u and the kids. When their chicken get sick or hurt, they know how to find medicane, but when their own kids/wife is sick they don't even know how for find medicane.. I never xam khib, i always think helping eachother is a good thing. i dont like my dishes pale up.. I rather do it instead waiting for him.. talk to him and tell him how u feel.

[jon_jon]

just letting you know guys that raise chicken's, their chicken's mean more then u and the kids. When their chicken get sick or hurt, they know how to find medicane, but when their own kids/wife is sick they don't even know how for find medicane.. I never xam khib, i always think helping eachother is a good thing. i dont like my dishes pale up.. I rather do it instead waiting for him.. talk to him and tell him how u feel.

u forgot to add...

fishes, guns, rifles, cars, TV's, motocycles, dogs, PS3, xbox, games,.... yea those are my babies! 

[sunrain]

It's even worse when he's fed up with all your nagging and starts finding interest in other women.  Then that's when it will get worse.  Men hates nagging women even though it's just natural in us to nag but we gotta know our limits too.  We can nag but we gotta come back and also love.  If we nag, nag, nag and start being a bi.tch about by thinking we're too good and shitzo, start degarding our husbands, start putting and stepping on his head, that's when the sky is gonna fall on us.  We will lose our husband's love, respect, even the children, and the list goes on.  We become nothing.

There's a lot of Hmong women who gets fed up of their lazy husbands who does nothing but goes to his job/work.  They leave their husbands only to find themselves back at the front door after a few days.  Why?  Because being at their family, the entire family will need you to do this, babysit this and that, need you to drive them here and there, clean this area that area ( you are doing 10X) the job at your family under their rules.  You will eventually get fed up and run back to your husband and your kids where you get to rule your own home.