True, some people are easily fool and are high maintenance. But to say or implying that all men are not who they are during courtship is wrong. There are men out there, geniune men who are who they are. Honest good men.
What I meant is that it would be naive and foolish to think that a man, after marrying him, isn't going to have other more pressing responsibiliti
es to attend to. It's like women who think they want to marry a prince or a man of great significance importance. Sure, it's nice to be the wife of Dr. So-and-So-or-Mister-Important-whatever. But along with that title comes some very important responsibiliti
es that interfere with the relationship, too. For example, he might not be around a lot for quality time because he has to go save the world or whatever. Even though he is your husband, there's a lot of people counting on him and it would be unfair for him to let them down on account of you (the wife). When he took on that role, he pretty much tied himself to be responsible for the people.