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[PojNiamLubSiab]

So, he came back home like nothing happen? 

No he's not back yet. Been gone since Dec. 21 and heard that he and his UNMARRIED friend will be coming back the 31st.

Dear, whatever sweet words coming out of his mouth will be sweet white lies.  If you know that you don't want to walk the same path w/ him, stay strong and FOCUS on all the bad things he did to you. 

THanks, that's what I've been doing lately bc after the anger subsides then I start to think maybe we can just live side by side for the kids but I'm sure all that anger will come up again when he comes back home and I have to face him.

Im glad you will leave; now lets hope you will be strong enough to not fall for him again.

I am determined to not go back

[Evelynn]

No he's not back yet. Been gone since Dec. 21 and heard that he and his UNMARRIED friend will be coming back the 31st.  THanks, that's what I've been doing lately bc after the anger subsides then I start to think maybe we can just live side by side for the kids but I'm sure all that anger will come up again when he comes back home and I have to face him.I am determined to not go back

Tus nam hluas, I have walked the same path as you are right now.  Nwg yeej yog ib qhov zoo es koj ua sab ntev rau koj twg quas yawg vim txuj kev koj hlub koj cov minyuam.  Yes, ua sab ntev rau nwg, but don't waste your whole life chasing after him, hoping that he'll commit his life and love to you and only you...or shall I say "he's content w/ you".

It's very sad that most men wifenapped their wives, but yet, in the end, they're still not content who they'd chose and ruined our lives and robbed our youth.

In a few months or years (not more than 2yrs), if you noticed that he have not changed to be honest, righteous, and lovimg husband and father, it's time to give him space and find himself.

I, on ther otherhand, have no regrets of my ex.  I was so scared to love, and didn't date for a few years...omg... .not even talk.  After my heart was healed and ready to search for love...a few attempt at love...one, I know couldn't love my son....one, he's a lying married dog.  I never knew that the man, who can love and treasure me w/ all his heart had been around my life.  I don't regret that we had hurt few people along the way.  Tug neeg hlub yug yeej tsi dlaag rau yug le....not the small slighteous stuff.  Nwg yuav moog txuj ke twg, los yuav ib yaab abtsi, los yeej nug yug first.

You're right, try your best and ua sab ntev..ntev taag lod ntev....when all fails and there's no regrets when you move forward w/out him

[PojNiamLubSiab]

Nwg yuav moog txuj ke twg, los yuav ib yaab abtsi, los yeej nug yug first.

You're right, try your best and ua sab ntev..ntev taag lod ntev....when all fails and there's no regrets when you move forward w/out him

Yog, kuv tu siab heev vim nws mus ub mus no los nws tsis xav txog yus, tsis xav coj yus thiab txawm nws mus es yus hais kom nws yuav ib yam rau yus los nws yeej always hais tias nws tsis nco qab etc.

And yes, I have no regrets because I feel that I've done all I could and given all the love I can. After close to 6yrs and 2 children, yog nws xav change nws tus kheej ces nws yeej change puag ntxov lawm, yog nws xav hlub yus ces nws twb hlub puag ntxov lawm.

I am not even divorced yet but I already understand you when you say you're scared to love. Scared because yus yog poj nrauj es yuav muaj neeg lam los dag yus saib tsis taus yus los yeej muaj li.

[tetrapod]

He is not a good man.  Leave him.

[Evelynn]

Yog, kuv tu siab heev vim nws mus ub mus no los nws tsis xav txog yus, tsis xav coj yus thiab txawm nws mus es yus hais kom nws yuav ib yam rau yus los nws yeej always hais tias nws tsis nco qab etc.

And yes, I have no regrets because I feel that I've done all I could and given all the love I can. After close to 6yrs and 2 children, yog nws xav change nws tus kheej ces nws yeej change puag ntxov lawm, yog nws xav hlub yus ces nws twb hlub puag ntxov lawm.

I am not even divorced yet but I already understand you when you say you're scared to love. Scared because yus yog poj nrauj es yuav muaj neeg lam los dag yus saib tsis taus yus los yeej muaj li.

Tug nam hluas, if I was you, I'd end the marriage.  You're married, but yet, it's like you don't have a husband lug paab yug lod nrug yug ua iblub neej.  You deserve better, someone who'll love you completely.  Better yet, love yourself.

Tsi txhob tu sab.......you make your own path and it'll eventually take you to your destination.

