Tell your husband to never support these idiots to bring their wives/fiancee's over here, unless it's really for a good reason. The reasons you mentioned are fukk up and wrong reasons, let them deal with it themselves.
It gets very out of control for these married men to get involved with girls from over there. It's no different to getting involved with drugs...girls over there are young/pretty and will treat them very very nice especially over the phone. what 40 or 50 or even 60 year old guys can refuse that?
Truth is most of the girls there don't even like these married old man, they just sucked it up for a better life and to get money. From what i've heard personally from some girls over there, these old farts over here sends them a lot of money, not 40 or 50 bucks but a couple of hundreds at a time becus these old farts what to impress the girls and don't want them disappointed.. .I guess we can also conclude they are desperate for these younger girls. 95% of these girls from over there will never see that kind of money in a whole year. Folks living in vientaine and working 9 to 5 decent paying jobs only earn up to hundred bucks in a month.
If you support a person's wrong doing then you're not much better than them.
All,
I don’t mean to be unsympathetic to your cause and I would be lying if I say I have not heard of these problems before…
But this is much more than a “Laos” issue; this is a universal issue with cheating husbands and wives. To say Laos is to be blamed for everything would be wrong and untrue. If your husband or your wife is going to cheat… he or she will cheat on you, no matter which country or economic situation they are in. Bad people will do bad things. To drive down a point, it’s like blaming guns for killing people. NO, guns don’t kill people, people kill people. Yes, it is true that guns make it much easier to kill, but the point is people will do what they want to do.
If these people are willing to cheat on you if they vacation in Laos or Thailand, what makes you think they have NOT cheated on you here? What’s going to stop them from cheating altogether? My guess is that prior to going to Laos or Thailand, he/she already has it in his or her mind to do these things.
I see Laos for what it is; a place where I was born and where my parents grew up. I see Laos as a country with a rich and beautiful culture, as with many southeast asian countries; I see rice patties, hiking trails, street markets, street vendors, forgotten relatives, dirt roads and breath taking hillsides.
I have always been a half-glass full type of person… and to generalize Laos in such a negative view would be a dishonor to yourself. You would have missed out on too much beauty and culture.
With this said, can everyone please stay on track. This thread is really for those who are interested in going to Laos for cultural and historical purposes… to enjoy the land, it’s culture, to reconnect with forgotten relatives, see what it means when people say “that’s how we used to live” and nothing more. Again, please contribute but please stay on track.
Thank you,
LHG