Recently Engaged….

[-HusH-]

I recently just got engaged. I expressed this news to my friend of six (6) years and all she can say is "when my fiance proposed, he better get me a bigger diamond than that".

We've known each other for quite some time... been through some difficult things together and I value the friendship, but her reaction to my engagement has just been nothing, but negative. It has gotten to the point where, I'd rather not involved her with any wedding stuff because all she can think about is how much better her wedding's going to be, or what she preferred when it comes to caters, dress, centerpieces, colors, etc.

What are your thoughts? Why is she acting in such manner?

[Lady_Fallin]

Jealous, much?

Or maybe she really doesn't recognize that what she is doing/saying is affecting the way you feel.  If she truly is a good friend, find the time to sit down with her and say, "I value your opinion and our friendship, but the things you have been saying lately is making me feel ____."  Remember to use "I" statements so that she doesn't get offended.

Good luck and congratulation s!!!

[-HusH-]

Thank you for responding! Aw, thanks for the congratulation s!

This whole process has just taken a toll for the worst. All of a sudden, she’s no-where to be found. She’s distance. She’s saying things, I just can’t grasp.  I’m very vocal. I’ve tried to ask her may times why she has been acting in such manner, but she just keeps telling me;  “I hadn’t notice, my attitude has changed” .. And we leave it at that.

If she is jealous, I’d wish she would express that. There are downfalls to planning a wedding too!!

[softlips]

Congrats!

Girls can be super catty when it comes to things like that. She should be happy for you. Maybe she wants you all to herself? Or maybe she feels like she needs to hurry it up and rush it? Who knows.....it can be a lot of things.

[foromosa]

She's jealous.

Do you share the same circle of friends? Maybe she feels you are taking attention away from her.

You should probably avoid her altogether.

[LadyLionness]

It's probably best to invite her as a guest, but not involve her in your wedding or it's planning.  She is extremely jealous.  Sounds like she felt it should be her going through all of this.  It's your day and as much as you care about her, it's not right for her to ruin your wedding or your fun. 

If you involve her too much, that is all you are going to remember about you wedding.  And don't worry too much about getting her opinion on things... when it's all said and done, THAT part does not matter as much, as long as you liked the things you picked.  But her negativism will affect the whole mood of your wedding.  Plus a wedding can be very stressful, so you may lose it on your wedding day and blow up at her, just making things worse.

[HPA]

Kill an animal, have a grill out, host a reception...go home.  Done.

[non dormis]

I recently just got engaged. I expressed this news to my friend of six (6) years and all she can say is "when my fiance proposed, he better get me a bigger diamond than that".

We've known each other for quite some time... been through some difficult things together and I value the friendship, but her reaction to my engagement has just been nothing, but negative. It has gotten to the point where, I'd rather not involved her with any wedding stuff because all she can think about is how much better her wedding's going to be, or what she preferred when it comes to caters, dress, centerpieces, colors, etc.

What are your thoughts? Why is she acting in such manner?

you should tell your superficial friend that diamonds are a tool used my marketing companies to fool stupid women into believing that a worthless shiny rock can be used to signify their beliefs in a bond that is supposedly spoken between two people who want to share their lives together and that you yourself will not fall for this cosmetic monstrosity because the way you and your fiance see your love reaches beyond shiny rocks that feuds wars and starves children to death in civil wars  

and show her this picture also.



oh! where are my manners...
i forgot to say

congratulation s! happy life to you and your future husband. seriously.

[jon_jon]

Hush.. you're friend is a bit immature and inconsiderate of your feelings to be saying such childish words. sometimes friends don't watch what they're saying because they think you both just take it as a joke. did she say it jokingly or making fun of it? it could be her way of being sarcastic too... Because maybe her boyfriend can't even afford a ring. 

A ring is more of a symbolic bond between you and your fiance, which indicates that you two have committed to each other. The cost and size of a ring doesn't contain any real value of to which what matters the most is in your heart.

She'll remember what she said sooner or later, but if she never understands your feelings it's better that you tell her sooner so that she doesn't go hating on other friends or other folks with that attitude. It's not a very complimenting thing to say to anyone at all. However, you known her for a long time now, it could be her personality that is brushing you off the wrong way and you just realized it!

And if she's a real friend she will listen to you and respect your feelings. The longer you wait the longer she thinks you don't want her to be a part of your wedding etc... Which will only strain your friendship because she will be wondering why you didn't include her in your wedding.

The longer you let it burn the harder it's going take for you to put it out!

[primetime]

All I know is it's tough for single ladies when one of their own is getting hitched.

[yajmafia]

Congrats and yes, just jealous.  Don't worry about it.

[C@$H]

Were you surprise with the proposal as much as she was with your announcement?  Marriage affects everyone you've been around with.  Animosity to fear of losing a friend...her reactions could be understandable .

her comment was probably a joke...if you're offended...it's probably true that the ring was not up to your expectation.

solution is to kiss and  make love up for the last time!  

Congrats, by the way!

[woofwoof]

congrads!  Now comes the headaches, the real HEADACHES

[tetrapod]

Girls are sensitive.  Time will fix things.

[C@$H]

did he go to Jared's?