Signs of depression?

[Evil_K_Man]

he needs to get laid..!

Lol...I'm not sure if he'll feel insulted if thats the only advice I could give him.

[Deevil]

Everyone has different situations and reacts differently to the given situations they are faced with but from experience, he might just need someone to talk to (in a comfortable atmosphere). One tends to withdraw him/herself from others when it seems there is no hope. Maybe he's feeling hopeless one or more parts of his life.

[lifemystery]

he needs to get laid..!

That's what my friends always tell each other when it develops into these kind of situation.

[Sweet_Tears]

So I have a friend who I think is suffering from depression...

Things I've noticed over the past month:

- Hes always tired. Everytime we ask him to go do something with us his answer is "I'm tired"
- Hes been forgetful.  I remember he forgot who Bill Gate was...seriousl y...Bill Gates, who forgets that guy
- He seems withdrawn.  He doesn't join us for poker night anymore and even when we do it at his place (technically his roommate's house), he just stays in his room now, saying...you've guessed it...hes "tired" or sick
- Today, we had a superbowl party and I noticed he didn't greet anybody, he just came out occassionally to watch the game and after the game he just stayed in his room...he said he was working, but not sure because no one checked
- After the game he left the after party and went to the gym by himself and came back when everybody left

So should I be concerned?  Should I wait it out? I know he got promoted recently in his new job, so I'm not sure if its stress, he doesn't sound stress when he talks to us. I'm just concern because hes almost like a completely different person.  So far everybody's too weirded out to talk to him.  Should I ask him if hes depressed?  I've known him for like 5+yrs...but I guess not as personal as I would like.

So what should I do?

he's probably not depress.. he probably has a lot in his mind or on his plate. Could be something that he is constantly worrying about. Depression is different. People who is depressed cry pretty much instantly, do not like to join crowd, do not go any where, and will not talk to anyone.

[Evil_K_Man]

Alright, i'll probably just poke my head in and ask if he wants to talk and hopefully he will.  If not, i'll just watch his behavior over the next few week and look up a shrink for him if I have to.

[non dormis]

yep. the best option is to ask him. sometimes people just need someone to talk to whereas others are  clinically depressed and need medical attention. i've live with someone like that for years. depression should not be taken lightly.

[tetrapod]

he's probably not depress.. he probably has a lot in his mind or on his plate. Could be something that he is constantly worrying about. Depression is different. People who is depressed cry pretty much instantly, do not like to join crowd, do not go any where, and will not talk to anyone.

many people don't show any sign.  you only learn about it after they committed suicide and left notes.

[boO]

many people don't show any sign.  you only learn about it after they committed suicide and left notes.

 

Some  people who are depress can be some of the world best actor/actress of pretending that everything is okay.

[boO]

Evil K Man

If I was in your situation, this is what I'll do.

I will start spending time with him. Doesn't matter if we do not do anything. But the aim is to be presently be there with and for him. Sooner or later he will eventually open up and that is your cue to listen and recommend professional help (if need be) whilst supporting him through the whole process.

Talking  is good but sometimes action and being there with someone speaks louder.

'I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel'. Maya Angelou

[Evil_K_Man]

Thanks for the advice, I'll see what I can do.  I guess people should take depression seriously.  I never thought about it that way until my coworker told me how her brother took his own life...

[tetrapod]

Thanks for the advice, I'll see what I can do.  I guess people should take depression seriously.  I never thought about it that way until my coworker told me how her brother took his own life...

I have known two people who take their lives.  One seemed lonely but I never thought he would commit suicide.  The other showed no sign until after his death that we learned of his problems.  I just watched Cry for Help by Frontline.  Every week 28 high school children will commit suicide.  Most of these kids show no symptoms.  One of the person in the documentary is straight A student who was good at everything but always wanted to commit suicide because her life became unbearable.  She checked herself into the wards and today she's helping those who are suffering from mental illness. 

[8v10un30sun]

Thanks for the advice, I'll see what I can do.  I guess people should take depression seriously.  I never thought about it that way until my coworker told me how her brother took his own life...

All I can say is BE THERE FOR HIM.  Not much you can do beyond that.

[moonangel]

Sounds like me sometimes. 

I think just talk to him and ask if everything is okay.  Plus, I don't think he'll be happy to hear you tell him you think he's depressed.  He might get defensive.

[LadyThao]

well, the next time he makes an excuse not to go out, just poke a little fun at him about being tired then after that, ask him what's really bothering him. sometimes, just asking what's wrong makes a little difference.

[No regret]

Sounds like like both, but more stress and depress.