Where can I find other Singles with Careers?

[jon_jon]

Unfortunately, singles with careers tend to be too Americanized and closed-off to the idea of calling referrals by friends and family. The guys think it's too much of a desperate move and the girls suddenly think the guy must be some FOBBY mofo to even consider.  They need to find their Hmong roots and be accepting of this traditional way of courtship. At least just to jumpstart things. 

Not too long ago, there was a really attractive French-Hmong guy who came to work and live in the states. His real purpose was to also find a wife. He was highly educated and definitely husband-material but his problem was like y'all stated, he didn't know where to find the girls. He called a few referrals but they just treated him like crap without ever having met him. Perhaps this is why the men are resorting to divorcees or oversea girls. They're just easier to approach and aren't as judgmental.

Just saying, don't hate.

I've tried the referrals already and the girls are sooo stuck-up.....

like who and who gave you my number? how'd you get my name and address? And I'm not even trying to hook up with them yet, they're already giving me this uptight attitude.

Why do girls get sooo offensive when a guy calls them up and tries to talk with them. They become incredible hulk and layeth the smacketh down on a poor unsuspected guy who was only trying to look for his soul-mate......

[couchpotato]

I've tried the referrals already and the girls are sooo stuck-up.....

like who and who gave you my number? how'd you get my name and address? And I'm not even trying to hook up with them yet, they're already giving me this uptight attitude.

Why do girls get sooo offensive when a guy calls them up and tries to talk with them. They become incredible hulk and layeth the smacketh down on a poor unsuspected guy who was only trying to look for his soul-mate......

 

[FXMiltownGuy]

Bubba I know a few guys who are available. PM me and
I can introduce u to them.

[C@$H]

This is a serious question, no jokes!

The older I get the more I wonder where all the other single Hmong (esp guys, i'm a woman) people are.  I'm assuming, they're like me?!  You go where you're career takes you and then you lose touch with Hmong people (besides your family/close relatives).  Other than getting set up by relatives (you know how that goes), where are all the other single Hmong people with careers?!  We need to start a legit group for anyone over 27.

If one wants to get hitched they have to present themselves.  You can start here in PH, it is a perfect social network, for trial.  btw, if one is looking for a love relationship, do not set limits...howev er if you are looking for a business partner...be as picky as you want to be (e.i. single hmong people with careers).

[AOZ]

pab nej tusiab kawg.  finding a life partner this day and age is so hard for ya'll.  there are so much social and communication barriers between u all.  then due to your age, you all are so set in your ways that your standards are too high that no candidate out there will be able to meet them.

most of yall lack the ability to initiate or start conversation with each other.  seen this too many times and it's just sad... because u missed so many oppurtunities. 

you all need to lower your standards and get to know each other... then and only then.. you'll be able to find a mate.

[hubba-hubba]

I've tried the referrals already and the girls are sooo stuck-up.....

like who and who gave you my number? how'd you get my name and address? And I'm not even trying to hook up with them yet, they're already giving me this uptight attitude.

Why do girls get sooo offensive when a guy calls them up and tries to talk with them. They become incredible hulk and layeth the smacketh down on a poor unsuspected guy who was only trying to look for his soul-mate......

That sucks!  I'm sorry that happened to you.  I think it's great that you take the initiative, at least you're trying. 

[hubba-hubba]

Unfortunately, singles with careers tend to be too Americanized and closed-off to the idea of calling referrals by friends and family. The guys think it's too much of a desperate move and the girls suddenly think the guy must be some FOBBY mofo to even consider.  They need to find their Hmong roots and be accepting of this traditional way of courtship. At least just to jumpstart things.  [/b]

Not too long ago, there was a really attractive French-Hmong guy who came to work and live in the states. His real purpose was to also find a wife. He was highly educated and definitely husband-material but his problem was like y'all stated, he didn't know where to find the girls. He called a few referrals but they just treated him like crap without ever having met him. Perhaps this is why the men are resorting to divorcees or oversea girls. They're just easier to approach and aren't as judgmental.

Just saying, don't hate.

Yeah, I've been guilty of that in the past but I've turned over a new leaf!  In my defense, I swore I was never going to get married or have kids because everyone living that life seemed miserable but I've grown to appreciate that lifestyle.  Another really important thing you brought up that I agree with is finding and understanding your Hmong roots; I'm all for a traditional courtship.

