Too picky?

[yvladie]

I'm not very experience with dating. However, I want to date more, but I find it so difficult to find someone. The last few relationships I had was bad. And i am trying my very best to avoid those types of guys again. I like a guy with dreams and passion about his future and also like to have fun in the present, not some one like my past ex, who said that his dream is where ever my dream is. The guy does not necessary have to be in school, as long as he knows what he is doing. Am I too picky? or am I not looking hard enough?

[foromosa]

How old are you and where are you meeting these guys?

[yvladie]

How old are you and where are you meeting these guys?

i'm turning 22 soon. I try to be as active and out going as possible so I go to bars, clubs, parties, family gatherings, friends hangout... school? any suggestions of places?

[foromosa]

i'm turning 22 soon. I try to be as active and out going as possible so I go to bars, clubs, parties, family gatherings, friends hangout... school? any suggestions of places?

Avoid the bolded. 

[allstar]

Where are you from and what are your dreams?

[primetime]

I'll tell you the truth, it all comes down to looks. If you want a guy with good looks and a good outlook, you better be THAT much better then all the other girls.

And since you have a hard time meeting them, probably means you're behind cause usually most girls out and about knows which guys are THE ONES and what not already.

Just to remind you, your playing field should be on your side but you got about 3 years before the guys have the upper hand in chosing a mate.

[2Wicked]

I'll tell you the truth, it all comes down to looks. If you want a guy with good looks and a good outlook, you better be THAT much better then all the other girls.

And since you have a hard time meeting them, probably means you're behind cause usually most girls out and about knows which guys are THE ONES and what not already.

Just to remind you, your playing field should be on your side but you got about 3 years before the guys have the upper hand in chosing a mate.

werd...  as long as you look good guys will still chase you in your dreams.  it doesn't matter the place or time.   whether you're poor or not. 

[yes]

I'll tell you what I tell my nieces and nephews...don't take dating so serious.  Your at a point where you really don't know your potential/calling/abilities so just go and have fun and discover yourself.  Not saying you shouldn't date and be serious...just don't set the bar too high cause you kinda set yourself up for failure.  

In life I think as you get older you get wiser and know what you can and can't do and thats when you have an idea of where to set the bar.  Go and search but discover your true self while doing so, if at all take that more serious then dating. Everything "should" fall into place when you start to know your capabilities.  

I'll tell you the truth, it all comes down to looks. If you want a guy with good looks and a good outlook, you better be THAT much better then all the other girls.

And since you have a hard time meeting them, probably means you're behind cause usually most girls out and about knows which guys are THE ONES and what not already.

Just to remind you, your playing field should be on your side but you got about 3 years before the guys have the upper hand in chosing a mate.

werd...  as long as you look good guys will still chase you in your dreams.  it doesn't matter the place or time.   whether you're poor or not. 

What these OG's said. 

[Rumrunner]

Here's some advice to you kid, if you set the bar really really low you will never be disappointed.  See you want a guy with dreams but dreams are just that dreams.  His dream isn't going to mesh with yours and vice versa.

So what you need to do is say the hell with this and date each and every guy you come into contact with.  Soon you'll separate the wheat from the chaff.


Just saying.

[yvladie]

I guess I meant goals?

[1luv]

1.  Never settle for less, even if you are ugly.

2.  The ones who found the person of their dream did not happen to find them by accident. 

3.  Bottom line, it is your happiness.  Never let other potentials gain their happiness while you settle for misery. 

[boO]

Depends on the vibe you are displaying. If you're coming across as desperate of course you are going to attract losers.

I was going to say something deep and meaningful but I lost my train of thoughts.

[AF-Wife]

Just have fun and go with the flow.  You'll meet the right person when you're not even looking.

[primetime]

One thing also for you ladies, don't waste to much time invested in someone you know that doesn't make you happy. 21-24, maybe a year to two. 25+, no more then a year without making plans or you'll be sitting there lonely at 30 if things don't work.

[Sweet_Tears]

You sound like you're still young. If so, don't worry about be too serious. Have fun before settling down and PLEASE do be picky!!