Getting married after the New Year?

[Sweet_Tears]

Yuav poj yuav sev, yuav tsum xyuas caij xyuas nyoog. Cov laug feem coob tsis paub lawm, lawv thiaj li xaiv lub xyoo tshiab los ntaus ntej rau lub caij sij yuav.

Cov laug thaum ub saib caij saib nyoog yog muaj li nram qab no:

1. Lawv xyuas saib, leej twg yog tus tsav lub xyoo
2. Leej twg yog tus tsav lub hli
3. Leej twg yog tus tsav hnub sib yuav
3. Leej twg yog tus tsav lub sij hawm sib yuav

Thaum koj nkag cov caij no tag lawm ces koj yeej paub 50-80% txog ntxawm khub niam txiv sib yuav tshiav ntawd.

Hais txog ntawm ob tug kwv tig yuav pojniam rau tib xyoo los yog ob tug niam laus niam hluas yuav txiv rau tib xyoos.

Kuv tsis nco qhov kev kiam ntawd lawm. Tabsis qhov kuv nco ces yog, ib tug muaj lawm ces tug yuav tsum pluag, ib tus zoo lawm tug zoo lawm ces ib tug yuav tsum puas. Vim yog li no cov laug thiaj li txwv tsis pub sib yuav rau tib xyoo. Txawm yuav ntseeg thiab tsis ntseeg nyob ntawm nej tus kheej.

 

This is very insightful! Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I don't know if people still practice these but I know a few hmong families who are very traditional still does. Thank you.

[DonJuan]

Translation?

[Moospej]

Translation?

To look for a bride, must know when it’s the right time. Many folks had forgotten the traditional way, so they rely on the new years as a fresh start and a new beginning. To find out when is the best time for marriage the OG’s will calculate the following to predict their future.

1. The animal that rule the year…for a example: 2012 is rule by the water dragon.
2. The animal that rule by the month
3. The animal that rule by the day
4. The animal that rule by the hour
5. The moon phase aka hli xiab hli nqig.

By factoring all of the above they can predict the future by 50-80%. The other 20% is determined by the marriage couple. This is just a prediction so take it however you like.

[hmongperson]

You guys answered the question already but I just want to point out that elephant in the room. When older people use "Xyoo tsia" they do not literally mean right after the New Years. What they mean is any time after the January 1st. The problem with translating, sometimes its literal sometimes its conceptual.

[thehotone]

moospej, i would think this year is not good for those signs who can't swim to get marry right? rooster, rabbit..etc 

[Moospej]

moospej, i would think this year is not good for those signs who can't swim to get marry right? rooster, rabbit..etc 

The year 2012 is a very good year for marry. Alot of the people that i know plan on getting marry or neither planning to have a new child. 

[eclps05975]

Here are my two cents… the myth behind the story go like this… For there son, in order for him to have better luck in his marriage,  better prosperity, better things in life and good Oman, he must marry the first part of the New Year. OG’s feels or believed that by having their son be-wed during first part of the New Year, but no later then June, this will prolong his marry; do better in life and better business practice. Just like the OG saying, “marry someone that is close relative to you will less your chance of divorce” because the seed does not fall far from the tree.

Family can have 2 marriages on the same year and will not bring any bad o-men to one or another. This must be their son getting married and a daughter leaving. But if two daughters gets marry on the same year, then either one or both of the daughter marriage will not last and ends up in divorce, sickness will become between the two daughters, or wealth will only come one of the girls and not the other.

In most cases, when something like this happens, the OG’s will postpone the second girls wedding until the following year to avoid all the bad o-man. The girls parents will accept and knowledge that the second daughter marriage but everything else will be postpone.

This only relate to the girls only. For the sons, is not a problem, but again, only 2 wedding per a calendar year. The third only will be postpone and it does not matter weather this the 3 son getting marry or a daughter leaving

[LadyLionness]

No bashing against non-christians. The reason why I asked this is because I have a friend who is dating a non-christian man. They wanted to get married this year but the mom said for them to wait until xyooj tshiab before he can marry her. So, I'm just asking if there was a meaning behind this request? If not than I get it!

Hmong people believe that if you marry at the end of the year, at the end of the month, then you marriage is nearing the end too, even if you are just starting out.  So it's best to marry at the beginning of the year and beginning of the month to ensure that you have a long marriage. 

Didn't work for me, lolz!

[LadyLionness]

I don't know.. the reasoning that's why I'm asking. How about two brothers can't get married in the same year?

The reason why two siblings should not get married within the same year is that both marriage will be competing for blessings and one will succeed while the other one will fail, so to ensure happiness for all the siblings, they should not get married within the same year.

Don't you people talk to your parents or listen when the Old Folks are talking gossiping?  I love listening to old people talk.  I still do.