Have you ever... ?

[Jelicas]

seems like the thing here is that often times women sercretly hate other women and they feel threaten by them. this may well be one of those cases

Agreed! 

[parana]

But I'm married too... We're all couples hanging out with each other.

lets swing shall we  !

[Mr.New]

... had an awkward moment where your girlfriend thought you liked her husband?     ... And, you do.  But you're not in love with their husbands, you just like and respect them as individuals?

DO YOU FLIRT WITH HER HUSBAND OR MAYBE TALK TO HIM IN A LITTLE DIFFERENT WAY N THATS MAKING HER THINK YOU LIKED HER MAN

[lilly]

lets swing shall we  !

Good idea!   

[lilly]

DO YOU FLIRT WITH HER HUSBAND OR MAYBE TALK TO HIM IN A LITTLE DIFFERENT WAY N THATS MAKING HER THINK YOU LIKED HER MAN

No.  I don't flirt with her husband, I try to avoid him cuz I know how she feels.  But in the beginning she did kind of hint to me that her husband liked me.  Maybe that's why she has inner insecurities about him and I.  I have my own husband and we're all friends... I wish she didn't feel that way.

Additional things I forgot to add:
I also think she feels that way because her husband is the one that treats "me" different.  He has a fondness for me but he doesn't overly extend himself either.  I'd say he's pretty chill and treats me with respect with a bit of sugar on top sometimes (keyword here: sometimes).  Nothing excessive at all.  


I totally respect their marriage and would never do anything to encourage anything weird to happen.  There is a deep respect on all sides.  But sometimes it gets uncomfortable when my friend spots her husband sugar coating his interactions with me (even though I remain indifferent to him the whole time)...

Then there was this other friend whom I am no longer as close to.  She used to make out-of-the-blue comments to me when her and I were alone “there are lots of girls that like my husband…” suggesting that I liked her husband.  OK, he was a pretty handsome guy.  I think “all” girls liked him.  But to say that to me on more than one occasion and when it was just her and I… I knew she was trying to get some kind of response from me.  All I said to her was, “Oh?” then she changed the subject and carried on talking about something else totally different.

[non dormis]

again, why are you hanging out with them? seems like it's a stage for being potential home wrecker status. probably best just to avoid them.

[lilly]

naw, it's not anything close to home wrecking.  we've all been friends for a long time.  we all have respect for each other.  every blue moon when there's a moment of subtle awkwardness we all just brush it off.  i guess, i just wish there weren't even those blue moons.  not gonna stop hanging out with each other (been friends for so long and care about each other) just because of that.  this could be taken out of context but really, it's not a big deal.  i don't think any of us want to lose our friendship to one another.  my friend just needs to work out her insecurity issues.  i think a lot of it is because she's still holding on to the thinking that her husband likes me (even though he may not even feel that way anymore and his feelings for me are pure respect)... and so, any little time he even utters a word to me, she's automatically tuning in and watching closely (even though she may not feel extreme threat).  you know?  ... anyhow, i'm not sure if people understand what i am saying at all.

take for example:
one time my cousin's husband was talking too much to me and he and i were having a good, normal, adult conversation with no underlying "i like you that way, you like me that way' stuff... and, yet, my aunt (cousin's mom) gave me the stank eye.  i got the message... my aunt was insecure for her daughter even though my cousin was totally cool with it (she even laughed with her hubs and i when we cracked jokes).  but because my aunt was insecure, i respected that and i toned it down... stopped talking to my cousin's husband almost altogether... you know, to show respect to my aunt and cousin... but i'm not gonna stop hanging out with my cousin and her family just because of my aunt's insecurity.  we love and care about each other.  i have the power to control things and not let them escalate out of hand and help alleviate some of people's insecurities; it is out of my control how others feel--their emotions are all in their hands.    

[primetime]

I make my comments to the ppl if I think they match and are good for each other and if they're not. I don't recall anyone ever accusing me of going after someones married s/o though.

[lilly]

I make my comments to the ppl if I think they match and are good for each other and if they're not. I don't recall anyone ever accusing me of going after someones married s/o though.

huh?  i'm sorry, no disrespect, but could you kindly rephrase your first sentence, please?  thank you.

[1luv]

1.  You can stop the liking before it happens.  Sure that he is handsome so try not to look at him.  Sure his wife has curves and big boobs so try to force yourself from not looking at them. 

2.  The eyes, they can get you into trouble. 

[lilly]

1.  You can stop the liking before it happens.  Sure that he is handsome so try not to look at him.  Sure his wife has curves and big boobs so try to force yourself from not looking at them. 

2.  The eyes, they can get you into trouble. 

I dunno, but whatever you wrote up there got me    Hahaha!   

[1luv]

I dunno, but whatever you wrote up there got me    Hahaha!  

1.  Remember what I said in the above.  When someone is not looking at you, it means you are a sexy beast and they are refraining from looking at you with their sinful eyes.  

1.  Them eyes are the window to lusting.