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How long do you talk with someone before....
« on: January 23, 2012, 01:55:01 PM »
meeting up with them....?

Let's say you've been talking with a girl/guy for over 3 months just emailing and chatting on the phone. You haven't met them yet but were introduced or got their info from a friend.

What is an appropriate time or how long do you wait to meet them?



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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #1 on: January 23, 2012, 02:17:06 PM »
3 months should be plenty of time. But it just really comes down to how comfortable you are with the other person too. Do you guys talk every day? Every other day? Every week? Once a month?



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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #2 on: January 23, 2012, 02:26:29 PM »
Yeah, just depends if both of you guys are comfy and honest with each other.



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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #3 on: January 23, 2012, 02:30:06 PM »
3 months should be plenty of time. But it just really comes down to how comfortable you are with the other person too. Do you guys talk every day? Every other day? Every week? Once a month?
More like an email a week.. if we're lucky... and talking on the weekends if she picks up her phone.



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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #4 on: January 23, 2012, 06:33:24 PM »
If it a local girl I'll tell her that I prefer to meet in person like a public area. A coffee shop or a place to grab a quick snack and talk will be good. So it'll be 1-2  weeks for me. Why because doing that she can't beat around the bush and you'll know if she the real deal or not. I'm the type who like to get the ball rolling and get busy with a chick if you know what I mean. ;D  8)


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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #5 on: January 25, 2012, 09:11:28 PM »
You should try to meet as soon as possible to see if there are sparks so that you don't keep wasting each other's time.

Note: I wouldn't give this same advice to non-Hmong people though. It's a totally different ball game there.


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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #6 on: January 25, 2012, 09:14:52 PM »
More like an email a week.. if we're lucky... and talking on the weekends if she picks up her phone.

Sounds like she's stringing you along, possibly because of her boredom or due to her first choice ignoring her....... making you the 'back-up'.  Have some dignity and self respect.  Move on.



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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #7 on: January 26, 2012, 02:24:02 AM »
Sounds like she's stringing you along, possibly because of her boredom or due to her first choice ignoring her....... making you the 'back-up'.  Have some dignity and self respect.  Move on.

Agree.



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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #8 on: January 26, 2012, 05:05:14 AM »
meeting up with them....?

Let's say you've been talking with a girl/guy for over 3 months just emailing and chatting on the phone. You haven't met them yet but were introduced or got their info from a friend.

What is an appropriate time or how long do you wait to meet them?


ASAP!  I see no point in waiting and procastinating, I need to make sure that I'm physically attracted to you as well.  But if  I was just talking to him as a friend and have no interest in that way than it doesn't matter if I ever meet him. They're just there as my phone buddy, when I'm drunk and have no one else to talk too!  ;D



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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #9 on: January 26, 2012, 03:29:15 PM »
More like an email a week.. if we're lucky... and talking on the weekends if she picks up her phone.

In that case, don't rush the meet. Emails and occasional phone conversations (only if you’re lucky to get a hold of her) is not enough time in my opinion. Give it a few months and see if contact time increases.

Sounds like she's stringing you along, possibly because of her boredom or due to her first choice ignoring her....... making you the 'back-up'.  Have some dignity and self respect.  Move on.

Sad but it almost seems true.



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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #10 on: January 26, 2012, 05:23:44 PM »
In that case, don't rush the meet. Emails and occasional phone conversations (only if you’re lucky to get a hold of her) is not enough time in my opinion. Give it a few months and see if contact time increases.

Sad but it almost seems true.
i noe girls talk with a lot of guys... a few months.... whewww....

how many guys is she talking with... =(

imma have to be the bad guy here and cut in line....



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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #11 on: January 26, 2012, 05:58:30 PM »
meeting up with them....?

Let's say you've been talking with a girl/guy for over 3 months just emailing and chatting on the phone. You haven't met them yet but were introduced or got their info from a friend.

What is an appropriate time or how long do you wait to meet them?
Do you live in the same town? If so 3 months is waaaaaaaaaay too long!

Now if you're long distance then it's understandable and depending if you want to be serious. If you are then make the move to visit her.



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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #12 on: January 27, 2012, 05:27:16 AM »
1.  What works for me is this. 

2.  You email or text them of your every move but include a simple line at the end "you wanna jon me?" 

ask then 10 times and 10 locations and they will have to say yes to one of them.  You will get a higher ratio out of this than asking 10 times for sex and get none. 



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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #13 on: January 27, 2012, 01:41:37 PM »
1.  What works for me is this. 

2.  You email or text them of your every move but include a simple line at the end "you wanna jon me?" 

ask then 10 times and 10 locations and they will have to say yes to one of them.  You will get a higher ratio out of this than asking 10 times for sex and get none. 

Or better yet a guy can ask 10 different girls to join him for a night out at least one of them will say yes.. He'll get faster results that way. ;D :-*



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Re: How long do you talk with someone before....
« Reply #14 on: January 30, 2012, 08:27:40 PM »
meeting up with them....?

Let's say you've been talking with a girl/guy for over 3 months just emailing and chatting on the phone. You haven't met them yet but were introduced or got their info from a friend.

What is an appropriate time or how long do you wait to meet them?

it's not by the day or days.  when you two are ready is the most appropriate.  seriously, are you kidding me?  another reason why there are sex and dating programs all over the cable television and internet.



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