I appreciate the suggestions - do a better job of networking specifically with Hmong people, take my relatives up on their referrals, and move closer to Hmong people.  Let's hope it's that easy!

[jon_jon]

That sucks!  I'm sorry that happened to you.  I think it's great that you take the initiative, at least you're trying.  

i'm always the one getting the beat down for some reason. as if women need to lash out their anger on men... US women in particular have such high egos these days. It doesn't really help that US women want such equality but yet treat us men like we're not good enough for them? heck no... they're not good enough for us. okk.. nvms.

trying is the best i can do. but if you want to find Singles with Careers, network through family, friends, school, and work. If all else doesn't work.... you have hmong new years to go to and visit thailand, laos, france, australia, south america, canada, hawaii, and china...

Listen to Yoda... there is no try only do or do not! the rest will follow.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BQ4yd2W50No&feature=related

You must have the faith of a mustard seed and those mountains would move and we'd be together.

[AOZ]

Yeah, I've been guilty of that in the past but I've turned over a new leaf!  In my defense, I swore I was never going to get married or have kids because everyone living that life seemed miserable but I've grown to appreciate that lifestyle.  Another really important thing you brought up that I agree with is finding and understanding your Hmong roots; I'm all for a traditional courtship.

I appreciate the suggestions - do a better job of networking specifically with Hmong people, take my relatives up on their referrals, and move closer to Hmong people.  Let's hope it's that easy!

at your age... your biological clock is ticking.  i hope u find someone to settle with. 

[hubba-hubba]

at your age... your biological clock is ticking.  i hope u find someone to settle with. 

How encouraging, thank you.

[AOZ]

How encouraging, thank you.

that's the sad reality of being a woman.  u are only so beautiful for so long and after a certain age.. ur beauti will fade and your chances of landing a life mate will cease to exist if you let other things become your priority. 

thaum koj zoo zoo nkauj... young.. and lovely... leejtwg los ntshaws koj... even if you have no degree or career.  but when koj muaj 30 xyoo with masters degree and great paying job.. but koj tsi zoo nkauj as when you were younger... cov ntshaws koj mas muaj tsawg... because you have experienced so much in life already and you are too set in your own ways that makes it hard for others to come into your life or share your life with you.

and as it gets harder to land a mate... u have less and less chance of reproducing as u get older... so men are turned off by that too. 

[i am hmong]

Im a single guy, 27 with a career my own home and car
But i choose to be single because i enjoy being able to do what i want when i want
i will admit i feel like a 3rd wheel somtimes going out with friends who have husband or wife but oh wells nothing to hold me back from whatever i want to do.

[Hung_Low]

Im a single guy, 27 with a career my own home and car
But i choose to be single because i enjoy being able to do what i want when i want
i will admit i feel like a 3rd wheel somtimes going out with friends who have husband or wife but oh wells nothing to hold me back from whatever i want to do.

it gets lonely sleeping at night not being able to cuddle up to a love mate, ain't it?

[tsiehta_goy_vuk]

This is a serious question, no jokes!

The older I get the more I wonder where all the other single Hmong (esp guys, i'm a woman) people are.  I'm assuming, they're like me?!  You go where you're career takes you and then you lose touch with Hmong people (besides your family/close relatives).  Other than getting set up by relatives (you know how that goes), where are all the other single Hmong people with careers?!  We need to start a legit group for anyone over 27.

Hmong New Year.  It is kinda old tradition but it is where all the more matured singles go to find new friends.   I will look for you next year.   

[tsiehta_goy_vuk]

Unfortunately, singles with careers tend to be too Americanized and closed-off to the idea of calling referrals by friends and family. The guys think it's too much of a desperate move and the girls suddenly think the guy must be some FOBBY mofo to even consider.  They need to find their Hmong roots and be accepting of this traditional way of courtship. At least just to jumpstart things. 

Not too long ago, there was a really attractive French-Hmong guy who came to work and live in the states. His real purpose was to also find a wife. He was highly educated and definitely husband-material but his problem was like y'all stated, he didn't know where to find the girls. He called a few referrals but they just treated him like crap without ever having met him. Perhaps this is why the men are resorting to divorcees or oversea girls. They're just easier to approach and aren't as judgmental.

Just saying, don't hate.

I knew a few guys who are in their late 20s and early 30s who are good educated with career guys that are thinking bout going to Laos because, they are having hard time finding girls that are matured and single and age appropriate like in their 20s.  Very hard to do.