Does 21+, dating for a couple years, get prego = Marriage?

[primetime]

Or do you just have the baby and go with the flow?

[Sentinel_Li]

Or it could mean 18 years of child support.

[Lan Xang]

You are not obligated to marry the mother of your child, but then again when you are going the distant with her I would assume that it is love? If not, have an agreement outside of the law and do your duties as a father and take care of the child with the mom.

[primetime]

I see how guys feel. Waiting for the ladies to answer now.

[couchpotato]

If placed in that sort of situation and he did not offer marriage, a woman should leave.

You have already spent years together. He should know by now whether he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.

Having said that, if a woman feels he is asking out of obligation and not love, she should not say yes. I'm all for children growing up in a two parent home but not at the cost of them possibly losing their happiness.

[hmoobdaj]

If placed in that sort of situation and he did not offer marriage, a woman should leave.

You have already spent years together. He should know by now whether he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.

Having said that, if a woman feels he is asking out of obligation and not love, she should not say yes. I'm all for children growing up in a two parent home but not at the cost of them possibly losing their happiness.

agree

[Believe_N_Me]

Getting married for the baby is a GREAT reason. Grow up, folks! IF you think you aren't going to be happy, well start getting happy because you brought a child into the world. That baby deserves to grow up in a two-parent household so set your selfish, personal reasons aside. It ain't about you no more!

[jon_jon]

Or do you just have the baby and go with the flow?

People like that make me sick.

Cohabitation should be out-lawed and if people are caught in adultery they should be FLOGGED like in middle eastern countries.

Teens and even young adults these days who live together before marriage, already makes marriage look like an institution rather than a ceremonious blessing.

[AF-Wife]

That would be the "politically correct" choice but than I see too many people who do get married because the girl got pregnant and ended up being in a miserable marriage or ended up getting a divorce.  Pregnancy shouldn't automatically make you want to get married and you can still be two great parents without being married.  If anything, the new parents need to individually grow and mature to raise this baby.   

[1luv]

1.  If you  have no answer to your questioning then my advice for you is never have sex with the one you are not intending to marry.  In other words, try not to bump uglies.  

[Believe_N_Me]

That would be the "politically correct" choice but than I see too many people who do get married because the girl got pregnant and ended up being in a miserable marriage or ended up getting a divorce.  Pregnancy shouldn't automatically make you want to get married and you can still be two great parents without being married.  If anything, the new parents need to individually grow and mature to raise this baby.   

Please refer to this:

1.  If you  have no answer to your questioning then my advice for you is never have sex with the one you are not intending to marry.  In other words, try not to bump uglies. 

The problem in the world is that ANYBODY can have sex.

[AF-Wife]

Abstinence is the best policy but this isn't a perfect picture world.  Back to the original question, pregnancy shouldn't constitute a marriage.  The couple should get married when both are ready and mature enough to do so.  Just because you're married doesn't mean you'll be good parents. 

[1luv]

Please refer to this:

The problem in the world is that ANYBODY can have sex.

1.  The problem is that we tend to make bad choices.  To have sex or not is still a choice.  American culture tends to knock all of our senses out the door on weekends so stuff tends to happen on weekends. 

[1luv]

Abstinence is the best policy but this isn't a perfect picture world.  Back to the original question, pregnancy shouldn't constitute a marriage.  The couple should get married when both are ready and mature enough to do so.  Just because you're married doesn't mean you'll be good parents.  

1.  Marriage is a union for life but most folks get marry under those conditions like opps, we have a baby, tend not to think of marriage as a full term life commitment.  

2.  Getting marry for the sake of a condition is wrong.  Getting marry with the acceptance that you will accept the torture of everything, for life is better.  Well at least one needs to be mentally ready to get marry.  

3.  If getting marry like buying a car, most of us would have failed.  No one I know has their first car until death do their part in old ages. 

[Believe_N_Me]

Divorces happen because of SELFISHNESS, plain and simple. Sometimes it's because both people are selfish. Other times it's because one of them was selfish first. Either way, SELFISHNESS is the common denominator. But when you make a baby, give it a chance at least. Otherwise, close the legs and keep the diick in the pants. Don't have sex with someone you don't think you can marry, period.