For the ladies...How should we split the bill?

[MSV]

Ladies….say a friend and you decided to do a double semi-blind date with two guys she somewhat knows.  All four of you guys meet up at a restaurant and are enjoying dinner together. Everyone’s talking and seem to be having a good time. Then when it comes time to pay, the guys say, “How should we split this bill?”. My question is, what would you think of it? Would you assume he was being cheap? Not interested? Rude? Nothing at all?

[MilesDaddy]

per couple, then between couples decide..... for example, If we had already said we were going some place for dessert or drinks, I would say that I'll do dinner if you pay for dessert.... In my case I will more then likely pay for dessert or drinks as well...It's not rocket science it's only a first date.... This way you and him feel less obligated or cheated if there is to be NO second date....

[luvlylisa]

Ladies….say a friend and you decided to do a double semi-blind date with two guys she somewhat knows.  All four of you guys meet up at a restaurant and are enjoying dinner together. Everyone’s talking and seem to be having a good time. Then when it comes time to pay, the guys say, “How should we split this bill?”. My question is, what would you think of it? Would you assume he was being cheap? Not interested? Rude? Nothing at all?

if it was a double date as you stated and ur friend did her "job" in clearly stating this to the guys then perhaps as Milesdaddy says by couple and then the couple decides.

however, if it wasn't clear from the beginning and the "date" seemed more like a group getting together to have dinner then everyone should just split it....pay for what u ate.

personally, i would always offer.  i have never been comfortable for others to pay for me--even a s/o.  

[primetime]

I feel weird when a girl pays unless she's taking me out for a reason like bday or what ever.

Like I tell the ladies, if a guy isn't willing to pay for everything at first, find one that is unless you're willing to be the sugar mama.

[AF-Wife]

Ladies….say a friend and you decided to do a double semi-blind date with two guys she somewhat knows.  All four of you guys meet up at a restaurant and are enjoying dinner together. Everyone’s talking and seem to be having a good time. Then when it comes time to pay, the guys say, “How should we split this bill?”. My question is, what would you think of it? Would you assume he was being cheap? Not interested? Rude? Nothing at all?

This would definitely put a bad impression on these guys.  First dates are always a little weird, especially blind dates, but I'm use to guys offering to pay first.

[Lan Xang]

Ladies….say a friend and you decided to do a double semi-blind date with two guys she somewhat knows.  All four of you guys meet up at a restaurant and are enjoying dinner together. Everyone’s talking and seem to be having a good time. Then when it comes time to pay, the guys say, “How should we split this bill?”. My question is, what would you think of it? Would you assume he was being cheap? Not interested? Rude? Nothing at all?

The two guys, are they good friends?

[LadyLionness]

I feel weird when a girl pays unless she's taking me out for a reason like bday or what ever.

Like I tell the ladies, if a guy isn't willing to pay for everything at first, find one that is unless you're willing to be the sugar mama.

I agree.  Even if I am making more than the guy, I still feel it's his role to pay for the meals.  I am old school.  A woman should be treated as a woman.  Equality comes into play in a marriage or a super committed relationship, but dating, the guy or guys out to pay.  In my circle of friends, before we even know it, someone have already sneak off and pay the whole bill.  I have done it myself a few times.

[luvlylisa]

Though I said that I'm used to paying and whatnot--I'm no suga mama that's forsure.

I'm not saying guys shouldn't pay either....agai n, I am a traditionalist too, however I think girls should at least offer to pay rather than assume or just expect a man to always pay. 

[Believe_N_Me]

In the case of double-dates, the bill should be evenly split among all participants. However, if it's a first time date for a couple then the guy should always offer to pay.

[MSV]

The two guys, are they good friends?

They sure are. Why? Were you one of them?

This would definitely put a bad impression on these guys.  First dates are always a little weird, especially blind dates, but I'm use to guys offering to pay first.

One of the ladies was my sister and I know she rarely let’s a guy pay for her when she’s out on a date with him. It doesn’t hurt for a guy to offer, does it?  I told my sister that maybe the guy wasn’t interested in her and she should throw a “NEXT” sign on him. Most men I know will pay without hesitation if he liked the lady.

Though I said that I'm used to paying and whatnot--I'm no suga mama that's forsure.

I'm not saying guys shouldn't pay either....agai n, I am a traditionalist too, however I think girls should at least offer to pay rather than assume or just expect a man to always pay. 

OMG. Someone tried to make me his sugamama once and I was like, “Oh hell no!” LOL.

Like you and a lot of the ladies here, I’m also traditional at heart. Of course I would be uncomfortable letting the boy take the bill but it’s worst when he doesn’t even offer. Would it seem more right if the lady offered to cover instead?

Thanks to everyone else for your replies. Keep them coming.

[LadyLionness]

Though I said that I'm used to paying and whatnot--I'm no suga mama that's forsure.

I'm not saying guys shouldn't pay either....agai n, I am a traditionalist too, however I think girls should at least offer to pay rather than assume or just expect a man to always pay. 

I do.  Unless we are a couple already, then it doesn't matter who pays... same for husband and wife... but purely dating.... he should pay.

[LadyLionness]

Ladies, if you don't value yourself, no one else will.

[Believe_N_Me]

Man, you gals are too nice. If I'm only dating the guy I will never pay.

[Sweet_Tears]

At first attempt, I would try to pay for the bill myself. There are times when I would go pay it w/o them noticing or knowing it. I'm not selfish or fight to see who's going to pay for what. If I have the $$ then I would pay for it unless I am broke. But I only do it a few times.. after a few times.. that's IT! No more freebies.

[non dormis]

i usually have all the girls pay for me all the time cause i think its a good test if they really want to be with me.