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yuknowthat

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Bowing down
« on: September 07, 2012, 04:35:39 PM »
yog tias nej yuav luag ib tug nkauj nyab, nej puas pes?
as in respect "pom niam, pom txiv, pom neej pom nus?"


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Re: Bowing down
« Reply #1 on: October 24, 2012, 08:21:44 PM »
I don't know if they even still do that. I know back in the days, they did and when the bride has a big family, the vauv had to pes for an extensively long time. Not sure about now. It could also be different from the moob dlaws and moob leeg too.



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« Reply #2 on: October 24, 2012, 10:40:20 PM »
I am curious, what if the husband to be is not Hmong? 



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« Reply #3 on: October 24, 2012, 10:44:25 PM »
I would think he is required to do the same. prepare the knee pads.  O0 lol..



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« Reply #4 on: October 30, 2012, 07:56:59 AM »
I would think he is required to do the same. prepare the knee pads.  O0 lol..
thau ib ntus no kuv mob mob hauv caug le...can i be excuse due to health conditions like gout?  ::)  >:D :2funny:



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Re: Bowing down
« Reply #5 on: November 01, 2012, 04:12:18 AM »
People still do it but I think I posted with someone who said that because they are christian so they don't do it? We are christian and we still do it. It's a part of the hmong culture and it's out of respect for the parents. I think I would be kinda mad if a guy refused to bow down to my parents. LOL
kuv confused lawm os...oh yo...ib pliag peb ib pliag hos tsis peb vim coj kev ntseeg chiab lawm...

txhob worry mas...parents these days tsis paub tu siab if the groom not pe... ;D



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yuknowthat

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« Reply #6 on: November 01, 2012, 04:11:27 PM »

Oh, I fogot.. it was you that told me that christian people tsis pe! :knuppel2: :knuppel2: :knuppel2: :idiot2:
huh are u sure? sorry wrong guy



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« Reply #7 on: November 02, 2012, 09:46:40 AM »

I'll have to go pull that thread. :2funny:
what thread? from my sweater?



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« Reply #8 on: January 13, 2013, 10:11:05 PM »
thau ib ntus no kuv mob mob hauv caug le...can i be excuse due to health conditions like gout?  ::)  >:D :2funny:

Koj tseem qhia lawm thiab ces lawv hajyam hais kom koj pe ntxiv xwb os. ;D



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« Reply #9 on: February 17, 2013, 11:23:26 PM »
It's not really about respect. It's more about making the new son-in-law suffer before he is part of the family. Same goes to the drinking part.



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« Reply #10 on: April 25, 2013, 09:49:28 AM »
Koj tseem qhia lawm thiab ces lawv hajyam hais kom koj pe ntxiv xwb os. ;D
:2funny: ces mam makes kiag another excuse ntxiv because i don't want to drink "thov txim kuv cog lus rau kuv txiv kuv tsis haus cawv lawm"



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Re: Bowing down
« Reply #11 on: August 07, 2013, 10:02:13 PM »
yog tias nej yuav luag ib tug nkauj nyab, nej puas pes?
as in respect "pom niam, pom txiv, pom neej pom nus?"


Not only you pe your in-laws, you pe your parents and dab qhuas too.



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Re: Bowing down
« Reply #12 on: August 08, 2013, 04:46:45 PM »
It's not really about respect. It's more about making the new son-in-law suffer before he is part of the family. Same goes to the drinking part.

There was a tiny group of Hmong in Laos that often did that to their sons-in-law-to-be. Each time their daughters married someone, they'd require so much whiskey to be poured onto the sons-in-law that later such SILs would never be able to live a good life again. The idea was both to torture and to prevent life competition from the daughter's new family.



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Re: Bowing down
« Reply #13 on: August 08, 2013, 04:49:40 PM »
yog tias nej yuav luag ib tug nkauj nyab, nej puas pes?
as in respect "pom niam, pom txiv, pom neej pom nus?"


Many times the kow towing isn't to show respect but to show submission to the bride's relatives and groom's relatives who are helping him get married. It becomes a torture when the in-laws require more and more whiskey or more and more kow towing on expanded relatives. Mine was a terrible one, which is partly why I've never been able to get over it. My best man and I were ordered to pe all of her relatives from all of the world, including not just those in the states but also those in Laos, Thailand, France, and China, too. They didn't even appear at the wedding. I'm afraid to marry a Hmong girl again. But maybe a Christian girl might be ok.



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Re: Bowing down
« Reply #14 on: September 25, 2013, 11:28:08 AM »
I am curious, what if the husband to be is not Hmong? 

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