my take on love and relationships

[bruisedknee]

love is one of the great mysteries of life

many have tried to understand it and failed, myself included

here's what i have learned through my years:

1.  love is dynamic, and as people grow and change, so does love...it can grow stronger, or weaker, or die...there is no permanency or guarantee
2.  you can't control who you fall for, and who falls for you...if you or they happen to be married, that doesn't make it innately wrong
3.  binding love into a contract (aka marriage) does not work...you can't contain a force of nature
4.  if someone loved you then left, be thankful for the memories, don't curse their name...refer to #1 for why
5.  i'm not for polygamy or homewrecking, but i've come to understand where cheaters are coming from...if someone cheats, they're missing something in their love life...it's up to the cheatee to stay and suffer, or walk away and start anew
6.  to continue with #3, marriage tries to set rules and boundaries on love...good luck with that
7.  someday, you'll understand why some married people will glance at old flames with sad eyes during New Years
8.  to continue with #5, i'm not even sure we should call it "cheating"...that would imply that an agreement about love between two parties was broken...hello, you can't bind love with an agreement?
9.  the best love...is young love, when the fire burns hotter than the sun, summer nights are endless, and even being apart for 5 minutes hurts
10.  and finally:  when it's gone, it's gone

feel free to disagree

this is simply one man's take on love and relationships, forged by what he has endured

[freebird]

I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.
-Lord Tennyson




But you should still Google its real meaning.

[MISS-HMONG-LORD]

love is like women, "can't live with them, can not live without them."

[1luv]

1.  You sound like you got married too young.

[primetime]

Most times, ppl don't change, it's more of we can't or they can't take our shiet no more.

[tetrapod]

Man makes eating into an art and self propagation into love.  I learn a lot by watching monkeys.  We know how to make our gpd look pretty.  They don't.  We turn mating into a love ritual.  To them, it's just nature an act of survival.  Love is just a nicer way of saying mating ritual. 

[DonJuan]

love is one of the great mysteries of life

many have tried to understand it and failed, myself included

here's what i have learned through my years:

1.  love is dynamic, and as people grow and change, so does love...it can grow stronger, or weaker, or die...there is no permanency or guarantee
2.  you can't control who you fall for, and who falls for you...if you or they happen to be married, that doesn't make it innately wrong
3.  binding love into a contract (aka marriage) does not work...you can't contain a force of nature
4.  if someone loved you then left, be thankful for the memories, don't curse their name...refer to #1 for why
5.  i'm not for polygamy or homewrecking, but i've come to understand where cheaters are coming from...if someone cheats, they're missing something in their love life...it's up to the cheatee to stay and suffer, or walk away and start anew
6.  to continue with #3, marriage tries to set rules and boundaries on love...good luck with that
7.  someday, you'll understand why some married people will glance at old flames with sad eyes during New Years
8.  to continue with #5, i'm not even sure we should call it "cheating"...that would imply that an agreement about love between two parties was broken...hello, you can't bind love with an agreement?
9.  the best love...is young love, when the fire burns hotter than the sun, summer nights are endless, and even being apart for 5 minutes hurts
10.  and finally:  when it's gone, it's gone

feel free to disagree

this is simply one man's take on love and relationships, forged by what he has endured

It's a mystery as you mentioned because it does not exist. Love exists in humans because of their fear and own emptiness. Love is a reflection of what they are lacking. As a person's growth evolves, he/she will plug in some of the fear and emptiness, therefore the love will also evolve or change completely.

Love is a drug to happiness.  Like a drug, it is addicted, it is costly, it can kill, there are withdrawal symptoms, it gives a temporary high, it makes you feel worthwhile, it makes you feel good.

[bruisedknee]

1.  You sound like you got married too young.

more like too late

 

[Sweet_Tears]

All this love makes my heart hurt.

[bruisedknee]

Man makes eating into an art and self propagation into love.  I learn a lot by watching monkeys.  We know how to make our gpd look pretty.  They don't.  We turn mating into a love ritual.  To them, it's just nature an act of survival.  Love is just a nicer way of saying mating ritual.  

nice analogy

love is just an embellished mating ritual

[bruisedknee]

bruisedknee!

*waves*

forgive me if i don't recall your nick

[bruisedknee]

All this love makes my heart hurt.

try some aspirin

[peas_n_queues]

either got burned too many times or watched too many people get burned ... sorry you had to see that.  Makes a cynic out of us.

[bruisedknee]

either got burned too many times or watched too many people get burned ... sorry you had to see that.  Makes a cynic out of us.

a little bit of both

[bruisedknee]

you won't know my nick but you know me from many yrs ago.  just wanted to say "hi".   

in that case, i won't ask if you won't tell

i hope all is well