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Offline PojNiamLubSiab

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Outside the Box
« on: December 22, 2011, 02:17:01 AM »
Has anyone of you or know anyone who stayed in their relationship (say married couples) because they're too afraid of what's outside the box? You've known only that person and that person is your everything and when you think or know it's time to leave but you're scared because you don't know what could, would happen. You're afraid of the dark future you'll have to encounter because at least when you're with them, you still have the support of both sides of the family, etc etc?



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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #1 on: December 22, 2011, 08:26:27 AM »
I don't know anyone in that situation that doesn't have a kid or kids so I look at it as they're trying to make it work for the family. I believe and hope most would try to make it work instead of just leaving when things don't go their way.




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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #2 on: December 22, 2011, 08:31:35 AM »
sometimes.. you don't see yourself until you step outside of the box.



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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #3 on: December 22, 2011, 11:27:16 AM »
yeah, i know someone exactly like that. the hard part is trying and helping her to see outside of the box, but what much can you do if they don't make the decision themselves you know.  :-\



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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #4 on: December 22, 2011, 02:04:42 PM »
Quote from: PojNiamLubSiab on December 22, 2011, 02:17:01 AM
Has anyone of you or know anyone who stayed in their relationship (say married couples) because they're too afraid of what's outside the box? You've known only that person and that person is your everything and when you think or know it's time to leave but you're scared because you don't know what could, would happen. You're afraid of the dark future you'll have to encounter because at least when you're with them, you still have the support of both sides of the family, etc etc?

Lots of ppl live life like that.... in marriage/relationship, in jobs. Very common



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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #5 on: December 22, 2011, 02:19:28 PM »
here, I'll sum it all up for you in one word: Their called, Cowards.

Are they wrong from being cowards?...yes and no...well, mostly yes, they are to blame themselves..bu t then, hrmmm...nah... its all yes, they are full blown cowards....

funny part is...most of these cowards.....af ter they leave.....they GO BACK!...so hey...who cares man..each to their own....

I dont stick my hand into fire twice....do you??



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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #6 on: December 22, 2011, 05:00:32 PM »
90% of Hmong couples.



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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #7 on: December 22, 2011, 06:36:48 PM »
Quote from: DonJuan on December 22, 2011, 05:00:32 PM
90% of Hmong couples.
I was going to say.. Isn't it majority of Hmong couples? LMFAO



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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #8 on: December 23, 2011, 07:46:51 AM »
Time to step outside of the box that you've known and loved for so long =(



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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #9 on: December 30, 2011, 04:41:47 PM »
Quote from: PojNiamLubSiab on December 22, 2011, 02:17:01 AM
Has anyone of you or know anyone who stayed in their relationship (say married couples) because they're too afraid of what's outside the box? You've known only that person and that person is your everything and when you think or know it's time to leave but you're scared because you don't know what could, would happen. You're afraid of the dark future you'll have to encounter because at least when you're with them, you still have the support of both sides of the family, etc etc?

20yrs together this couple I am very good friends with. She tried to make it work for the longest time because they have a family together.  He, kept breaking every promise and every trust she had in him. After many chances she has given him, she was at the end of her line. To her the thought about being alone scared her but she finally stepped out of the box. It was a rough split, caused her to lose many friends and family member she had known in their marriage. She distant herself from any contact is how she came to realize that standing outside of the box isnt so bad...



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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #10 on: December 30, 2011, 05:12:39 PM »
If it's any consolation, you will be exiting your tiny box into a bigger one, that is all.



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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #11 on: December 31, 2011, 11:33:23 AM »
Quote from: PojNiamLubSiab on December 22, 2011, 02:17:01 AM
Has anyone of you or know anyone who stayed in their relationship (say married couples) because they're too afraid of what's outside the box? You've known only that person and that person is your everything and when you think or know it's time to leave but you're scared because you don't know what could, would happen. You're afraid of the dark future you'll have to encounter because at least when you're with them, you still have the support of both sides of the family, etc etc?

99% of Hmong marriages.



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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #12 on: January 02, 2012, 02:51:44 PM »
Everyone is afraid of the unknown. That's what's outside the box.. the unknown.  Trust me, I know OutsideTheBox.



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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #13 on: January 02, 2012, 03:09:59 PM »
Here is the truth out there for you...If the Hmong couple breaks up...The Man..welcome to a better bachelor life..you will find a 7:1 ratio of women to men..3 will be fine 2 will be okay 1 will be fa and last 1 will be fugly...pick your poison sex, lust, love, your choice..The woman...this is your competition... And if your fugly, old, and bitter...no chance with. Hmong man so choose Outside the Hmong Box.



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Re: Outside the Box
« Reply #14 on: January 03, 2012, 08:39:41 AM »
I know a lot of people like that.  Outside of the box is a 50/50 chance, sometimes its better and sometimes its worst.  Everything gots its own problems.  If you move outside, you better make sure to do your homework well before you pull the plug.  Otherwise you'll just be moving from one problem to another, possibly to a bigger problem.



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