Is it safe to assume?

[Believe_N_Me]

If a man isn't eager to marry you, it's pretty safe to assume that he doesn't really love you like that. I don't care what all the critics say.

[Lady_Fallin]

No. Maybe he needs a rebound.

[1luv]

1.  Your duration of time is just 2 years.  It all depends on what you guys do in those 2 years.   Some people are in a 2 years internet relationship where they only see each other 1x a year.  Is that even a relationship?  

2.  2 years is still too young and premature to say that you are in love with someone.  What do you expect for him to do after the break up?  Sit around and mope and wonder like you do?  He moved on and so should you should be the right answer.  Your job is to move on but gradually moving on.  It is not a race where you have to beat him in getting a replacement.  It is a marathon instead.   If you do so and in so short amount of time, it then becomes a rebound.  Those who plays the rebound role have mental issues and are unable to cope with their losses.  It is a lose lose situation in this case.  Let him screw himself up if he wants to move on so fast.  You let them bye gones be bye gones and you do what is best for you.  Moving forward is your best policy.  The world continues to move forward on each tick of the clock, the question now falls back to you, have you?  

[Gen. Invincible]

Now you know the real truth...men really leave women...when we are done we move on...no pun intended..

[saki saki]

Is it safe to assume that someone never loved u after being with u for 2yrs and the minute he says goodbye he's already hooking up with other girls and talking to other girls? I was just wondering cause I still love and miss him so much I can't even imagine being with anyone new..Is this how guys are? It's my first real relationship I can't even imagine moving on and he tells me he's talking to others already...

1st of all rule #1. never assume cuz it'll make an (ass--of--u--N--me). That is wat the meaning of that word. Just be glad that U 2 aren't marry. I no it hurts and you might not have closure with that S/O.. but you'll soon forget about him. no need to linger in the past. Although it hurts from time to time. Life goes no with or without you.

[ziggie]

 

[Believe_N_Me]

To help you move on, think of only the good times and accept that people change, the timing wasn't right, life goes on. If you only focus on the break-up then yeah, it'll definitely suck and you'll grovel about it for months on end. You lament because you're still making excuses for him. What you need to do is come up with 2 lists of pros and cons. First list is to write down his good and bad qualities. Second list is to write down the qualities of the relationship.

Next, look at the "pro" side of the list. My guess is that you can find all those qualities in someone else. So there you go, the world doesn't have to end and so what if he isn't the one? 

[iSpink]

Is it safe to assume that someone never loved u after being with u for 2yrs and the minute he says goodbye he's already hooking up with other girls and talking to other girls? I was just wondering cause I still love and miss him so much I can't even imagine being with anyone new..Is this how guys are? It's my first real relationship I can't even imagine moving on and he tells me he's talking to others already...

You have lots to learn young grasshopper...
Tell that idiot to blow it outta his ass the next time he contacts you and says he still wants to be "friends"

[No regret]

The question you should be asking is, how can I be smarter and read the signs that a guy doesn't really love me so you won't make the mistake and get left in the dust again.


But your case isn't that bad, I've heard of cases where one of the spouse dies and right after burial that other spouse is already with somebody else.

[saki saki]

The question you should be asking is, how can I be smarter and read the signs that a guy doesn't really love me so you won't make the mistake and get left in the dust again.


But your case isn't that bad, I've heard of cases where one of the spouse dies and right after burial that other spouse is already with somebody else.

tat is bad.

 Or how about hmong split up.and before the table is all said and done.the ex wife, runs off too marry the new bf but they went to court.to get marry..how lame is that..stupid hmong lady.

[Sleipnir]

The first cut is always the deepest...

eh, it's the second one that poisons you... 

[DonJuan]

Most Hmong men are strange. Perhaps due to the culture molding them all to act a certain manner and as much as and as well as women.  I just don't find much difference between most Hmong people. They all are the same. Most Hmong men tend not to communicate or display anything beforehand before leaving either.
But that's the game of dating.  

Anyway. This is why you ought to give 100% of yourself, mind and soul with no expectation when dating but 0% and I mean 0% percent sex before marriage.

Learn your lesson, move on. Have respect for yourself.  He is not worth your time as a friend.

[I_am_She]

why is everyone assuming that she was giving away the milk for free? She could had been locking up those jugs and he moved on because he couldn't have a sip?

Regardless of the case, if he did love you, he does not any more. Do not become his "friend". Change your phone number if you have to if you cannot stop yourself from picking up his phone calls/texts.

Eventually, you are going to realize that he was just a stepping stone to get to your one true love.