help me!

[nuk-su-kow]

i have a tough time trusting women. due to my past relationships, i now get suspicious easily and even the slightest hint of straying will put me in a jealous rage. i feel like i will be forever alone if i don't get passed my trust issues. i'm now 25 and i heard it gets tougher to find single women past that age. how do i get over the hurt and start to develop strong relationships for the long haul?

thank you.

[Lan Xang]

If you want serious convo about it PM me. I have helped and guided my sister in this department.

[lovergirl69]

If you want serious convo about it PM me. I have helped and guided my sister in this department.

wtf 

[nuk-su-kow]

If you want serious convo about it PM me. I have helped and guided my sister in this department.

you've got pm. no homo.

wtf 

what are your thoughts?

[Super User]

you will just have to remind yourself that the new person is a different person and there is a 50/50 chance that she will cheat on you. and if someone wants to cheat on you, there is nothing you can do to change/prevent it.

[nuk-su-kow]

you will just have to remind yourself that the new person is a different person and there is a 50/50 chance that she will cheat on you. and if someone wants to cheat on you, there is nothing you can do to change/prevent it.

that's true. it must be my bad luck then because i get cheated on a lot. hopefully, the next one is different.

[Super User]

every "no" brings you closer to a "yes". and by now, since you have so much experience, you should be able to spot when someone is cheating. cut it off and move on. 

[nuk-su-kow]

every "no" brings you closer to a "yes". and by now, since you have so much experience, you should be able to spot when someone is cheating. cut it off and move on. 

you would think that experience teaches you how to spot a cheater, but women are too good at lying. lol. 

[Super User]

lol... where are you meeting these women?

[primetime]

wtf 

I think 25 is your prime age to meet girls. Just go out and about and when you meet someone you like, just take it from there. If anything you could talk about this with that new gal and things should workout ok.

[nuk-su-kow]

lol... where are you meeting these women?

one through friends, another through relatives, and one was from online.  

I think 25 is your prime age to meet girls. Just go out and about and when you meet someone you like, just take it from there. If anything you could talk about this with that new gal and things should workout ok.

that's true. i need to logout of ph and go meet some new chicks.

[Super User]

it's too bad your friends and relatives aren't giving you better quality girls.

[Believe_N_Me]

According to Hmong courtship, single folks can court and be courted by multiple suitors. If you really like a girl and you are afraid that some other guy is interested then you need to marry her - that is the old-fashion way. 

[Jelicas]

I think in reality a lot of people are insecure, so in order to make their significant other not stray away, they hide the insecurities within themselves by doing other activities. Keeping yourself busy instead of wondering what the other person is doing all the time may help. If she really likes you, she'll work herself around your insecurities and make you feel more secure...but a person can only do that for so long, so it's really up to you to learn to put your trust in her. 

If you want serious convo about it PM me. I have helped and guided my sister in this department.

How well of a guide are you? Can I pm you too?

According to Hmong courtship, single folks can court and be courted by multiple suitors. If you really like a girl and you are afraid that some other guy is interested then you need to marry her - that is the old-fashion way. 

That's back in the days...it's 2012 now...lol. You don't want the risk of marrying her and then she ends up cheating on you, that's worst then cheating while dating.

[backfdead]

i have a tough time trusting women. due to my past relationships, i now get suspicious easily and even the slightest hint of straying will put me in a jealous rage. i feel like i will be forever alone if i don't get passed my trust issues. i'm now 25 and i heard it gets tougher to find single women past that age. how do i get over the hurt and start to develop strong relationships for the long haul?

thank you.

As far as age-wise, don't be pressured to settle down just because you are getting "old". I'm older than you man! I know plenty of single, smart, educated and attractive people around that age!

But I think it's natural to think the way you do because of your past relationships.  Everyone's experiences are different and it's sad that your experience has caused you to think the way you do... But finding a life partner is not an easy task. I know from experience that it can be hard to totally trust someone after you have been hurt so many times. But what you have to realize is that every person is not the same and you have to give the new ones chances to prove their loyalty to you. Whatever happened in the past try to leave it behind and just focus on what's happening right now. Most importantly, you need to work on you, and maybe it'll be healthy for you to not be in a relationship for a while so you can do that with a clear head.

But if you are in a relationship, be upfront about your past experiences so that she can understand where you're coming from.  This will probably help her be more patient with you until you are ready to trust her fully. But don't wait too long because you can't live your life holding in your feelings because you might be passing up someone special... all because of your insecurities.. . Don't let your horrid past experiences stop you from having a beautiful future.  Best of luck!