Yog nwg tsi hlub koj nub no, tomorrow will not make a difference.  Don't waste your time and life away waiting for his love. You're a very independent woman, you don't need someone who doesn't reciprocate in return.  Someday, you'll thank the woman who took your place, in order for him to set you free.

[boO]

Pojniamlubsiab

I wish you nothing but happiness in the new year.

Please do not be those individuals that appear to be gungho but when he comes back with sweet words she relents and stay with him. I wish you courage to do what is right for you and your children.

Good luck!

 

[PojNiamLubSiab]

Thank you Evelynn.

Koj hais yog lawm. Ua cas yus twb muaj txiv thiab tabsis tsis pom yus tus txiv nyob qhov twg li. Niaj hnub mus rooj qaib, tsis pab yus ua hauj lwm hauv tsev tabsis niaj hnub cem yus tug nkeeg.

Pojniamlubsiab

I wish you nothing but happiness in the new year.

Please do not be those individuals that appear to be gungho but when he comes back with sweet words she relents and stay with him. I wish you courage to do what is right for you and your children.

Good luck!

 

I will need this luck and courage tomorrow thaum peb mus sib hais nrog cov kwv tij.

[MSV]

What's the update?

[jiggles]

Pojniamlubsiab,

If u really want to leave and the elders say no u cant, u need to say to hell with that and say ur gonna leave regardless. Someone like ur husband is not gona change. He needs to lose what he got in order to realize his mistake.

[shootingstar]

Pojniamlubsiab,

If u really want to leave and the elders say no u cant, u need to say to hell with that and say ur gonna leave regardless. Someone like ur husband is not gona change. He needs to lose what he got in order to realize his mistake.

x2... The elder folks will usually side with the male anyways, but nobody know's what's best for you other than yourself so do what's best for yourself. Please be honest and love yourself . Best luck and wishes

[Gen. Invincible]

Dude ran off on a PH oasis...so you have been trying to find him on the internet....lo l..look not to be insensitive..h e just need some man time.....give it to him...

[wonders]

The husband had seem kinda upset and pissed for almost a month now, just mumbling when I ask him anything. I've asked him what's wrong and he said nothing. So I've no clue what the problem is and don't know if I'm at fault. We work together, at the same place, same shift so after work on wednesday morning when I came home after staying late at work, he was already gone. I figured he must have gone to the bar w/his coworkers since one of the teamleads was leaving for a new job.

Night came and he's no where to be seen. He didn't take his cell fone but he took his laptop. His family don't know where he is and after a day later, i drove around to his friends house but didn't see his car. So it's been 2 days and 2 nights now with no sign of him. He also changed his online banking account password too which he always ask me to check for him.

Maybe this is bad but I hacked into it and turns out he took out $1000 the weekend before. Long story short, our marriage has been rough, but I guess this is the ultimate deal breaker for me to help me make my final decision, but of course I'll ask him where he's been and what he's done IF he comes back home. Even if he does tell me, I'm still making that final decision. I'm sure his brothers know where he is though because there haven't been a single missed call on his fone since he's been gone. It will be hard because I have two young children.

Mob kuv lub siab yuav tuag vim ib ntsais muag xwb kuv lub neej puas tag.

My heart aches for you too. I'm sorry, call my pu$$y wooping, but if my husb dissapears for two days and don't call, email, txt me and is still alive, be sure that he will come home to changed locks on the doors or an empty house.

It's not like he just up and disappeared, and noone called his phone, which means they know where he is. And you two have been fighting. He didn't just disappear. I hope all goes well for you. Be strong, it took my SIL 10 years before she finally left her ex after 3 kids.

[DeceiversChick]

So what's the status?

[JustMe2]

So what's the status?

relatives says to ua siab ntev....sib hlub heev heev vim muaj children lawm.... end of story....wait. .. they are currently in the 'make up' session now

[AOZ]

men are very slow learners... most men have learning disability when it comes to marriage/love. 

it'll take him a lifetime to realize his mistakes...

just have to ask yourself... do u need a man?  how would leaving him benefit you or your kids?  if you have no desire to love another man... why not stay for the sake of the kids?.... at least your kids have a dad... tau lub npe tias nrog luas muaj txiv so that your kids will not become nruag ciaj.

if you want love.. then maybe you should leave... but leaving doesn't guarantee your next pick will be better than him.  most times.... we tend to pick the same type of men... so be careful.

there is no shame in staying.  everyone makes mistakes when it comes to marriage.  no one is perfect.  marriage is tough and we go thru stages/obsticles... when the tide is high... are you the one to let go? 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ppYgrdJ0pWk