GUYS!! What are the secrets to make the BF trust the GF?

[Justakiss]

Thanks for those with genuine answers!

[yuknowthat]

it's the things you do when he turns his back from you? you have to know when you have a man..(want to act like you're single when he's not there, just have this in mind..he can do the same exact thing too)
goal oriented-meaning focus on the most important thing in your life first and know what you really want
be committed and take things seriously if you do want them to be serious with you. no procrastinatin g all the time.

[FXMiltownGuy]

If u don't  club or lie talk to guys I don't see why he wouldn't
Marry u unless he not planning to marry u cause there are
The what ifs some girl out there that's  better

[AF-Wife]

A lot of times you have done all the right things to make him trust you but I notice the insecure guys have trust issues and it's not you but them.

[non dormis]

I know guys are simple and little things goes a long way.. I'm ready for marriage and he keeps telling me he doesn't trust me enough to marry me. We've been together for a LONG time and love eachother really much! He loves me more than I love him - I don't take advantage of him, and we've been through our ups and downs (like every couple)! I trust him completely- he's honest and a great guy!

I'm just curious from the guy: What can a girl do to make you trust her? I know, dont go out clubbing, talking to other guys and don't lie..etc...but what else? Guys think differently and just curious if there were any "secrets" unknown to the ladies that makes a guy trust a lady.

If he keeps telling me to wait, then I want out, because I don't want to waste my time if we are not going to get hitch! Ya know what I mean?

Anything helps!

well, for starters this would be a good reason why he doesn't want to marry you.

I've been stressed lately trying to make the right decision. So here it goes, my bf and I have been together for 8 years! I'm 24 y. O. He's 26. He loves me more than I love him. I love him alot, but don't think I'm inlove with him anymore. Even frOm the beginning, I never had butterflies or affection for him, but it just developed because we dated for so long..but with this other guy, I have butterflies, my heart beats fast when I see him, just thinking about him puts a smile on my face. He asked my out to dinner, and thats when I told him I had a bf. He's a good guy and I want to be honest so no one gets hurt. But I recently have been thinking and not sure if I still want to be with my bf. Although he loves me alot, we I changed throughout the years. Although we dated for a long time, I want to focus on my true feelings, and I don't know if I can see myself with him. What should I do??

just saying.

[Justakiss]

well, for starters this would be a good reason why he doesn't want to marry you.


just saying.

haha obviously, thats a major factor! I like how you took the time to go back to that thread. (sarcastically, goes to show are probably on here alittle too much than you should lol) I still don't regret any of the decisions I made from that situation, thats what happens after dating for 9 years! I'm sure you couldn't begin to understand being in a long relationship like that and what it brings, happiness, joy, heartache, pain, revenge etc.. But it definitely makes the relationship stronger.

[Justakiss]

it's the things you do when he turns his back from you? you have to know when you have a man..(want to act like you're single when he's not there, just have this in mind..he can do the same exact thing too)
goal oriented-meaning focus on the most important thing in your life first and know what you really want
be committed and take things seriously if you do want them to be serious with you. no procrastinatin g all the time.

gotcha thanks!

[aHMONGrican guy]

Yeah it might be that you're the type of chick who like to stray. You keep falling in and out of love all of the time.. There is no stability.

[freebird]

Ask him what it is that he is unsure about and go from there. It could be something like you're wishy washy and when ever you guys argue, you always leave or threaten to leave. Who wants to commit to a person like that?

[non dormis]

haha obviously, thats a major factor! I like how you took the time to go back to that thread. (sarcastically, goes to show are probably on here alittle too much than you should lol) I still don't regret any of the decisions I made from that situation, thats what happens after dating for 9 years! I'm sure you couldn't begin to understand being in a long relationship like that and what it brings, happiness, joy, heartache, pain, revenge etc.. But it definitely makes the relationship stronger.

i'm not sure what you're trying to point out. you asked a question and i answered. there is no need to get defensive and start accusing me, someone you don't know, on how i would not have any understanding on how it feels like to be in a long term relationship. that is totally unrelated to the topic you posted up.  i'm sure i have much more experience than you than you would like to believe.

but the topic at hand here is why you think he doesn't trust you enough to marry you. i think you got your answer. if i was in his shoes i'm sure i wouldn't want to marry you also considering what you did. just saying.  

[Justakiss]

i'm not sure what you're trying to point out. you asked a question and i answered. there is no need to get defensive and start accusing me, someone you don't know, on how i would not have any understanding on how it feels like to be in a long term relationship. that is totally unrelated to the topic you posted up.  i'm sure i have much more experience than you than you would like to believe.

but the topic at hand here is why you think he doesn't trust you enough to marry you. i think you got your answer. if i was in his shoes i'm sure i wouldn't want to marry you also considering what you did. just saying.  

I've got my answer. Well, good thing you are not in his shoes, because you would of regretted it. just saying. 

[Justakiss]

Ask him what it is that he is unsure about and go from there. It could be something like you're wishy washy and when ever you guys argue, you always leave or threaten to leave. Who wants to commit to a person like that?

Good point!

[parana]

[1st] I know guys are simple and little things goes a long way.. I'm ready for marriage and he keeps telling me he doesn't trust me enough to marry me. [2nd]We've been together for a LONG time and love eachother really much! [3rd]He loves me more than I love him - I don't take advantage of him, and we've been through our ups and downs (like every couple)! [4th]I trust him completely- he's honest and a great guy!

I'm just curious from the guy: What can a girl do to make you trust her? I know, dont go out clubbing, talking to other guys and don't lie..etc...but what else? Guys think differently and just curious if there were any "secrets" unknown to the ladies that makes a guy trust a lady.

If he keeps telling me to wait, then I want out, because I don't want to waste my time if we are not going to get hitch! Ya know what I mean?

Anything helps!

1.  Your mistakes as numbered above.
2. Why buy the cow when you get free milks?

[non dormis]

I've got my answer. Well, good thing you are not in his shoes, because you would of regretted it. just saying. 

na. you're just a girl. like the rest of billions of them out there. one door closes and another one opens up. no big deal. maybe that's why he feels like he doesn't have to commit you to completely.

[FXMiltownGuy]

U seem like a good girl. My brother is single if ur. Bf decides
To bail out